I had written a post right before this one, and it was pretty intense. I was writing it in pure anger, and I let it sit for a while and then I deleted it. It was a good vent, but I don’t think I wanted that post to represent my true feelings about this situation.
The situation I’m referring to is one which we have been keeping up to date with here at Homorazzi. Last week, someone had been sucker punched in the head at the Fountainhead, and was taken to hospital in critical condition. He then fell into a coma, and is not expected to recover.
Before I found out he lost his life, my head was spinning into another dimension. I just kept remembering other events this past year, Jordan Smith, Chad Wilkinson the countless other times. Then I kept remember when I was managing at The Majestic/Pulse Nightclub that the police would come and let me know that there has to now be a police presence on the street, and now this.
What sparked my anger was the quote the newspaper printed. The perp punched the man because “he’s a fag. He deserved it, he touched me.” Well, apparently he deserved to die for touching someone. I want to yell. I want to scream. I want to punch things. I can’t believe what’s happening to our street, slowly but surely Davie Street is becoming unsafe, and it’s terrifying.
What I don’t understand, is why do these people come to Davie Street in the first place? What are they expecting to find there? Davie Street from Burrard to Denman is the Gay Village, has been forever. So why are they coming there in the first place? Why are they always so shocked to find gay people there? Why, oh why, if you’re straight would you go into a GAY establishment and not expect to possibly be hit on, or checked out, and looked at by a gay person? Even if it doesn’t happen, you have to be READY for it to happen, and if you find yourself weirded out by that, don’t bother walking through the door.
I find us to be a very tolerant people, I really do. I mean, I’ll use myself as an example. I have a short temper, no patience, I can be a real dick, and I judge (I AM gay for crying out loud). I have also been attacked MANY times by straight drunk girls coming up to me “OH MY GOD! I LOVE GAY GUYS! WHY ARE YOU GAY? YOU’RE SO CUTE”. This, to me, is the equivalent of a straight guy getting hit on by a gay man, but I would never punch those girls in the face…no matter how much I want to just smack them. (There’s nothing worse than drunken straight girls…NOTHING!). I would never do that because I am a DECENT HUMAN BEING! Not to mention I would be thrown in jail faster than you can blink an eye.
I don’t know where I’m going with this. I sort just wanted to post about what I’m feeling in a grown up sort of way instead of just typing in caps lock about how much I hate “those straights”.
What does this mean for us? Do we hide? Do we move…I say NO! I think this is an opportunity to take back our streets, take back our venues. Our spaces are becoming more and more straight, and we are losing our entertainment spaces. PLEASE support gay businesses. As an event producer, I have been VERY fortunate to have been supported by everyone, and I am SO HAPPY for that, but we need to do more. I’m putting out a call to everyone; take back what is rightfully ours! Show solidarity; show that we will not stand for this kind of behavior in our own spaces.
Anyway…that’s all I got for right now. I want to send out lots of love to the victim’s family.
UPDATE: Mar 18 1:oopm
Today, I received an email from a family friend, stating that he is in a coma.
The newspaper is saying that he is in a coma as well and will not recover from massive brain injuries.
Whatever the case is, it’s still unnacceptable and we will not stand for this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with the family.