You may or may not have seen that episode of 30-Rock when Tina Fey’s character (Liz Lemon) writes a book called “Dealbreaker” in which she gives relationship advice to women about situations or circumstances that should would define as a “Dealbreaker.” It was absolutely hilarious. Inspired by this episode, here is a list of so called “dealbreakers” for me, or at least turn offs. They are either inspired by situations I’ve been in, or influenced by what I see in the lives of my friends.

10. Friend Ditchers
When I start hanging out / dating someone, I don’t want them to all of a sudden drop all of their friends. I want to spend time with someone that can find balance in their life, so that if things are going well they don’t cling to me – I don’t think that’s healthy. In my experience, I’ve learned that it is important to have your own life apart from your significant others. Know and act on your hobbies and interests, and value your friendships. If you screw them over, they may not be there if and when your relationship fails. Dealbreaker.

9. Pretentiousness
I don’t care to know how much money your condo is worth, or what brand your shirt is. Even if you are independently wealthy, I find it so much more attractive when people don’t really spend any time talking about it at all. People that do are so obviously looking for acceptance and trying to impress others by pointing out their material possessions that they don’t show who they really are. These people are more easily identifiable than they think – It’s really obvious when someone is pretentious. I want to spend my time with someone down to earth, not someone who attempts to make me feel inadequate. Dealbreaker.

8. Negative Nancys
“Woe is me.” Everyone is different, but everyone faces challenges in their day to day lives, and it’s all about your attitude in addressing and dealing with them as they arise. I believe it is a choice. Every challenge is an opportunity. The more you face life with a positive attitude, the more people want to be around you, the more favorable things that “happen”. When all you do is complain to the people around you about all of your problems, it becomes very draining on them and they will choose not to spend as much time with you. Dealbreaker.

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