Recently I’ve encountered the exact same conversation over and over again when meeting new people.
NEW FRIEND: “You’re gay, right?”
ME: “Yes I am, why?”
NEW FRIEND: “I just figured, because you dance.”
I’ve come to wonder why people automatically assume that because I dance I must be gay. Why jump to that conclusion? I’ve been dancing since I was 9, but even before that I did karate as well as hockey and baseball. Why does dancing become a dead giveaway as opposed to the other sports in people’s minds? Is it cuz I’m surrounded by half naked woman as opposed to men a majority of the time? It seems much more homoerotic to be surrounded by hot, sweaty, grunting men…don’t you think? I’m confused as to what the contributing factor to the label on dance and male sexuality is. I’m not offended by the statement, just curious as to why it is that DANCE got the gay wrap.
What started out as drawing plants and animals has turned into a dream for up and coming fashion designer, Tony Pearce. An attainable dream driven by his passion and desire.
Born in the small town Barnstaple in North Devon England, 22 year old Tony has his sights set on woman’s fashion but has hopes to expand into men’s fashions and accessories. Tony moved around a lot as a child and moved in with his paternal grandparents after his mother passed away with breast cancer. It was there that Tony was given a patch of land and through his seeds of labor, he grew an interest in horticulture. Tony hopes to meld fashion with his second love of horticulture, hoping to utilize hemp and other organic materials into his clothing designs. He draws his design inspirations from plants and buildings. While working in the United States on a horticultural internship, Tony took notice of American fashion.
Cher needs a new bag of tricks.
As seamless and well-produced as her current incarnation is on stage at Caesar’s Palace in Las Vegas, it’s yearning for one of the stunning reinventions the Grammy-winning music icon is so known for.
A change wouldn’t just be in the best interests of her loyal fans either as it appears that even the ageless wonder herself is in need of new energy, new drive and, of course, new costumes. As announced last month, Cher’s spectacle in Sin City winds down in February after a three-year stint in residence and the curtain is lowering none-too-soon.
No one can fault the performer for her show really. She is still in incredible visual shape – pulling off all of the skimpiest Bob Mackie outfits she has made famous over her 40 years in the spotlight. Her vocals sound far richer than before. The musical arrangements have been tailored to her maturing voice – and the resulting texture is undeniable.
I will start saying that as a gay man I had a pretty normal life as far as the gay scene in Toronto goes. I have spent most of my life in the Gay Ghetto (Wellesley and Church Street Area).
I moved away from home at 21 due to rising questions about my sexuality. My years were mostly lived in the closet, as most gay men in my age group did. I was a very shy boy so I was spared the one slot of GRIND which is now known as HIV/AIDS. I have had several boy friends, but my first real boyfriend ended up being abusive and needing the love of someone.
He isolated me from any of my friends I had, so I would be dependent on him and he took advantage of me. One night he got very angry and tried to choke me to death, but luckily I was able to get away and never return. I would see him and he stalked me for a while but I was free from the confines of being with him.
It was September 7th, only the other day that I happened to come across a Fabulis members profile after he had asked me a question. This member Joey Cumley has quickly become a new inspiration to me. I asked him if he would mine if I attempted to tell his story about his diagnosis as HIV positive. Soon, I found him to be one of the most positive people on Fabulis Joey Cumley is my inspiration this week and of whom I write.
Joey hales from Kansas originally, but as soon as he graduated high school he managed to escape with an ex bf, and moved to Chicago. After breaking up Joey took a job as a flight attendant based out of NYC area and located to the big city and was fortunate enough to be able to travel all over and meet people in every city. Joey told himself that once flying stopped being fun that he would quit, because he didn’t want to end up one of those mean bitter bitchy flight attendants that feel trapped in their jobs. After 3 years, Joey decided it had run it’s course and quit and moved to his favorite city, San Francisco.
Well it’s been 2.5 weeks since I’ve been here and there’s a few things I’ve learned: Australians drive crazy, I stick out like a sore thumb with my accent, and Canadians are way too nice!
Moving to Australia I had my stereotypical ideas; hot climate, lots of Aborigines, hot guys everywhere and kangaroos jumping across highways like we have deer. Nope! I was wrong! Although, to be fair, the hot guy ratio is much higher here AND my sore thumb accent helps as a conversation starter! So…thumbs up!
Where to start? Language! There are days at work where I have no clue what people are saying! The accents are dependent from what areas people are from, so some are mild and some are really thick. Aside from the accent, the slang is more than I thought it would be. It’s not just words, but even phrases that make me shake my head. ‘Sticking the boot” translated means giving someone a hard time. Pinched=steal, chewy=gum, heaps=lots….I could go on, but you get the point. Try having a conversation where you’re constantly trying to figure out what it means – it’s hard!
Gyms love machines. They look expensive, accessible, and require little to no supervision, allowing potential members to sign up, pay up and get started. Exercise machines allow the user to sit or stand and simply push or pull weight along guided rails isolating the particular muscle that the user wishes to stimulate. Safe and easy right? But wait, aren’t we training to be athletes for life, to better perform day to day functions in the real world? Remind me, when was the last time you sat down on a bench and leaned over a padded arm rest to “preacher curl” your bags of groceries into position? So whats the alternative? Exercises using free weights simulate and build neuromuscular pathways, challenge full body stabilizing strength, mimic our real life day to day activities and effectively build bigger, stronger and smarter muscles. In order to help make your body a machine, here are three BIG full body exercises that are going launch your strength gains into overdrive, challenge your balance and co-ordination, and fire up your metabolic engine!
Greg Glassman the founder of Crossfit has the following to say about the deadlift: ”Regardless of whether your fitness goals are to ‘rev up’ your metabolism, increase strength or lean body mass, decrease body fat, rehabilitate your back, improve athletic performance, or maintain functional independence as a senior, the deadlift is a marked shortcut to that end.”
There is simply no question that the deadlift can create fullbody strength and power that no machine can. Never deadlifted before? Start light and follow Greg’s cues to a perfect deadlift…
Maybe it’s just me, but it seems these days as though everything is suddenly “anti-gay”. I don’t mean that such things are portraying us gays in a bad light, I mean that it seems like we are getting upset more and more often. I am sure am I going to receive major flack for this but that’s okay.
Recently I’ve been hearing a lot about the old spice ad that is running on TV right now, with a muscular attractive ‘masculine’ man talking to women about their men. Now, this is directed towards straight women, which is fine. Old spice did studies and found that women buy the majority of their beauty products for men. So these marketers decided that it would be best to target straight women while also appealing to straight men, and TRADITIONALLY, straight men want to be perceived as masculine, and straight women are attracted to masculine men.