The writers and editors of The Stranger have a book out called How To Be A Person: The Stranger’s Guide to College, Sex, Intoxicants, Tacos, and Life Itself and coming out of the closet is one of the many subjects they cover. In promotion of the book, the’ve release a little video sharing a suggestion on how to come out and tell someone you’re gay. The book has tons of info on things that everyone else “forgot” to tell you, including:
“How to have a conversation, how to turn a crush into something more, everything there is to know about physics (in a single paragraph!), what the music you like says about you, spoiler alerts for big novels so you can flirt with English majors as if you’ve already read them, how to come out (should you happen to be gay), how to deal with a hangover, how to binge drink and not die, how to do laundry, how to do drugs (and which ones you should never do), sexual positions you should try, how to write a great sentence, and a state-by-state guide to the U.S. of A. It’s all here, along with Dan Savage‘s very best advice about sex and love.”
The cute video below shows how to come out in a very simplistic way. Hopefully it helps someone get both feet out the door!
With the summer upon us, gays everywhere begin to think of one thing… well two things: (1) Looking good in the least amount of clothing possible and (2) PRIDE! Gay pride really is a second Christmas for homos and their straight/bi-curious friends, a Christmas laden with Speedos, binge drinking, camaraderie and making out with complete strangers from out of town. For those living in the Northwest, our summers are dominated by Pride events, with Portland, Seattle, and Vancouver, BC Prides all occurring in succession. Pride is a mini-vacation, with the majority of us taking three-day weekends (or calling in sick on Monday) and driving short distances to break from our normal lives.
What once started with a march through the city, has now become a three-day event, filled with house parties, pool parties, BBQ’s and get-togethers. All ending in a huge block party. For those that have never been to a pride, the block party is truly something interesting. Within this one city-block, the sidewalks are lined with makeshift bars, grills cooking the usual summer BBQ fare for those who dare to be seen eating at a gay event, and a stage with rainbows everywhere. Gracing the stage with their presence are numerous foul-mouthed drag queens, muscular porn stars, twinky go-go dancers and D-list entertainers, usually some one-hit-wonder from the late eighties/early nineties or an American Idol runner up. Most importantly though, the block party is filled with every ‘mo and mary in a 20 mile radius. It is a literal “who’s who” of the gay community, or a “who’s that” depending on the city. Although it may look like a harmless shirtless boy-party, the debauchery that can occur rivals that of Spring Break on Girls Gone Wild. I have seen the ads: I know straight people are no better. But I digress. The point is all of these homos gather for one purpose: to dance and drink from 11am ’till 2am.
A man named Josh Weed recently posted on his blog that he was gay, mormon and married to a woman. The blog post (which was posted on the 10 year anniversary of his marriage) went viral and has sparked a lot of discussion around the situation and most recently, an interview with Nightline which I have included below. Here’s what he had said in his blog:
“Some might assume that because I’m married to a woman, I must be bisexual. This would be true if sexual orientation was defined by sexual experience. Heck, if sexual orientation were defined by sexual experience, I would be as straight as the day is long even though I’ve never been turned on by a Victoria’s Secret commercial in my entire life. Sexual orientation is defined by attraction, not by experience. In my case, I am attracted sexually to men. Period. Yet my marriage is wonderful, and Lolly and I have an extremely healthy and robust sex life. How can this be?”
In the interview, one Mormon says that the Weeds have set a bad example. “Using religion or spirituality as a way to manage your sexual orientation, you know, by being extra righteous or extra faithful as a way to sort of suppress those feelings or control yourself is the most damaging way to cope or deal with your same sex attraction. It’s a very interesting situation and interview and I recommend checking it out below and sharing your thoughts on this in the comments.
In honor of Mother’s Day, some of the Homorazzi cast has decided to proclaim their love to their respective mothers on the website. We hope you enjoy the read.
I love my Mom, and just recently we’ve developed a relationship of being less Mother/Son and more friends who can share a good laugh and story over a drink or two. While growing up, I never thought that I would come to a place where I actually WANTED to hang out with my parents, but that day came knocking on my door a few years back after I invited them to my 23rd birthday party and they actually showed!
It dawned on my that my Mom is a pretty rad woman who cares a lot about her family and who’s sole goal in life is to make sure her children and grandchildren have everything in the world they could possibly want, even before her own needs. For this, I take my hat off to her, and say I love you with all my heart.
She hasn’t had the easiest life, but I would like to think that the few beers we shared in sun are well remembered and will keep her smiling!
Thanks for everything Momma, I love you!
Gay or Straight, if you’re new to the gay community, you might come across a few phrases or labels that you don’t have a clue what they mean. For the gays, that lack of understanding might land you in an interesting situation… such as showing up at a guy’s house for the first time expecting to go play water polo and finding out that “water sports” is something else entirely.
To avoid these awkward situations, here’s my take on a few of the labels and pieces of information you should be aware of- without venturing into the XXX realm of course, this isn’t xtube after all! I’ve added a few I’ve recently learned, as well as some coined by our very own Homorazzi cast members… and remember, we’re defining stereotypes here, so the descriptions are going to be extremely stereotypical in nature.
Spring is here and so is the god damn rain if you live anywhere near the bulk of us razzi’ writers up here in the Great Northwest. BUT, with great rainfall comes great fun as the sun will soon poke its head out of the cumulus’ and shine on the greatest (IMO) gay sports league in Vancouver: Out For Kicks, YVR’s gay/lesbian/bi/straight soccer organization. Though it’s a particularly close group to me: introduced to it by Topher and where I first met my best friend and site owner Patrick, I still am level-headed enough to declare this an amazing opportunity to active guys and girls around Greater Vancouver who want to meet new people and get physical in a fun, social environment.
I’ll attach the details of the league below and the upcoming registration for new members, but first I had to explain that this org is for both those new and terrible to the sport or long-standing pros as all skill levels are mixed and the only goal is to be fit and have a total blast. Still, for those with a competitive edge- like me- there’s an appreciation for hard work and talent.
This year will be focusing on social events to bond the league of possibly up to 200 members this time around and is going to be a blast. One of the best perks of this league is the tournaments we have with the sexy and talented gay soccer leagues in both Seattle and Portland. Further, this past year we submitted two teams to the Gay Games hosted here in Van that we actually performed pretty damn well at! Hell, through these leagues I got to attend the internationals in Copenhagen where we won the whole damn thing. So, what are you waiting for, a written invitation? Well, here it is!
Obviously, the sane answer is a “HELL NO“, but try telling that to a government official in Peru. Jose Benitez, the mayor of Huarmey, claims that the drinking water in his town could result in an increase in homosexuals. He claims the high levels of strontium found in the water is to blame. According to him, “strontium reduces male hormones“. How hilarious is that?
What’s he basing his “scientific” findings on? Easy, he’s looking to a neighboring town to backup his claims. Huarmey’s tap water comes from Tabalosos. A local TV station once reported that the town had 14,000 homosexual inhabitants. Sounds like this Tabalosos could be a fun place to have a big circuit party. Maybe even a big pool party filled with all this “gay” water so we can dunk hot straight boys in.
Update April 2010: Just found this remix and it’s a pretty damn good one! http://soundcloud.com/rokcandy/call-me-maybe-carly-rae-jepsen
While I often go on and on about how today’s television is the best source of new music for me, I do admit that the club scene is the usual go-to for most mo’s out there. However, clubs + Adam + vodka = no ability to remember specific songs, so I need to rely on other, more tame channels. And, what’s more tame than a handsome, muscle friend who secretly has the same penchant for Taylor Swift-esque songs of teen love??
This past week, a good friend tagged me in a post about a song he’d heard on satellite radio and laughed at himself for going for something so teeny bopper… and, while it is, it’s still completely awesome. Yes, this girl is talkin’ about cute, teen flirting, but let’s face it, teenagers have sex about as fast as gay guys riding a bump at a Tiesto concert these days, so once in a while it’s cute to slow it down and hear something that doesn’t start and end with popping p@$$ies ;) What he have here is Carly Rae Jepsen who (wow, I just learned this) is from Mission BC and came third on Canadian Idol! Her song is “Call Me Maybe” and it will STAY IN YOUR HEAD. I’m loving every second of it and can’t wait for a real music video BUT, I’m bringing it to you today because we need a remix!!