I just stumbled up on an unofficial Gay Cliques Census done a while back by a site called Noodles and Beef. The survey was created to shed some light on the demographics of the gay community, but also to discover what cliques are actually in use (eg, Bears, Cubs, etc…), the relationship between cliques and attraction to other cliques, how tops/bottoms range between groups, and what the geographic differences are between cliques.
Of course you don’t have to take it seriously, but it’s a fun exercise nonetheless. The survey told me that I was a Gym Bunny, who are apparently mostly attracted to other Gym Bunnys, Gym Rats, and Otters.
I can agree to a certain extent, but when I looked up the definition of a Gym Bunny in the Urban Dictionary, it read: “A gay man who spends an obsessive amount of time in the gym working on sculpting his body — not for health reasons — only to show it off in a club or on the beach.” I don’t really see myself as that guy. Especially when I read the example the Urban Dictionary uses: “Richard couldn’t seem to find time in between work and his gym schedule for a relationship. He is such a gym bunny.” LMFAO – that is definitely not me. That does describe my former roommate exactly though. Share your results below!
Me: “Uhm, I’m sorry?”
Guy: “Ya, you hang with the ‘tight shirt, hot body’ crew”
(Cough – he just said I was skinny, marry me! – cough)
Me: “Oh… uh, thank you?” (All the while, thinking to myself, “since when did being gay involve a social hierarchy?)
If you’ve seen Mean Girls (and hopefully all of you gays have, if not, gimme your gay card) then you’re familiar with the scene where Janice draws out the social map of North Shore High. Let me refresh your memory, “You’ve got your JV Jocks, Varsity Jocks, Sexually Overactive Band Geeks, Cool Asians, the best people you’ll ever meet and the worst. Beware of the plastics.” So this is all-good in a movie plot, in Jr High, definitely HS and occasionally creeps up in the college (university for you Northerners) years. But where is the line drawn when we can drop those titles and just be who we are with the friends we have? As much as I love Regina George, I’m not sure I want to be considered a “plastic.”
Now, us gays love to put titles on the types of guys in our community, anything from bears, to jocks and daddies to twinks. But these titles, at least for me, don’t carry any sort of social status, so when someone told me that I was included in what they considered the “A-Gays,” I was intrigued. When I asked him to explain what he meant, he just said that he had always noticed my group of friends, myself included, as the people who always dressed in the latest trends, always had worked-out bodies (who me? HA), were generally very attractive, were always laughing and looking like we have the times of our lives and so on and so on. On the one hand, I was flattered that someone had noticed things like that, but on the other hand, I was confused.