Filed under: Adam, Random Reads, Totally GAY!, TV Shows
Author: Adam
Date: Jun 11, 2010
While I adored Dan‘s review of the latest episode of “So You Think You Can Dance“, I feel it must finally be said (though I’m certainly not the first mo to think or utter this belief) that this show has some serious issues with the gays. Watching last night’s episode with hardcore fan and close friend of mine Colby, we both burst out laughing at Kent’s cute 11 second intro that ended with an adorable: “ummmm I’M SINGLE!” Finally, I thought, we’re gonna allow a CLEARLY homosexual dancer to express himself as a sexual being and not just save it for the straight girls wearing basically nothing in every other number as Nigel Lythgoe, Shane Sparks (*cough*GAY*cough*) and even Adam Shankman (ugh) wipe their drool off the judges table over the “hot, hot chicks.” What do the boys get? Mary Murphy screaming “hot tomale train” and Nigel saying: “Pasha, I’m sure you looked great, but can we get back to talking about your HOT YOUNG FEMALE PARTNER?!?!” It’s total crap.
The culmination for me of this show’s constant refusal to let the pride flag fly came in a staged and outrageous exchange last night between the show’s host Cat Deeley and Kent Boyd, the OBVIOUSLY GAY kid from nowheresville. After the set up of him declaring his singleness to excited and pervy 30/40-something gays everywhere (eww, this kid is 18 you old men… yes, I’m talking to ALL of my friends), the show proved itself once again the bigoted and terrified of “real Americans” (thank you Sarah Palin) wimps I’ve come to expect it to be.
The following is the chat Cat Deeley and Kent Boyd had immediately following his routine with Lauren last night which picks up from his intro in which he blurts out that he’s “single” which oh-too-perfectly leads into this CLEARLY choreographed discussion (don’t even try to argue it’s not set up with her predicting dead on he had an alternate answer to “my mom”):
Cat: And, sir, by the way, you’re single. Is that true?
Kent: Yeahhhh….
Cat: Ok, ideal woman, just so we all know?
Kent: Ummm someone that… like my mom…
Cat: Or?
Kent: BEYONCE!!!
Cat: Hahahaha, now the truth comes out.
Ummm, no, it doesn’t Cat. The truth is shoved back into the closet along with this perfect moment to stand up for gays and their right to be who they are on national TV. This is what we went through a year ago with Adam Lambert and the unspoken pink elephant in the room. And, with Clay Aiken years before that. Every time these contestants are forced to pander to the conservative and bigoted middle-American voters as well as to the more than assuredly close-minded producers and directors of these shows who- I’m sure- force these kids to “keep it a mystery” or even outright lie. SYTYCD’s back and forth is so suffered that I’m left to wonder if it was Kent’s I’m sure religiously right wing parents from WhachaNoHomo (or whatever) who asked the show if they wouldn’t stage this forced in-ing of their son on tv or Nigel himself who wanted to abate rumours that there might ACTUALLY be one of the “gays” among his precious Top 11. In an article by a fellow gay writer wherein Nigel is confronted about this unspoken level of intolerance for out gays on shows like “American Idol” and “So You Think You Can Dance”, the judge (and executive producer) is asked why no one’s ever declared themselves as gay while on the show to which he replies:
Nigel: We’ve never thought about it, to be honest. I don’t actually go around and say, “Excuse me are you gay or are you straight?” It isn’t a question that we ask… I’m never worried if anybody’s gay. What I don’t like on the dance show, to be frank, is effeminate boys that mince around the stage. I don’t care if they’re gay or straight. That’s got nothing to do with it for me.
To that, I’d like to respond: “Suck my dick, you liar” but I’m sure he’d have a heart attack at the thought of it and I wouldn’t want to be convicted of manslaughter however justified… Remember season four? (Don’t worry, most of us don’t)… well, there was the painfully purse dropping Joshua Allen who took the gold tiara that year and had to endure question after question about “which lady dancer got him the most caliente?” It’s all such crap. Then there were the two gay ballroom dancers who- while they weren’t Top 20 material by a long shot- never deserved the abrasive and anti-homosexual rhetoric of Nigel:
Nigel: I think you will probably alienate a lot of our audience. I mean, we’ve always had the guys dance together on the show, but they’ve never really done it in each other’s arms before… Do you know what? I’d like to see you both dancing with a girl.
I don’t even have a response to this comment. Dancing is at its purest a form of expression and art. It’s suppose to open peoples’ minds to new ideas and ought never to be restricted by convention or limitation. Speaking in less idealistic terms, the entire dancing community is RIPE with gays, so to start imposing “straight rules” on them because the viewers of the show wouldn’t appreciate two guys dancing together is pandering and placation at its worst and most destructive. Yes, this is Nigel’s show and he can absolutely do what he wants with it. BUT, for fellow homos and lesbians to stand next to him on the judging panel or choreograph these poor kids forced to put up with this straight humor and expectations of gender roles is fucking bullshit. I’m ashamed for the judges who don’t speak out for these poor kids and a little for these dancers (nearly all of whom are adults) for not taking a stand for themselves.
Coming out is your own decision and path, but when you take up on a platform that offers you to millions as a role model you DO have a bit of a responsibility to live a genuine life. Kent’s bashful answer that he’s looking to “hit it” with Beyonce is a slap to every gay teen and tween sitting at home hoping for someone they look up to as an artist telling them that what they are feeling is shameful and not something Joe and Jennie six-pack “need to see.”
Despicable.
[Click here for the follow up article regarding the continual attempts at hetero-propaganda by SYTYCD]
Tyrell
June 11th, 2010 at 4:26 pm
Having been on the show in Canada, I know that homosexuality isn’t “oppressed” by any means but isn’t always encouraged either. I did an interview with one of the media outlets during my recent audition where I said I was texting my boyfriend. She asked me several times if I was okay saying “my boyfriend” in the interview to which I always responded “absolutely”. The interview came out and no mention of my boyfriend was mentioned. Just that texting a friend to calm my nerves was a ritual for me. BOOOO! Media Censorship.
I also know that in Season 3 of the US, Jesus and fellow contestant Jimmy became romantically involved during their time on the show together. Jimmy was voted off before Jesus but when Jesus was voted off, he gave a shout out to Jimmy who was watching in the audience. The show censored the cute shout out who panned away from Jesus when he began to blow a kiss to him. Friends of mine in the audience told me Jimmy mouthed I love you to him but the cameras miraculously missed the touching moment. However, in Season 2 when Natalie gave a sad goodbye to her friend Allison, that was completely okay.
GRRR.
Thank god for people like Adam Lambert who say ‘eff the system and don’t care about the oppression of big media outlets. He’s loud and proud and doesn’t care what anyone says. He’s fearless and I completely admire him for it as a fellow out member of the entertainment industry. If only all of us were so brave.
Great article Adam!
Adam
June 11th, 2010 at 4:45 pm
Tyrell, thanks for probably the only first-hand experience comment I’ll get to this. While they didn’t force you into anything the omission of the truth is still a lie. Just like with the skipping of the guys’ words to each other is obvious and sad that the audience will never get to know the real personalities of these kids. It really suck to know that even when they TRY to be out and proud they get “Americanized”.
Rich
June 11th, 2010 at 4:52 pm
I was a little uncomfortable with Cat’s set up questions. The kid is 18. Maybe he’s gay, maybe he’s not. Who cares. I don’t.
What I hate is that the show is obviously trying to pimp him out to the tween girls… that puts a huge amount of pressure on him… especially if he is gay.
I think the problem is that many heterosexual males in the dance industry get so tired of defending their sexuality (or dealing with a perceived stigma) that they get uber defensive. I think Nigel suffers from that.
I actually think the Canadian version has been WAY better. We’ve seen some boy on boy choreo in group numbers and Rex Harrington is far more OUT as a judge than anyone we’ve seen on the American version.
Tyrell
June 11th, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Rich, I absolutely agree. Blake’s super sexually charged and homo erotic number to “Lovegame” by Lady Gaga proves that. And Rex Harrington isn’t afraid to say when he thinks someone looks good, boys included. Sean Cheeseman as well went on Daniel Dory tangent last season about how hot he was when he performed Pucker Up with Jamie-Rae. Canada also seems to be more open to homosexual themes and ideas in general. I don’t think we’ll ever see a “man on man” routine on SYTYCD in Canada or the US. However, a more open mind on the subject would be welcoming I think. I just think CTV and FOX are scared of offending a mass population. GET OVER IT. People are more cool with it then you think. Look at the gay couple on Modern Family (Mitch and Cam). They are the most popular on that show and straight men that I know LOVE them. I think CTV and FOX just need to get over their own homophobia and realize that no one really cares.
Rick
June 11th, 2010 at 5:44 pm
Why would you have to bring Sarah Palin and “conservative right wing Middle America” into it? There are PLENTY conservative people that LOVE Sarah Palin that LOVE SYTYCD and could give a SHIT if dancers are gay, str8, trannies, etc… People are NOT watching the show for some kid to use as his OUT PARTY..it is a A DANCE show! Sorry if it’s not used to push any sorta agenda that you want it to. For the most part, with it being stereotypical that men that dance are gay, do you think a bunch of str8 people are watching this that are going to go “OMG…He’s gay??”..
Tyrell
June 11th, 2010 at 6:02 pm
I don’t think its a matter of using SYTYCD as a platform for a publicly televised coming out party. I think its more of an issue of the fact that being openly gay on the show is somewhat frowned upon considering that 60% of male dancers are gay. In the Broadway/musical theatre genre of dance especially, gay dancers are NOT uncommon and are predominantly out to their friends and colleagues. I am just curious as to why when a show that celebrates dance can’t also celebrate the walk of life that bring it to life. They celebrate all these other cultures and styles of dance which I love. I’m not asking for male on male action by ANY means. I just don’t see why any of the male dancers can’t be open about their sexuality is all I’m saying.
Dan
June 11th, 2010 at 6:50 pm
Wow, Adam, I’m definitely not surprized that you took a strong stance in this argument and I have to admit I’m happy that you did. On the other hand, I hate to admit that I don’t agree with you. Before I start, I DO agree with you on Nigel’s approach to the matter 100 per cent; however, I don’t agree with your expectation of 18-year-old Kent.
I struggle to believe for a second, knowing Kent’s background as being from ‘WhachaNoHomo (or whatever)’ as you so nicely put it, that he has any idea what it means to be gay and out or if that is a possibility for him. He stated in one of his first statements on the show as having made it to the big city once. He was referring to Columbus, Ohio. There is the complete other side of the coin (and possibility) that Kent is pushing his own heterosexualness to everyone involved with the show as he struggles to define who he really is. He may not even admit it to himself, so the show shouldn’t be responsible for making the statement for him. I wasn’t too far off his frame of mind at that age myself.
As far as I recall from what I know about you, you weren’t singing from the rooftops at the right old age of 18 that you were gay either. At least not on national television while everyone and their dog that knew you was cheering you on in a reality competition each week. I won’t defend the show or the producers in Tyrell’s first-hand example, but I will defend the concept that not everyone is ready at 18 years old to be a role model for gay rights. Although he has nothing to be ashamed of, we all learn and grow in different ways and at different times.
Tyrell
June 11th, 2010 at 7:10 pm
Dan, very valid point. I see both sides. Where Adam takes on a “specific example”, I think that in general, the couple of instances that I have seen on the show, depict a little bit of a shyness of open homosexuality, no? I think that Kent is a classic example of small town dance boy who knows nothing about the real world/big city. I was totally that boy at 18. Town of 2000 people, only male dancer in the town. Took class in a small city an hour away. Didn’t really know much about “being gay” just knew what “gay” was from what I had seen on TV or heard from my parents. I don’t think that Kent needs to be an ambassador for gay pride on the show at all, or anyone for that matter. But a contestant should be able to openly talk about their boyfriend if they have one should they not? Adam Shankman is openly gay and they joke about it all the time on the judges panel with him. Why can’t that humor translate to the dancers on the stage?
Jared
June 11th, 2010 at 7:12 pm
I don’t understand why it’s a big deal if an 18-year old isn’t stating he’s gay, whether he is or not. There have been several obviously gay contestants on the shower over the year, but why should that even matter? We’re watching a show based on talent, not who’s gay. We don’t need to brand gay dancers as being good.
Yes, I understand some people’s concerns with the show and it’s seemingly homophobic acts; it is after all FOX. But I’d like to bring attention back to the show’s format. Traditionally – I don’t know about this season with the all-stars – the couples are paired off with male and female. Traditionally in dance it’s expected that the man play a masculine role and the woman play a feminine role. As Kevin pointed out in an article a while back when Nigel made the comment about the two male ballroom dancers, it’s a commonly held view that male dancers should play a masculine role. It’s how dance has been for centuries, and though I don’t want to limit people’s freedom of expression based on gender, I do want to tie this tradition into the format of the show.
Honestly, I really don’t care to see a flaming guy mincing around on stage either. When I see a guy dance, I expect to see a strong, masculine performance. There have been several dancers on the show who have flaming personalities, but have amazing technique, performance, strength, and masculinity while dancing. If someone wants to express their dancing abilities outside of the traditional gender roles, perhaps they should find another platform where gender roles isn’t expected.
P.S. If Shane Sparks is gay, I doubt his child molestation charges would be against girls…
Kent's friend
June 11th, 2010 at 7:41 pm
Just wanted to clarify that Kent is actually straight. He did have a gf before (I know, doesn’t prove anything) the show and currently has a crush on Season 6′s Kathryn.
I don’t think she would have pushed him with the question if he was gay.
As much as I agree with most of what you are saying, I also feel like you’re stereotyping and “assuming” based on little of what you’ve seen of him.
Rich
June 11th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
Right on Kent’s friend. It’s the stereotyping and automatic assumptions that seem to create some stigma issues for heterosexual dancers. We hear about it all the time in the backstory package pieces… “my dad didn’t support me dancing”, “it’s hard being a male dancer in a small town” etc.
That being said, Adam is right that there is an uncomfortable taboo around gay issues and SYTYCD… I really feel like it comes from Nigel.
Jane
June 11th, 2010 at 11:02 pm
I live in Wapakoneta and Kent was my daughter’s lyrical teacher last year.I have no idea if he is gay or not and do not care. I have never heard any speculation in my town as to whether or not he is gay. To make assumptions based on stereotypes is wrong. I do know he had a serious crush on his assistant (female), as my daughter would come home from dance class and talk about how he was always asking her out, but she had a boyfriend.
Dan, we may be from a small town, but we are not ignorant. I am sure Kent knows what it is to be gay, and feels that is a possibility for him. We have two openly gay couples in the business community here, who are very much respected.
I do want to clarify something. I do believe that Kent has been to LA and New York for dance competions. Why he said Columbus, I have no idea. It’s obvious he’s uncomfortable and nervous in front of a camera when being interviewed, and may come across as goofy and slightly immature for his age.
He’s a sweet kid and puts his heart and soul into every performance. I hope he goes far in the competiton.
Adam
June 11th, 2010 at 11:23 pm
I just want to clarify that Kent was an astronaut in my city of Richmond and he had 18 girlfriends at the same time so…. yeah…. any rumours are completely abated.
Yeah, no.
Thanks of all the comments so far but I still stand tall and proud by my original comments.
a) he’s not THE “gay kid” for all homos out there… but he IS an 18-year old who not only put himself onto a national television show but who also brought up his “marital status” by declaring himself as single on his intro and clearly allowing Cat to question him about it during his post-dance commentary (which was so obviously established that no one’s even questioned the scriptedness of it)… he knew what he was getting into and opened the door to representation by doing so.
b) he’s gay. are you kidding me? he’s gay. fine, maybe point zero zero zero one percent of kids who have that lisp, affectation, sibilant “s” and who jump on a couch filled with glitter after they get into a dancing show AREN’T … but this gurl ain’t one of them.
c) no it DOESN’T matter what he is either way… BUT when the show questions him in a DIRECTIVE matter what he is (ie. STRAIGHT) then, yeah, it does start to matter “what way he swings”…
d) saying we all want “strong, masculine men paired with tiny, feminine girls” challenges about a hundred presumptions. 40 years ago people would have said the same thing about a black guy dancing with a white girl… today, we have to defeat conventions of what it means to be “masculine” and “feminine”… helll, Billy’s dance was pseudo-feminine as a child pre-adulthood but no-one argued the lack of masculinity because it was never made an issue by the judges (ie. bigoted Nigel).
Jared
June 12th, 2010 at 12:00 am
The racial issue has nothing to do with the masculine and feminine roles in dance. To compare the two shows a lack of understanding of what you’re actually talking about. This is a show where females are coupled with males, and traditionally in dance forms such as ballroom there is a masculine and feminine role played by a man and a woman respectively. This is a tradition widely held around the world, even by gay dancers. It’s not homophobic, but part of the art form. If a gay dancer really has a problem with this, there certainly are other platforms to express themselves. Take for example Lady Gaga’s androgynous dancers in Alejandro. You’re putting too much emphasis on something thats so far apart from what the show is really about.
Adam
June 12th, 2010 at 12:28 am
Yes, race has nothing to do with it… ANYMORE- thank god (although, if you’re thinkin’ that the mid-west etc. doesn’t still raise an eyebrow at anything “mixed” then you’re living in a dream world)… BUT, I’m using it to put into perspective the issue that while 40 years ago we would have seen “X and Y” as dancing together as crazy as we now see “Y and Y” dancing together… just wait another few decades as the bigoted get pushed to the back and expressionism (in any form) takes over and all things “unconventional” (which, honestly, is a limiting and abasing term) fight their way to the forefront.
This show is CURRENTLY about “strong men” and “thin, lithe women” dancing together… i guaran-frigin-tee you in about 5 years it ain’t gonna be the same cookie-cuter dimensions (unless Nigel has his way) and we’ll start seeing art through dance in ways we’ve never expected or even imagined… that’s what i’m promoting and hoping for and what I believe is at risk of being abated thanks to dominated producers like mr. nigel.
The word “traditional” i honestly believe has no place in contemporary dance and I truly hope that current dancers- be they straight or gay- have the same opinion. This art form is about innovation and creativity… not mold-following, mirrorism… though, i’m not a dancer.
Open minded
June 12th, 2010 at 7:09 am
Adam. You are all for breaking stereotypes and having the gays come out. However did you once think that maybe you are ignorant about small towns, not the small town people ignorant about the world. Just because a male dancer is young and upbeat doesn’t mean he is gay. Look at your own stereotypes, hes young, dances, a little absent minded, and goofy; therefore he is gay. Small town people aren’t hillbilly idiots who are not sure what it means to be gay. By him being comfortable talking about girls and not afraid to say he is single only adds to the likeness from the crowds. Why don’t you stop insisting he is gay and trying to push him that way. If you want people to be free to express their sexuality then if he is straight get over it and let him be straight. If you think people are pushed to hide then why push him to hide he is straight to make you happy? Get over yourself and get over your own stereotypes it only makes you look ignorant.
Miguel
June 12th, 2010 at 10:22 am
I completely agree with Adam. The show is blatantly anti-gay, mostly because of Nigel. It might be his show, but I think it would be much better without him (like SYTYCD Canada). He’s “dumbed down” the show, and makes it offensive.
The “traditional” comment by Jared-the-homophobe above bothers me. I’ve seen many examples in modern dance in the real world which explore male-male dance forms, from aggressive to intimate. I’ve witnessed some serious (and non-mincing) male-on-male salsa dancing in clubs in Latin America. And I understand that the Argentine tango was originally a street dance form with two males together, which explains the frequent swift head turns where they avoid eye-contact (eye contact between males is biologically threatening), and the brawl-like leg-movements. So saying that all ballroom is traditionally male/female is a load of crap.
Dance is art, and censored art is just propaganda. America has been very reluctant and very slow (unlike other Western nations) to openly embrace the gays. Being a global superpower, historically developed through wars and masculine aggression, America’s cultural media seek to squash overt femininity in males which might suggest American’s as a whole are weak. This Fox show is just part of the image America is continuing to reinforce to itself and to the world. Don’t ask – and definitely! – don’t tell.
Dance isn’t just about sexual expression either. It’s been used since prehistoric times to express emotion (victory, death) or tell stories. SYTYCD doesn’t just show male-female couple dancing; there are solos and group dance as well. Why can’t there also be same-sex pairs, or males dancing more femininely? After all, some of the women are allowed to dance very masculine styles. And, I believe, different culture’s dance styles have been demonstrated as well, maybe to broaden the appeal of the show internationally and to show the broad spectrum of dance. So why this blatant censorship if not homophobia?
Kent, like many dancers on the show, is obviously gay – even if he hasn’t yet come out – and this show’s attempt to paint him as otherwise is annoying. I laugh when American shows like this ( Dancing with the Stars) judge male/female dance partners for not having “chemistry”. Of course they don’t – the guy’s gay ( Evan Lysacek)! He just doesn’t wanna do her. Let him dance with another hot guy, then maybe we’ll see good dancing.
Adam
June 12th, 2010 at 11:19 am
Open Minded… us mos have this thing called “gay dar”… it’s really complicated to explain but watch an episode or two of… any sitcom from the 90s and you’ll hear about it ;)
Miguel, great comment! This is absolutely akin to the army’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy and we argue tooth and nail to defeat that bigoted and expression-denying motto.
Thanks also for the historical perspective on this issue- just because contemporary restrictions and labels have deemed men as required to be “straight acting” in dance and women “petite and feminine” doesn’t mean that’s what’s right or the only option.
The chemistry comment is great too… I guess the fag/hag combo during some dances wouldn’t be exactly “hot” to watch :P
Observer
June 12th, 2010 at 11:41 am
While I’m by no means qualified to give any expert or firsthand insights into the matter, I do think there is a cultivated “…is he?”-mystique in the entertainment world. For whatever reason, openly gay entertainers seem to be far less appealing to the masses than the questionable, overly-defensive, or neither-confirm-nor-deny types. It’s very likely there’s an ingrained stigma against homosexuality that turns the mainstream public away from the open, but it’s also true that mystery is intriguing. It’s just human nature. And in a world where “any publicity is good publicity,” the rumors, lies, scandals, and witch-hunts can keep people in the popular spotlight much longer than the “…I’m gay!” magazine cover. Look at Andersen Cooper. We all love the tongue-in-cheek articles about vacations with his “friend,” the gay-nightclub co-owner, and references to “sliding down poles” in his renovated firestation-turned-apartment. But an actual admission on Andersen’s part, while it could be championed as a triumph, might spoil the fun or ruin his popularity. It seems like an actor or other entertainer has to be incredibly talented (and attractive) to make it out of obscurity IN SPITE of being openly gay (like Cheyenne…*swoon*), whereas the “…is he?”-mystique can actually bolster one’s career. So, whether it was Nigel, Sarah Palin, the shadowy board of producers, the smalltown mafia, or Kent himself who orchestrated this little display, the unfortunate fact remains that it was probably in his (and his success on the show’s) best interest. That said, Kent is an adorable (momma’s) boy who I wouldn’t mind seeing do a rendition of “Single Ladies” (which I’m sure will surface eventually).
Adam
June 12th, 2010 at 11:49 am
Observer, I totally agree it’s “best for the show and Kent” as far as votes and their audience is considered to keep the issue in the dark but the person it’s not good for is society in general… particularly that kid who’s FROM some small town like the dancer in question who’s also gay and learns that keeping himself in the closet is the best way to deal with his sexuality.
While Anderson Cooper is getting laughs with his “trips with friends”, young homos are learning that even confident, successful gays have to keep it quiet if they want to be heard and respected in the media.
If that gay kid in the small town DOES get the balls to come out he’s then subject to the scrutiny of straight people who themselves have been told by the media’s “don’t ask don’t tell” policy that what this kid is doing is wrong and needless. That him being out is somehow imposing and rude… “Why can’t he be like Anderson and keep it behind doors”… to me, that’s a travesty.
Adam (via mobile)
June 12th, 2010 at 11:55 am
dan is right and i am wrong
Mark
June 12th, 2010 at 10:15 pm
I have to agree with Adam. I think the point is that Nigel is homophobic and that the questions given to the male dancers are all leading questions. Why are they asking a male dancer who is clearly gay “ok, ideal woman…? They force the public to think that ALL they male dancers are straight and force the individual dancer to go along with it by putting them on the spot like that. If Kent, or any gay dancer, was smart, he would be proud of being gay and respond with something like “Ideal woman? I think you mean guy” or “Ideal woman…eww gross. I’m gay, Cat, remember…jeeeez.” They could totally make it light hearted, comfortable, and NORMAL, rather than having to still be kept in the closet in the year 2010. It honestly shouldn’t matter because the dancing is what is important, but when a “straight” question or comment is being forced on a gay male dancer, it’s insulting and ludicrous that they should have to go along with it. They should WANT to be proud of who they are, WANT to be a role model and help all the gay teens who look up to them, and show all the questioning and struggling gay teens out there that it’s no big deal and it’s NORMAL. The gay dancers should be WANT to be their real selves on the show and should tell the show’s producers to stop being bigots and implying they are straight and tell them that they want to refer to their boyfriend or get asked what type of guy do they like. I mean really, it’s 2010…there shouldn’t be anymore closets now.
Think about it…in all the seasons, i would probably guess that maybe, what, 20 guys that were actually straight? Yet ALL of them were portrayed to be straight by asking variations of who their ideal woman was, or what they look for in a girl, or imply they were flirting with Cat and it meant they wanted her, or Cat or the judges would imply the male and female dance partners were into each other because there were real sparks on the dance floor. The list is endless in what they are forcing the public to hear, rather then simply asking general questions or comments like “ok, you’re ideal DATE…” or “ok, you’re ideal MATE…” or have the judges say “you guys were so HOT! Billy, I hope your boyfriend doesn’t get jealous.” This makes it normal and ok to be gay, which Nigel apparently has a problem with since he’s from a different time, which doesn’t make any sense since he once was a dancer. Who knows, maybe he’s closeted and he’s afraid to come out at his age, or maybe he had a horrible experience with a guy many years ago. Whatever it is, he should be ashamed of himself forcing anyone to stay in the closet and act like it’s wrong to be gay or that they should be ashamed of who they are. Apparently it’s not ok to mention being gay, but it IS ok for Nigel to make absolutely inappropriate sexual comments about the 18, 19, 20 year old girl dancers over the years. Any man his age that talks about someone’s 18 year old daughter the way he does would be considered a pervert, but I guess the rules are different on SYTYCD, so acting like a borderline pedophile is ok, as long as no one mentions they’re gay.
It seems the guys don’t seem to have a choice in the matter of how they’re portrayed which is completely and utterly sad, especially today. A show like SYTYCD should be super progressive and supportive and a model for all other shows to follow, showing how proud the gay dancers are, that they are real people, and are normal. The dancers themselves should be proud and WANT to say they have a boyfriend and insist that they be treated the same as the girls and the straight male dancers and not be put in a position where they have to act straight. They shouldn’t have to cater to the “straight” questions when, as I said before, millions of gay teens are watching, looking for a role model so they can feel good about themselves and know that they are normal. I mean seriously, is Billy Bell next? Are we going to hear comments or questions regarding what girl he has a crush on, or which of his female partners is really hot? If that happens that’s when you’ll know that SYTYCD is actually code for BIGOTRY and SUPPRESSION. I’m surprised the ACLU or any of the LGBT organizations haven’t gotten involved by now. I mean does anyone remember when Mia wore that dress blue Marine Corps jacket and the Marines got all bent out of shape because the emblem was upside down and they said it was disrespectful? Really? So it’s more important to apologize for a jacket then to apologize for promoting prejudice and suppressing an entire class of people? Wow.
And why does everyone caters to “middle America” all the time? They need to wake up and open the blinds in their trailer parks. The entertainment business in general should be catering to the non-bigoted, non- prejudice, accepting and intelligent public. It’s so funny how people STILL think that if you’re from some small little town that you’re dumb, uneducated or stereotypically don’t know about the real world or big city and that you’re ignorant because of that. That might have flown back prior to maybe 1985 or 1980, but today…please. With today’s technology and the leaps and bounds that civil rights have made with all different sections of the population, anyone who acts like that now chooses to be that way and chooses to be ignorant. If, for instance, Kent’s family is trying to cover it up and Kent is actually gay, then shame on the parent’s for choosing to be ignorant and not love their child for who he is, to make him feel ashamed, and not let him be himself. And does anyone else think that it’s a little ridiculous listening to all these girls screaming in the audience over every single male dancer, that they could actually be that stupid to think that none of the guys are gay and that they or their girl friend may have a shot at dating them? Doesn’t that just sum up what type of audience SYTYCD is going for and how it just supports keeping the closet door shut. Dumb, middle America-type girls to keep prejudice alive and well.
Again, it doesn’t matter if any of the guy dancers are gay, even though they should be out and proud and not feel ashamed or suppressed by the show. But what’s funny is everyone keeps saying that, that it doesn’t or shouldn’t matter, that it’s the dancing that’s important, that it’s not about their personal lives and if they’re gay. Well if that’s the case then why, on every single show with every little comment and every little question from every different angle, does SYTYCD force it down everyone’s throat that they’re all straight?
mama F
June 14th, 2010 at 7:15 pm
As a close friend with Kent, I can guarantee you Kent is 100% straight. He has had to overcome automatic assumptions most of his dance life. He is accepting of all people because thats the kind of person he is. He would NEVER dismiss someone as worthy because of their sexual orientation. He lives to dance, for him that is the purity of life. To able to express his emotions through movement is what he lives for.
What you see is exactly what you get with him–he is young and goofy and nervous in front of a camera. Cat Deely asked him those questions because she knows him by now–he is straight and the tweens LOVE him.
Adam
June 14th, 2010 at 11:58 pm
Dear Mama… I’m sure in Whachmacallit he IS “straight”… but he’s in Vegas now; he doesn’t have to pretend anymore ;)
mama F
June 15th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Well where we live people actually have VALUES and stand behind them. He is straight as an arrow and will always be–I KNOW him and his values. You know what they say about assuming. THE END
Adam
June 16th, 2010 at 1:36 am
Hahaha, well, in them there big cities we forgo “values” for cool things like running water, cell phones and gay sex… I’m sure he’ll be excited to one day experience them all without being likened to the evils of Sodom and Gomorrah ;)
Course, SYTYCD will never admit a lick of it ha.
Kent 7 years ago
June 17th, 2010 at 2:11 am
This debate between posters makes me feel bad for Kent. When I was 17 (smalltown hs homecoming king too!) I was popular, masculine but artsy, and dated girls but had .. doubts. One day I overheard my dad saying about an unmarried uncle of mine: ‘Just because someone’s a little feminine or artistic it doesn’t mean they’re GAY. I have nothing against GAYS but ‘Uncle Jim’ just lives for his work; lots of people are like that… my son would date a lot more girls if he wasn’t so busy with school!’. That comment was a blatant way of saying ‘No gays in our family (ie: town)- no, we just have ‘artistic bachelors’.
So when I clearly stopped fantasizing about women, I became ‘bisexual’ in my head- but dared not tell him. When I was able to finally be honest with myself, I felt there was no way I could tell anyone else. I lied to my best friends, my girlfriends, my family, everyone- for 5 years. Then I started to go crazy, really crazy… so I wrote them a very direct angry letter, assuming they would be crazy disappointed in me. They all said ‘why didn’t you tell us earlier!?’
I literally would have told everyone the truth when I told myself the truth if it wasn’t for hearing my dad’s opinion. Instead I wasted 6 years of lying to keep other people happy. If I would have seen a friend or family member defend me online when I was 19, it would have had the same effect, like pre-rejection. It is a process, especially when someone has a lot on their plate, and people will do a lot to not disappoint you. Words are very strong… and children will listen.
I say all this because I get the feeling that it needs to be heard by those who defended him. I know how small towns can be, especially when you’re the golden child of the family. And- did you actually listen to his answer… I mean- no tiny blond artsy farmboy fantasizes about Beyonce… really! Beyonce?! That’s the same kind of knee-jerk answer that I’d always give! (I used to say Brittany).
All the stuff- the lisp, the moves (jessica rabbit!), the pink shirt, the artistic career, the high school girlfriend, the ‘tolerance’- it’s what us kids do when we don’t feel comfortable saying out loud that we’re gay. And we do it because we hope these things will say it for us or ease people into it. That is the translation – so for those who know Kent, tell him one day ‘I know you’re gay- and it’s totally fine…’ I would bet everything I own that he wishes his family/friends would just say it.
Mama F- Saying ‘in our town we have values… I know him; he is straight’- is the kind of thing that will hurt him, no matter your intention. People are what they are, how they were born- I spent so long lying to people because I knew it’s what they wanted to hear. In the end it hurt me more than any of them… be a good mama – do not assume yourself, and please do not END the conversation .. with him. This advice may seem blasphemous to you, but it can literally save so many tears.
Adam
June 17th, 2010 at 5:51 am
Thanks for your story “Kent of years ago”… the word “blasphemous” totally bowled me over with how precise it is: against god. It’s such a tragedy to think that so (SO) many damn guys and girls are living their lives for others and out of a need to not disappoint/anger/depress the people around them. Worst of all, it’s nearly always the people they care about the most themselves.
Thanks for adding the first person perspective on this cause I don’t think anyone was gonna take my word for it that the answer of “beyonce” is no 17 year old boy’s first reaction to his “ideal girl”… not from that small town it ain’t ha.
Bit by bit things are getting better… ish… let’s just keep pushing the mama’s and the Nigel’s of the world to start accepting us and not denying the gays cause that’s not what their values allow.
Dastius Krazitauc
June 17th, 2010 at 7:04 am
“To make assumptions based on stereotypes is wrong.”
Jane, tell it to Nigel Lithgoe. He sees something onstage that he sees as “mincing” and he tells the boys to cut it out because of the assumptions it causes him to make. He should just shut up about it and let the dancers be themselves.
lindsey
June 17th, 2010 at 8:12 am
sorry to burst your bubble, but kent is FOR SURE not gay. I know him personally, and he DEFINITELY likes girls. (my sister dates his brother, and I am friends with both of them) Quit throwing the gay card at people who you know nothing about.
Dastius Krazitauc
June 17th, 2010 at 8:34 am
“Well where we live people actually have VALUES and stand behind them. ”
Where you live people VALUE standing behind closet doors.
Pal
June 17th, 2010 at 8:59 am
Wow, Kent gay?!?! R u kidding Im from
his home town and I no for a fact Kent is NOT gay!! Haha I love the people who r all omg he should exspress he’s gay…well dear party people, he is NOT gay..he’s goes to OBM
and is a very strong christain, so I’m
sorry to burst ur little “big city” bubbles but he’s straight! Oh and if ur getting some where by telling people some day god won’t be the main fact in kents life….may god bless ur soul Is all I can really say…ur words…he’s only 18 people need to
let him be who he is!! Well sonny eat ur words!! Stop trashen on Kent..shut up and let the kid be who he freaken wants to
be…god loves
Adam
June 17th, 2010 at 10:03 am
I’m so terribly excited the Christian Right had picked up this story. Hellfire and original sin to follow folks :p
JoeyB
June 17th, 2010 at 10:50 am
Interesting… google image search any of the contestants and you get allll kinds of pics. Search for Kent Boyd… you get hardly anything.. Obviously they are working hard to supress / remove images of him.. Granted, many of them have copyright issues, but those same issues would apply to all of the other contestants and you can find pics of them.. As for the home town heros who protest his straightness… I too was straight in the eyes of my community until I was about 25.. I had girlfriends, prop and homecoming dates, all that jazz.. This kid screams gay.
Denis
June 17th, 2010 at 11:02 am
You’re a bigot, why would you say “obviously gay”, you’re just as ignorant as someone prejudice to the gay community. Nigel’s response is completely accurate, the dancer’s sexual orientation is completely irrelevant to the competition.
I hope that we can get past stereotypes, men don’t have to exude masculinity to be straight. You wish you could have him, but you can’t, get over it. My god, people are so ignorant on this form. Not everyone is the same. You can be an artist, a little feminine, whatever and still be in love with women. Just like blacks don’t have to be a part of ignorant stereotypes made about them.
Dastius Krazitauc
June 17th, 2010 at 11:16 am
“You can be an artist, a little feminine, whatever and still be in love with women.”
You’re exactly right, and that is why Nigel needs to stop trying to stamp out all traces of femininity in the men. But you know, if a dancer’s sexual orientation is irrelevant to the competition, why do they make a big fuss over what kind of girl a boy dancer may want, or how big a crush one may have on Cat? That should be irrelevant, right?
Adam
June 17th, 2010 at 1:20 pm
It SHOULD be Dastius… but then the ratings would suffer… moms and the girls out there need to believe if they vote enough he’ll date em’ and of COURSE you can only be behind a “good values christian” where the word homo is only ever used when buyin’ milk from farmer joe down the road.
Dastius Krazitauc
June 17th, 2010 at 1:42 pm
Adam, you’re right, all that hetero-propping is to get the female audience more invested in the dreamy boys, but you know, I think they’re oblivious to the “mincing” Nigel is so repulsed by. Look how they swoon over male figure skaters, or Clay Aiken or Adam Lambert. Look how the posters flocking here to “defend” Kent are oblivious to the reasons people think he might be gay. In the end, I think Nigel is just imposing his own issues with masculinity on the show.
Adam
June 17th, 2010 at 3:08 pm
I’m not sure which is worse: if he’s doing it because “that’s what he was raised to believe” or because “the Neilsen boxes light up the second a boy declares himself single to tween girls”.
*There WILL be a follow up article to last night’s hilarious episode of “Nigel straighting up dancing in Amercia: AKA the Kent Boyd is Straight Show”
starla
June 17th, 2010 at 7:25 pm
wow, I’m surprised by this outpouring of “friends from Kent’s hometown. Considering it’s such a tiny place you’d think they wouldn’t be quite so overly represented here on this article.
Kent isn’t gay just like Clay Aiken wasn’t gay all those years. He had many people who “swore” he was straight (including himself) because he wasn’t ready to openly own his sexuality. Kent is 18. it’s a tough age for anyone but for a young gay man from a small town it’s probably even more difficult.
What matters most is that Kent is a wonderful dancer.
Now, Nigel and SYTYCD def show homophobic tendencies and I said as much to a friend of mine today at work. This surprises me because a good many of the dancers, esp male, in the industry are probably gay. Adam Shankman is gay and even he makes anti-gay comments IMO. It’s shameful really but progress is being made so there is hope that soon entertainment will catch up with society and the industry will realize that the truth is most Americans don’t give a crap about someone’s sexuality if they are talented enough to entertain them.
starla
June 17th, 2010 at 7:27 pm
adding on.. look at Adam Lambert for an example of that. He’s doing extremely well as an openly out and proud gay man.
Donnie
June 17th, 2010 at 8:07 pm
I agree with the article 100%. I love the show, but every damn season the judges make anti-gay comments. They desperately attempt to heterosexualize the boys and assume to a rediculous degree that they are all “hot for girls”. It’s really become incredibly degrading and humiliating. They never let the gay contestants just be themselves (like the het ones get to do).
Adam
June 17th, 2010 at 10:46 pm
Absolutely Starla and Donnie!
I CONSTANTLY roll my eyes at Adam Shankman’s “Lady, you’re gorgeous I can barely keep myself from sweating… so sexy.. SO SEXY”… and to top that is Nigel’s frequently inappropriate comments about the “extreme hotness” of the youngest girls on the show.
Christ, let a gay guy just be gay :P
a1loj2364
June 18th, 2010 at 7:55 am
kent isnt gay. hes isnt being forved to say anything or hold anything back trust me that is pure him. so quit crying about how sytycd is so anti gay for not letting speak out his true feelinngs or whatever because hes straight annd proud of it. he doesnt have to please you poor hopeless gays with your fantasy of him being a hopeless gay also. the show is about who the best technical dancer is, not who puts on the best show for gays, and tge judges are trying to be the most traditionally fair. there is no need for whos gay and whos not gay to take over the entire show. if you really want someone to speak out go fricken dance that good yourself and then ruin your chances by disgusting the millions of straight teens who look up to you
and one more time. kent. is. not. gay. period.
a1loj2364
June 18th, 2010 at 7:58 am
they arent anti gay they are just trying to be a dance comptiion and arent resticting anyones fricken art
Dastius Krazitauc
June 18th, 2010 at 8:03 am
The whole thing seems perverse to me. Older gay, or seemingly gay, choreographers making heteroerotic dances for young gay, or seemingly gay, dancers to perform, who are then judged by older gay, or seemingly gay, judges who try to stamp out any perceived gayness in the young dancer.
a1loj2364
June 18th, 2010 at 8:13 am
thank you jared and open minded and mama f. and shut up miguel. you are wrong. not my opinion. fact. u say that ur rights are being oppresed? what about kents! u so cleearly fight for people to express their own sexuality, and then you go and completly declare kent GAY! leave him alone he doesnt care about you pathetic gays who want everyone to acccept them. truth be told its never going to happen.
a1loj2364
June 18th, 2010 at 8:29 am
to joey b and starla – you dont know who kent is and you dont know us home town heroes. stop saying how kent is pretending and all his hillbilly friends are to stupid to realize it. you cant predict his life. just because were from a smaller town doesnt mean were cut offf from the world orr something and dont know what gay is. kent would actually probably know the best about this. he isnt trying to please anyone and isnt “obviously gay”. he just realizes that life doesnt have to be as dramatic as everyone wants to be, as demonstated by your disgusttingly know it all commenta
a1loj2364
June 18th, 2010 at 8:42 am
joey he isnt pretending. so quit being so proud. please. let him be himself. you have no right to be this rude. if it really isnt the people closest to you who inderstand who you are, then i should be able to sit here and call you a lying, proud, know it All idiot who is only embarrising himself just ad equally as yoy can call kent gay and not be questioned about it. unless you admit that you really dont know him and just want to be hateful. and i guarrantee we hate you
by the way, whats a cell phone?
go to h***
Adam
June 18th, 2010 at 11:34 am
WOW… that was a lot of anger.
That’s what happens when you out someone to the small city- I see when Kent is so scared to be who he is on TV a bit better now.
a1(steak sauce), when you say: “admit that you really dont [sic] know him and just want to be hateful. and i guarrantee [sic] we hate you” you help make our point PERFECTLY.
a) it isn’t “hateful” to discuss how someone is a homosexual, to think that’s a way of “hating on” someone is exactly the way of thinking that we’re struggling against and is completely what SYTYCD is supporting with their imposition of straightness on the dancers.
b) thank you for your use of punctuation and oh-so carefully chosen grammar… you make my point more thoroughly with every message of anti-gay you post… (apostrophes and spellcheck may be scary in Springfield or wherever, but big city boys like em’ just fine ;)
c) regarding that… ask someone to explain why I kept writing “sic” in your quotation… before you assume that means I’m making a puke sound or something equally cute you might think ;)
Keaton
June 18th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
I’m personal friends with Kent and I must say he is not gay.
That was a lie. Anyone can say it in an attempt to defend Kent. I’m not a personal friend of his, not even a friend. Just a fan who absolutely adores him.
I think a lot of people are so caught up in whether or not he is gay, that they are overlooking the fact how talented he is. I agree with you completely, Adam. I think that SYTYCD is definitely trying to heterosexualize the show, and it’s downright sickening. All [with perhaps exception of one] of this year’s male contestants are gay. I don’t have to be friends with them, or be from their hometown, to tell you that. Call it stereotyping, but it’s true.
Secondly, to all of those who are “from his hometown”, you all seem rather upset about this and show it with your hate for anyone that calls Kent gay. If anything, be happy for him that he’s become nationally known for his talent and for who he is, gay or straight.
Chris
June 18th, 2010 at 7:58 pm
Kent is most definitely a young gay man. It is really despicable how Freepers are faking to be his friends. Sorry, Kent is gay and there’s nothing wrong with that. When he masturbates, do you honestly think he fantasizes about breasts and vaginas? Give me a break! It’s sickening how desperate people are to imagine that he is straight so as to ease their conscience. It’s such a double standard that the judges will constantly make quips about one of the boys getting tons of votes from girls, while never EVER stating the reality that thousands of fellow gay boys will be voting for Kent. A big F.U. to homophobe Nigel.
Chris
June 18th, 2010 at 8:00 pm
OMG, Dastius you speak pure truth. That is so right on!
Just a fan of the show
June 19th, 2010 at 12:30 am
Wow. I have to disagree with all those saying that “omg he is not gay you’re wrong he is a good christian and values etc etc” Good and values is not the opposite of gay. that’s dumb. Furthermore, I have to disagree with all those shoving the idea that he is gay down everyone’s throats like it matters. I know sometimes people want people to be things they’re not, but if he isn’t gay he isn’t freaking gay. Also, if he isn’t straight, he isn’t freaking straight and same for everything in between. No one knows but Kent himself and I personally don’t think he is gay but that is it. that’s the keyword, THINK.
Also for same sex ballroom dancers thing: that was just bad all in all. the dancing idc if they’re both guys. When you’re dancing for yourself yeah whatever but these choreographers are putting on a show and a performance with specific roles, it’s performance art and if they want a leading male and a female to pick up/throw around and wear a ‘sexy dress’ for ballroom for make a smokin routine. so what? it’s just as ignorant to bash it the other way. Also the show’s format IS to switch partners and there are lifts etc involved. there is NO comparison to race on this subject….this isn’t about segregation/rights/etc. It seems like someone is just wanting to see two guys dance together. I don’t think nigels comment was rude either. (i don’t know how many of these people from kent’s home town are real because they ALL found this little old site that has the word homo in it, lmao) but for those of you all like “he’s just not out , he is 1100% gay his hometown oppresses him etc etc.” lol what? omniscient or did i miss something?… (and no im not straight, bi) and i love gay people to death (as i do people in general because it shouldn’t separate….) but jeez i couldn’t believe some of the comments I read above trying to force kent to be gay and the reverse…
Darren
June 19th, 2010 at 2:56 am
I understand where both sides are coming from. But ultimately Adam is right. Kent’s out-status aside, Nigel has been a complete pig the past couple of seasons. He has become extremely outspoken and just socially disgusting for me to hear. I understand that he feels the men should play a masculine role in dance, but what someone is outside of that routine shouldn’t be misrepresented or censored for the sake of precious ratings. They go on and on about getting to know our dancers, well when you scream “i’m single!” you put yourself in that position. If kent is being victimized, he made himself the victim. And i’m sick and tired of the correlation between Christian and Gay.”you people who know kent” if you believe that being Christian and Gay is wrong, what are you doing on a website aimed for a gay audience? off subject, but just curious. And another thing, contrary to backwoods retard belief, one’s sexuality has no reflection on his religion. Kent can be a great small town Christian boy who likes penis. I’m a devoted Christian who loves Christ and church and penis. Adam i agree with you, i just recently discovered homorazzi, and thank God i did. I looove your articles and look forward to them every week!
Adam
June 19th, 2010 at 3:06 am
Haha, Darren, I almost wish you hadn’t written that last line because me saying THANK YOU FOR GETTING THIS will sadly sound slightly less sincere now that you’ve declared yourself a razzi-fan ha. STILL, i’ll say it anyway: thank you for so getting basically all the of points of this article and commentary exchange. I totally agree on all you’ve said. Really glad you like this site and my argument!
Dastius Krazitauc
June 19th, 2010 at 4:28 am
Just a Fan of the Show, the thing about those two male ballroom dancers who auditioned: Whenever any two people audition as a couple, they are really auditioning as individuals, because they are going to be split up to compete on the show. Had they gotten on the show, they would have competed just like the other boys on the show.
I wasn’t pissed off that they didn’t make it past the auditions, but that the producers packaged the mocking and laughing at the sissy gay boys and served it up for the viewing audience to laugh too. They didn’t need to air Nigel’s comments about “try it with a girl, you might like it” or show him laughing as one of the boys fell flat on his back. Anytime anyone else falls, everyone shows concern, but when they gay boy falls, it’s hysterical?
And the same goes for Nigel’s notes to the boys about butching it up. If he feels that way, tell them that off air. Don’t put that on the show where we all have to hear it, especially young kids dealing with their identity and how they fit in this world.
And, thanks, Chris!
Jerry
June 19th, 2010 at 10:29 pm
Fan of the Show, to answer your question about how small towners are finding this discussion, I just typed in Kent Boyd on Google and this article was one of the results. I wasn’t doing a specified Google search for “Homo Kent Boyd” or some such thing. Just wanted to clear that up since it is the easiest and most uncontroversial answer I can offer.
I don’t agree that people who know Kent can be certain of his sexuality, regardless of how personal the relationship may be. Kent and perhaps a select few others in his life in whom he has confided will know with certainty. I am not going to speak out to defend his hetero or homosexuality, but rather I want to speak out to defend his right to make that statement for himself.
I read the posts from both sides and find myself baffled at how people think they know so much about other people just because of what they know about themselves. Regardless of what Kent is…Kent is not you. I know it helps us feel better about ourselves when we find a talented person to relate, and we want to think they are like us and we are like them. Both sides are projecting themselves onto Kent to make assumptions. Maybe that is just how the human mind works, but maybe we could at least have the humility to say “ultimately I choose to let Kent speak for himself, because he knows himself better than I know him.”
Is this discussion really about Kent’s sexuality? Do we not have anything better to do with our lives than to decide a young man’s sexuality for him? This discussion is about (or at least I hope) the freedom to express ourselves, including our sexuality. I propose that perhaps it is a sensible thing to allow some people the freedom to turn to a channel that allows them to maintain the value that homosexuality is wrong in spite of what uppity city fellers decide to pontificate as being the acceptable norms.
Even assuming those lowly trailer-dwelling ignorant white trash middle-Americans are in the wrong; don’t they have the right to be wrong? I think those small town hicks that the homosexual community enjoys beating up on and attacking with cute labels like “homophobic, religious extremist, far right” and blah blah blah just might be deserving of a right to continue to contribute to the decision of who America is going to be. You don’t have the right to decide for all of them, even if you are the educated elite. What makes your city the “real world” any more than their town is the “real world”?
I’m sure it makes it easier to disagree with people when we label them as extremists and bigots, but stop and think about the words you are using. Is someone really “homophobic” just because they don’t agree with your open-armed embrace of the homosexual lifestyle? Is someone really an extremist just because they don’t agree with your belief that sexuality is comparable to the uncontrollable nature of race or gender?
luke
June 21st, 2010 at 11:59 am
kent you just keep being who you want to be!!! and don’t let assholes bring ya down. rock on brother!!!
Kaley
June 22nd, 2010 at 2:41 pm
So You Think You Can Dance.
I don’t understand why sexuality has to be an issue on this show period. I also don’t think it’s fair to call out Kent in particular, but I agree that the homophobia on the show in general is an issue. Kent should not be subject to so much debate over his sexuality because honestly, it shouldn’t even matter. He is an incredible dancer and that’s what we should be talking about. I agree that any feminity in the men should not be stamped out, and that they should be able to be open with the sexualiy if they choose to but individual cases are irrelevant. There have been other openly gay contestants on previous seasons, but we’re not talking about them much. Kent has a right to keep things like this to himself and we (random spectators) should not be so argumentative over Kent. Judgements should not be made. This goes for both us and the show. I’m not going to defend Kent, because I don’t know him. But I also doubt that any of you know him personally either.
Kaley
June 22nd, 2010 at 2:48 pm
Jerry’s post really makes sense to me.
Just because you may find some similarities between what you know of Kent, and yourself, does not make him gay. He should be able to determine his own sexuality, not randoms on a “homorazzi” website.
He should have the the freedom to decide either way, and I do agree that the show does not make this easy. All I know is that Kent is an amazing dancer, no matter what gender he prefers.
Cameron
June 22nd, 2010 at 11:57 pm
I just want to point out that there have been several boy boy performances starting in season 2 (Travis & Benji) [if you recall there was belly to belly backflips that got provacatively close to being a standing 69], also Neil & Danny in season 2, possibly others. Also, its funny how quick you were to point out the people claiming to know Kent personally could be rumors but readily accepted the Canadian contestant Tyrell’s account. Someone else might’ve brought that up already, but this is getting long.
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 11:34 am
Hey Cameron, thanks for the critical look- i do like the debate :)
My point against the “token male/male” dances at the end of the season they throw out is that it’s 9 times out of 10 a “duel of machismo” of sorts.. you will NEVER see a love story between those penised dancers where you will every other time with girl/guy pairings.. i’m just saying there’s a double standard that cares about profits and dumbed down audiences with ludicrous conservative values and not representing real male dancers (who, sorry to say ladies are gay 90% of the time).
As far as me blindly believe the word of this “tyrell” kid haha, he’s actually a friend and I saw him in person less than a week ago so it’s a BIT easier for me to believe he’s real than the faceless “kent’s best friend he use to pick up chicks with” ;)
Terri
June 23rd, 2010 at 1:10 pm
*Clapping* for Jerry’s comment. Well written – well said.
Rich
June 23rd, 2010 at 1:56 pm
@Jerry and Terri…
“Is someone really an extremist just because they don’t agree with your belief that sexuality is comparable to the uncontrollable nature of race or gender?”
Maybe not “extremist”… but definitely ignorant, intolerant, and closed-minded.
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:13 pm
Thank you Rich.
I was trying not to be the only person arguing this on here, but yeah… Jerry and Terri, they’re not “bombing the skyline of NY extremists” but they’re definitely not acceptable in my books either.
It may sound “demanding” and “expecting a lot” of those people for me to think that way- and for many gays to think that way- but, there’s only one way for actual change to be made and that’s by being forceful and arguing for equality in all things.
Terri
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:15 pm
My belief is that everyone has a right to be whomever they want to be. Spiritually we are all equal, in every way. How someone chooses to live their life is none of my business. I have extremely close family members that are gay and have been out for a long time. I’m proud of them because they are beautiful, wonderful, people not because of any sexuality issue.
My problem with this article is someone thinking they have a right to out someone else – without their permission and without real knowledge of any facts. I think that is rude to the person who’s life is being discussed. Whether or not someone is gay is their business and it’s also their choice if and when they choose to out themselves.
I would assume, that in the dance world, it would be easier to come out – you wouldn’t be “the only one.” My nephew is a dancer in NY and he’s out and has been for years. But, I knew he was gay long before he figured it out. When he was sure, and when he was ready, he came out. No one was surprised. But, we also didn’t push him even though everyone knew. It had to be his decision.
I just think everyone is unfairly discussing someone’s sexuality without having the right to do so. If you want to discuss SYTYCD and issues regarding homosexuality on the show – that is a fair topic. But, to take a young dancer, who is fresh out of high school, who is suddenly in the bright lights, and write your assumptions about him – well, that’s just not right. IMO, of course. Your opinion may vary.
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:24 pm
And, if this article was about Kent’s homosexuality then I would agree. I wrote this not to “out” anyone in any way… actually it was a total surprise that more than one or two people even argued about the fact ha.
This article is actually about what you’re arguing!
You wrote:
“I just think everyone is unfairly discussing someone’s sexuality without having the right to do so.”
EXACTLY! The fact that they- Cat and the writers and producers of the show- choose to assume he was straight (and really, force him to be so with that unavoidably leading question during a pseudo live performance) and cut off HIS right to be in/out/gay/bit whatever HE wanted to be.
You’re saying it’s wrong of me to write this as it assumes his sexuality, but where’s your anger over them assuming he’s straight? If they had asked him (live): “What kind of guy do you like?” the outrage would be tremendous… but asking: “What kind of girl do you like?” gets nothing? That’s a double standard solely based out of the innate feeling by so many that assuming someone is straight is “fine” but gay… that’s (to use your words): “Just not right”.
to me… THAT’S what’s just not right.
Nothing wrong with being gay: nothing wrong with being straight. I NEVER needed him to declare he’s a homo on live tv, but for THEM to force him into answering about being “straight” ain’t cool.
Terri
June 23rd, 2010 at 2:32 pm
But, Adam, you don’t know for sure. You’re assuming. And, you may be right – but, you don’t know.
A fair article would be to present your argument without using someone’s name that hasn’t chosen to voice their sexuality in the way you want them to. Find an example that you can use with someone who has chosen to be out. You don’t have the right to out someone. Do you? Would you have wanted someone to do that to you?
I think your cause is a good one. I agree that no one should be forced to pretend they are something they’re not. But, I have a feeling this person may not even know who they are yet and therefore they are very happy just to go with the flow. And, assumptions about this person may be way off base. It’s just not our place to decide that for them.
Using that person to make your point is the part I have an issue with. Not the point that you are making – that is a very good point.
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:00 pm
No, that’s my point though.
I’m wondering why you haven’t argued with the show…:
“But [SYTYCD] you don’t know for sure. You’re assuming. And, you may be right – but, you don’t know.”
I would use your exact words to them Terri: “You don’t have the right to [in] someone. Do you?”
How is it fair to argue with me saying he’s gay and not them saying he’s straight? THAT’S the point of the article.
You’re right, it’s “not our place to decide that for them” and that’s what the show did.
Once again, what i’m saying is that the reasons they did it (money, advertisement) and the consistency they do this kind of thing (see NUMEROUS past gay dancers and how they’re ONLY ever asked about how it is to be around such “hot girls” they “must” be crushing on) as well as the fact that NO one would argue calling someone straight is “wrong” but me saying he’s “gay” is something to take issue with.
That’s straight up a bigoted double standard and it’s a LOT to expect that to change with America etc., but i’m hopeful fighting for it one day might made a change.
Terri
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:11 pm
This person has given the impression they are straight. That’s the difference. Whether or not they are – or are not – is not the point. They have acted as though their choice is to be heterosexual and the show has played on that because this person is a good, fun interview. You’ll notice that this topic is not being discussed for the other dancers, most likely because they wouldn’t be as fun to interview on the topic – otherwise I’m sure the show would take advantage of that.
Anyway, I’m not sure you’re going to hear my point or even want to. And, that, of course, is also your right. As this is only my opinion.
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:20 pm
Oh Terri, you’re sweet, but no, I do get your point.
That you think that Billy and Alex aren’t being asked about their sex lives/crushes on live tv because they’re not “fun interviews” is adorable.
I don’t want to burst some bubbles here, but those boys are gay as well (i can only IMAGINE your shock to see that one… I’ll send you some #s of guys who “know” alex if you really, again want to see the straight in people hehe” ) and unfortunately too gay (out) that the show can’t pass them as a selling tool to young girls so they DON’T ask about their sex lives for that very reason. Omitting the topic all together with those two they allow the more naive girls out there the chance to dream (and of course to call in, watch the show and buy the products being sold on it)… again, THAT’S what’s not okay. Only straight sells and because Kent is as young as he is and still has remnants of ambiguity left, that’s why the show is describing him forcefully so.
DreamChaser
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:28 pm
I am an out gay man who has been a stage performer for many years so I know how it feels to be surpressed and not allowed to be who you are. In reading this post, I agree with alot of what has been said. I want equal rights as much as the next person. I would love, one day to be judged soley on my talent and not my sexuality and I will be and already am right there on the front lines making my voice heard. All that being said, I think we are being VERY unfair to Kent and completely missing the reason he is on SYTYCD.
As we all know, the premise of SYTYCD is to find “Americas Favorite Dancer”, and Kent embodies 100% what this show is about. I am thouroughly enjoying watching this good looking, fresh, profoundly talented young man go from small town america to the big city and national television to get to LIVE HIS DREAM!!!
It is very refreshing to see Kent, put his heart and soul into every move and every step, and then stand before the judges with no ego and soak in what they say like a sponge. It was awesome to see him react with an “Oh Cool!!” when Mia Michaels told him he started looking like a real ballroom dancer. He is innocent yet determined and works is cute little ass off and I for one am very happy that I get to witness the beginning of his growth into a hugely successful dancer / performer.
I cant speak for Kent, but if his growing up was anything like mine, living in a small community like that, you start to think the dream is never going to happen because there isnt an outlet here. Sure you can move to the big city and try your luck, but its scary and can end up being very discouraging and often times kill the dream. I personally think Kent is gay, but that DOES NOT MATTER. Gay or straight, he is getting to do something that not alot of people get to do. I applaud him for having the courage to put it all out there in the hopes of achieving his dream.
I agree that SYTYCD is very supressing to young gay men while on the show, and will continue to voice my opinion and encourage others to do the same. However, lets not loose sight of the show and giving the talented people on the show, gay or straight, Kent or whomever is your favorite is, all the support they deserve.
Terri
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:29 pm
And – again. You may be right Adam. And, no, I would not be shocked in any way to find out they were all gay. This would be my natural assumption. But, there again, is that word. Assumption.
As I said before, it would be easier to come out in the dance world – there is a reason I said that.
Your points on this person are well taken. I think you’re saying the same thing I am. We’re just saying it differently.
I still come back to the same point, that you don’t have the right to assume when someone hasn’t made that choice for themselves. Use those that are out to make your point.
I do appreciate the healthy discussion though. Thank you for that.
I’m also glad you think I’m sweet. I’m sure I’m old enough to be your mother. But, I don’t bake cookies so don’t ask for those. : – )
Adam
June 23rd, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Thanks DreamChaser!
If you click on on coverage of SYTYCD button up top you’ll see that fellow writer Dan actually covers the SHOW and the DANCING so we definitely have that on here and that’s completely what his articles are dedicated to.
That being fully discussed somewhere else, I decided to use this for a forum concerning this specific topic though. So, I understand your desire to see an article about the dancing in which case my editorial about the show’s editing etc. is not the one for you, that’s definitely this one:
http://www.homorazzi.com/article/sytycd7-top-11-performances-videos-sonya-tayeh-alex-wong-allison-holker-contemporary-cat-deeley-recap/
Kayla
June 23rd, 2010 at 8:26 pm
I don’t understand why anyone would post this on the internet. He is following his dream and this shouldn’t even be something that matters. Not to mention as a close friend to Kent, if he isn’t gay he isn’t gay!
Dastius Krazitauc
June 23rd, 2010 at 8:27 pm
“I would assume, that in the dance world, it would be easier to come out ”
One would think, but SYTYCD flies in the face of that assumption. “Be a warrior!”, “Be a man!” . It brings images of overbearing homophobic parents humiliating a “sensitive” son, and it nauseates me.
Ritz
June 23rd, 2010 at 10:49 pm
Whoa. I don’t understand where this assumption that Kent is gay came from. Whether he is or not, it’s up to him to deal with; but you’re getting defensive and angry over the assumption that he IS, and that it is thus being oppressed by the show. If it wasn’t just speculation that Kent was gay, then yes, this article is completely justified, and I’d totally agree with you – but how can you be sure that he is?
In general, though, I completely get what you’re saying. I’m really glad that artists like Adam Lambert have decided to publicly state their sexuality for everyone to hear, challenging traditional views of gender roles, and are not backing down from it. I love Adam for his talent and charisma. And I know thousands others do as well; it’s not such a homophobic society as it used to be.
Btw, isn’t Adam Shankman gay as well? I remember reading somewhere that he was; self-proclaimed, that is, not the rumour/gossip crap from magazines.
Ritz
June 23rd, 2010 at 11:56 pm
Oh, and there is actual proof of Alex being gay; or at least, as close to proof as we’ll get. I can find the link to the youtube video if anyone wants it.
I don’t know how it is in America, so I can’t say, but I know that in Canada, where I have lived all my life, we have absolutely nothing against homosexuals. But people are still getting used to the openly flamboyant ways of some, and that’s expected. It’s easier for the younger generation, but for some, who have been raised a certain way, not through any fault of their own. It’ll take time for everyone to adapt.
Of course, there are still some stubborn homophobes that refuse to accept the fact that there’s nothing wrong with homosexuality and insist on flaming anything related. Fortunately, they are a dying breed.
The hardest is changing the unspoken views of disapproval. Like a previous commentor said, I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to see masculine dancing, but it is obviously a direct statement against homosexuality when one deliberately censors anything of such a nature; such as the example of Jimmy and Jesus.
Kay, I’ve kinda lost my track here; all in all, I admire you for taking a stand against homophobia, and I completely identify with the fact that society and media are so cruel and so condemning of anything different. I was pretty shocked by Cat’s question as well, and I find a lot of the judge’s comments (aside from Mia) excessive. But I still don’t think it’s right to be using Kent as your argument with such certainty, when you can’t even be sure that he is gay. Whichever he is, it is his right to deal with it and figure it out as he wants.
sarah lee
June 24th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
I know kent. He’s most certainly not gay, and his mom is absolutely wonderful, so I understand his comment.
Lee
June 24th, 2010 at 4:48 pm
I am originally from the Wapakoneta area and now live on the east coast. Please do not think all small town mid-westerners think like these people claiming they and Kent have “small town values”. yuck. There are so many people in that area who do believe being gay is just as acceptable as being straight. I swear in my twenty years living there I never heard one person say they had small town values. That’s laughable. I just cringed when SYTYCD focused on Wapak and made it look like a joke. Forget the concern about gay stereotyping…try being from a small town in the midwest and watching the media depict where your from as Mayberry..ah, but that’s another forum…
p.s. Did anyone see Kent’s house?? hahaha…definitely not a trailer with a dirt road.
sarah lee
June 24th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
I just spent nearly an hour reading every single comment.
I AM from Wapak, I DO dance with Kent, and I AM offended.
First, Adam, why did you make fun of people for their mistakes in typing? seems to me you’re having trouble finding a way to regain your footing.
Second, Who cares if he’s gay???? He’s an amazing person, and if any of you knew me personally, you’d know I hate when people assume this sort of thing. My father keeps my brothers out of dance for fear of gay sons. my best friend (No, not Kent) is the gayest person I have ever met’ and I love him to death. Being gay doesn’t make you any less of a dancer, or any more of one. If it’s such a big deal it’s news to the people of Wapakoneta.
Third, how dare you, Adam, make fun of someone for values?? I am the most religeous personi’ve ever met, and my values shape my life, and my dancing. You can be old fashioned and still have fun stuff, jerk. And many people from Wapakoneta may be defensive of our homeboy because of what has happened these past few months. One of the students at Wapak high, and a personal friend of my brother’s, committed suicide because people made assumptions about his goth apperance and quiet side. Because of some moronic girls believeing it’s okay to assume something, a boy died. It may seem less important to someone from the “big city”, but imagine your best friend, and imagine it happening to them. And if it still doesn’t matter, you and every other fingerpointing bigot can kiss my tee shirt and jeans, jazz shoes and leotard covered a** .
Bravo to those willing to stand up for a wonderful boy, with miles of talent, whether he’s gay or straight. To the rest of you, I politetly say, “Yall can grow up and smell the manure now, ya hear??”
alyssa
June 24th, 2010 at 10:51 pm
just like to set it straight, i know personally kent’s not gay. idk where you get that, just so you have your facts. I do agree theres a bit against outright homosexuality on the show, but not with kent, because I do promise you that I know he’s straight, thanks.
Adam
June 24th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
Thanks for the comment Alyssa, i’d love to reply but kind of feel once things turn to kids killing themselves there’s really nothing appropriate for me to say at all after that- certainly not when my article is about a tv show’s unfair practices of inequality for $$.
I’m really excited this topic elicited such strong response but if the arguments are turning to children taking their lives there’s nothing more that can be respectfully said/argued/commented on my part.
I’ll be putting out a new article about the most recent performance episode in the next couple days if you’d like to continue discussing things there though folks!
Jerry
June 24th, 2010 at 11:18 pm
Is someone really an extremist just because they don’t agree with your belief that sexuality is comparable to the uncontrollable nature of race or gender?
“Maybe not ‘extremist’… but definitely ignorant, intolerant, and closed-minded.” -Rich-
Should I assume that you consider yourself open-minded? What do you expect of people who believe a given religion that condemns homosexuality such as Mormons, Roman Catholics, Jews, Muslims, Christians, etc. They all believe that their moral high ground is a document or collections of documents guided by God. The religion with the most veracity can be established with historical evidence, but many believers within those religions will still hold to their convictions out of faith in documents they believe come from God (whether directly or indirectly). My point is this: For people of various religious groups, their moral high ground is the document they believe came from God, because He has the authority to tell people what to value, what not to value, and what to condemn. What is your moral high ground? What makes your conviction better, (not ignorant, close-minded, extremist, bigoted, or intolerant like your counterparts) than the convictions of those who value marriage between a man and a woman out of a conviction to what they consider to be the will of God?
Rich
June 25th, 2010 at 9:27 am
Hi Jerry… I’ve actually been very involved in my life with parts of the United Church of Canada. It is an incredibly welcoming, progressive, forward-thinking, open, and safe church. They do not condemn homosexuals… just like your religion probably does not stone divorcees any more. The UCC welcome people of all backgrounds and even encourages them to become pastors and ministers.
My beef is not with religion… it is with PEOPLE… people who choose to let dogma guide their lives. The bible is a guide… it was never meant to be taken literally. You should use it to help inform your own worldview… not simply accept the one handed to you.
There is a book… by a wonderful Canadian author named Timothy Findlay called Not Wanted On The Voyage. It is a wonderful re-imagining of the events around the great flood and Noah’s family. At the end of the day… the hero is not Noah… but a drag queen named Lucy. Her real name? Lucifer.
It is just a story… but there are moral lessons to be learned. Morality is not defined by scripture or who we love, but in the way we treat others. That was the lesson the devil in drag taught me.
Cameron
June 25th, 2010 at 1:52 pm
I can accept that. But have we forgotten the show is live now? Granted, there’s undoubtedly a time delay, but if Kent is gay, could he not have corrected Cat when she asked the question? Idk if he is or not (although…), but he’s playing the game as well. And i mean PLAYING. I can’t peg him down because his personality seems slightly disingenuous to me. I don’t recall Adam Lambert making any declarations until the show was over either. Anyhow, I’m not so sure we will never see a homo-love story, especially after the domestic violence piece, but I don’t see it outside the finals more because of symmetry & time constraints. They’re not going to allow the show to be become a one sexed show. And until this format change, if they had have done same sexed partners, that could have easily meant a disproportionate amount of one sex over the others through eliminations.
Sarah
June 26th, 2010 at 1:12 am
I dont think people should make assumptions about other people’s sexuality.
Im a strong believer in acceptance, and there are so many people on here being hateful and judgmental. Obviously gay people want Kent to be gay and obviously straight people want Kent to be straight. He’s adorable!
All I’m saying is Kent….
If you’re straight, call me in 5 years ;)
If you’re gay, call me in 5 years and I’ll hook you up with someone more your type!
Shoot, at 18 I was a devout Christian who didn’t drink and ate as much steak as one could handle.
Now I’m an agnostic, vegetarian bartender.
Let Kent flip this issue around in his head as much as he would like, but let’s let him decide and stop trying to do it for him, silly people. He has so much to learn and he needs to do this for himself and not have people trying to convince him what he is or is not.
Dastius Krazitauc
June 28th, 2010 at 2:37 pm
Sarah Lee, what were the assumptions about your brother’s friend that led to his suicide?
CDK
June 29th, 2010 at 7:46 am
Since when do we get to judge anyone at all. Right now Kent is living an amazing dream that a lot of us in small town USA wish our kids could live. Adam I think you need to get a job and put your time to something other than accusing people of being gay. Get a real life and hope that in it noone judges you.
Appauled
June 29th, 2010 at 12:13 pm
alright first of all i think you as a person mr….um adam is it??? are completley self centered self absorbed and utterly worthless. second of all how many people know who kent boyd is?? the answer to that is millions….how many people know who you are…10 maybe but i dont want to flatter you. and who are you to say whether he is gay or not have you personally met him? or have you slept with him? sorry hes just not your type…he actually cares about other peoples feelings and not all this judgemental bull shit. do you care if he is gay? are you attracted to him? im sure your some old fat ass who does nothing but sit on your ass and look up gay porn and feel yourself up. and your left hand is tired so give it a rest. get a job get a life and grow the hell up. some people have dreams goals and aspirations what do you have? some dumb ass blog bashing on small town STRAIGHT individuals. the small town is where you need to go for a rude awakening. we have to work for what we get and an idea of morals. the city has obviously gotten to your head. come work on a farm for a few days and then talk to me. oh sorry you couldnt do that cuz then that would cause your perfectly pedicured hands to get calases on them and then that will cause chaffing when that speck that you call a dick gets a little excited. be a man and grow the hell up cuz a a woman im purdy sure i could kick your ass. i hope your life amounts to more than this pitiful excuse for a blog.
Blake:)
June 29th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
Hi, I’m Blake and I’m a 7th grader at Botkins Schools, which is where Kent went to school, too. It makes me really sad reading all of this, because I dont think its right or fair to make assumptions of people you dont know personally. *I* do know him, and I know that he is not gay. If you think he is, I guess that you are entitled to your opinion. But just know that if you were Kent and you read this article and alll these comments, how would you feel? I’m not hating on anyone here, but I’m just stating what I know.
Kris
June 29th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
WOW!
Am not gay myself, but absolutely love the impression the readers are getting about straight people on here!
In the same paragraph you yokels are purporting your “values” and “small town, home cookin’ ways” and then spouting anti-gay hatred… on a gay site… with the word homo in the title. hahaha, you do get this site is kind of “pro” gay right?
that you see this article assuming kent boyd (be he or not) being gay as meaning anything more than saying someone likes cats instead of dogs shows exactly how small your minds and hearts are.
there’s a TON of hatred sites out there for you guys to post out, i’m sure the KKK have a few blogs out there your “outrage” over referring to someone as a homosexual would be perfectly suited for.
Sorry homorazzi, not all straight people are this dumb… i SWEAR!
“accusing people of being gay”… god you people are tiny :P
Jerry
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:29 pm
Kris, I agree with what you said about some of the so-called “people of values” actually showing themselves to be people of hate. In Appauled’s case the blind rage and superiority mindset is truly…appalling. At the same time it is important to realize that there are people who think homosexuality is wrong, not because they are hateful and/or ignorant, but because they realize that it is not a healthy lifestyle and that it is not what God intended marriage to be. I realize that trying to convince many of the readers of embracing this idea is like trying to convince Ronald McDonald to eat a bean burrito. I’m not saying that to convince anyone to agree with the opinion itself, but to perhaps persuade someone to understand that the position can be held out of love and respect and does not always have to be held because of hatred, intolerance, and ignorance.
Rich, I am confused by your position because it seems like you are encouraging me to simply shape a god around myself rather than shaping myself around God. God is bigger than me or you, so I don’t think that I am capable of changing the truth of what He is and has communicated to be right or wrong. You made the statement “The Bible is a guide. It was never meant to be taken literally.” On what grounds do you make that statement? Does the Bible say that it shouldn’t be taken literally? What do you even mean by “literally”? Would you say the same about the Koran?
dancedance
July 4th, 2010 at 2:54 pm
Uhhm. Just for the record…I danced with Kent for years at Wapakoneta.
I can firmly state that there is no way in HELL that he is gay. He is definately, definately straight.
Trey
July 4th, 2010 at 6:12 pm
It is so great to see Kent coming more and more out of his shell on the show. He’s not playing Nigel’s stupid game of forcing him to be het. I love how he is unashamedly fem and embraces his gayness. It is so sad to see people trying to force him to change his natural self. Kent is proud to be a beautiful gay boy and no one can take that away from him.
that girl
July 7th, 2010 at 2:00 am
I can’t believe Im reading this big debate about whether kent boyd is gay or not. I am SUPER gay friendly and I think this is crap. Just because he’s an 18 yr old boy with a big personality and a versatile and technically amazing dancer with a great stage presence does not mean he is gay. Don’t get me wrong, I know that the likeliness of a dancer like kent to be gay is high because we dont often see straight jazz dancers. BUT this kid is straight. I danced with him years ago..and ive danced with hundreds of gay males…i can spot a gay male from a mile away. But I do understand why the gay community would want kent to be a part of them he is a cutie huh?? This is such a silly argument!
KellStar
July 7th, 2010 at 5:07 pm
You bring up good points about Nigel but I can’t take you seriously. You remind me of Perez Hilton trying to forcibly out and guilt young stars. Disgusting. If you care about this kid, this is not the way to help.
Ryan
July 7th, 2010 at 8:51 pm
ok 2 things. the beyonce thing could have been an inside joke on the set you never know what they say. and if you watched tonight’s episode you cant tell me his kiss with laruen was faked. there was a connection there. you assumed (though well supported) that kent was gay to make a point i get it and i have nothing against gay people at all (my close friend is gay), but please don’t attempt to make assumptions based on someone’s bubbly personality
BK
July 8th, 2010 at 5:44 pm
I am amazed at what all of the so called elite, enlightened open and accepting people on this site are pretty much what much of the world is. Bigoted… You want to rag on Nigel for being anti gay boys on the show. Thats a reasonable debate on here. You all want to be judged by who you are and what you are not by your sexuality yet you so easily “know” he is gay by his actions, femine side, lisp etc etc etc. Well he may be straight or gay who cares but it shows your not as non judgmental as you want to believe you are.
You seem to be angry about whatever..maybe understandable given possible backgrounds. Many of you also show your ignorance and intolerance by your assumptions of what small towns and the people are like. Kent is from “Whatchamacallit” or whatever name you try to use to show your contempt for small town hicks, yokels and so on. Well I got news for you Big city educated elitest snobs. Small town people can move to big cities and adapt just fine. They have plummin, cable tv, cell phones , computers and everythin. I have moved to a larger city as have many others. The values many speak of are not what you think Its more about hard work, respect for ones neighbors, laws,towns, country and possibly religious views. Growing up in small towns is a blessing for many in many ways. Its a more laid back and easy going and innocent life if you will. However they have many of the same problems cities do. I was offended at the shows portrayal of small town people as hayeed hicks. Well last time I tried lil ole smalltown me can figure out how to use a GPS to get from Columbus to Kents house.. ( an easy 90 min drive not 4 hours)without getting lost 4 times. I am also from Wapak originally and have family there still. I dont know Kent but have brother who lives pretty close to the family and his step daughter had Kent as a student instructor. The thing I have heard from everyone that seems to know him is how great a person and dancer he is. Its kind of funny to see the obvious bigotry and elitest attitude coming from the gay community. Whether he is gay or not you of all people should not be the ones proclaiming his “obvious gayness” because you went through the same things or not. You ASSume that the show is biased because Cat had the nerve to ask him what girl is his ideal ? Oh the horror… Well maybe cat had conversations with him about his likes you dont know. Its live and sometimes things are said from the seat of their pants or dress. Why not stop showing us all how great your gaydar is and start talking about how great the kids /dancers are.
As for the shows tendency to prefer straight males or masculine dancers. well let me break it to you..The vast majority of the country is straight and I would be willing to bet the majority of gays prefer to see a masculine dancer as well. If its not getting good ratings nobody will be on tv showcasing their skills as dancers gay or straight ! Two gay guys dancing is not as pleasing to watch for the vast majority of people. Its just simply uncomfortable to watch for most. (Yes I’m a bigot you will say big deal) Get used to it. If that changes the show will likely lose viewers and will be off the air quick. I too found this ” gay friendly site” just searching kents name on google.
I would bet alot of you are bigoted in your own ways as well. I would guess most of you are liberals flaming or not and hate Sarah Palin and most conservatives who dont see your point of view. You see as conservatives we are asked to always accept your lifestyles and ways but are usally never given the same courtesy. Most conservatives dont care about whethre you are gay but whether or not we are taxed to much, wherther Govt is to obtrussive and oppresive and that we should require people to be more self reliant and responsible.. I know off topic. Oh well Good lck to Kent Gay or not.
K
July 8th, 2010 at 6:24 pm
I think the decision to not out a contestant on shows like this is so that people judge them for their dancing and not their lifestyle choices. You can’t tell me that it is somehow fair to a contestant that people don’t vote for him, because he is gay. And you can’t tell me that the gay community won’t rally around an openly gay dancer regardless of his dancing ability. If sexual orientation really doesn’t matter, then why does it matter or not whether or not they come out on the air?
Amber
July 8th, 2010 at 8:56 pm
Look, I am from little town, middle America. My family is religious and slightly closed-minded. However, we LOVE So You Think You Can Dance. We have often commented on the sexuality of the dancers, and we understand that most of them are in fact homosexuals. This has never stopped us from watching the show, and I don’t think that you guys sitting and bitching about what anyone on the show says or does is going to change anything. If you do want to change people’s minds, go to the heart of the situation, and leave poor Kent alone. He is an adorable 18-year-old from a tiny town that probably IS closed-minded. If he is gay, which, he probably is, than that is his right to come out or not. I will still vote for him, and I’m sure the rest of America will too.
Maddie
July 9th, 2010 at 10:13 pm
The more I watch Kent and his performances with guys and girls… the more I think he might be bi-sexual. I mean, he’s either just a more feminine out there guy who is straight or he’s bi. Because, after seeing the display and reaction after dancing with Lauren… I’m not as sure as I used to be that he is gay. I don’t believe he’s that good of an actor to fake it. He was quite swept up in that moment. So, not like it matters… but yeh. That kiss was HOT… and they didn’t stop it until Cat said for the millionth time… the music has finished. STOP. LOL.
All in all.. who cares. I love the guy. He’s cute, and hilarious and a phenomenal dancer. He wows me every time :)
I also agree with those who says that in fact SYTYCD isn’t homophobic… just not out there with the dancers or judges sexuality. If the public were aware of that, people suck and would be biased against them because of that. Divulging such information would give the public a reason to discriminate and not just vote on personality and dancing.
Joshua
July 11th, 2010 at 1:11 pm
why do you automatically assume that someone is gay? i hate people like you. i’m always picked on by people like you because i dance and everyone assumes that i’m gay. what does that have to do with anything? jerks like you are what make the world even that less desireable a place to live in.
Jered
July 12th, 2010 at 7:01 pm
Wow, there are a lot of comments on this article/blog post; it took quite a while to read through them all. I enjoyed and agreed with the post Adam. In fact, there have been a lot of great points by readers.
One thing that frustrates me is the topic of “outing someone”. If we lived in a truly equal and open society, “outing” would be an obsolete word. Everyone could be open about who they are and speculation wouldn’t be such a hot button topic.
I understand that the point of Adam’s post was NOT to “out” Kent – but as a springboard into the topic of homophobic issues on SYTYCD.
I get a laugh when I read the posts from people that “know” Kent – whether they danced together, live down the street or are best friends. Unfortunately, none of them KNOW that Kent is straight or that he is gay. Just like they claim that people are on this blog making assumptions that he is gay, they are making assumptions that he is straight. What they fail to understand is that the gay & lesbian community understand first hand this issue. Most all of us have gone through a period of denying and/or hiding our true feelings – whether it be based on family, community and/or religion. No one in my family or community knew I was gay growing up. The friends posting here with their mis-guided defense of Kent’s “straightness” are in the same boat as my parents, making the same claim about me during my high school years – because that’s what I wanted them to know. It is this same “defense” of a person’s “straightness” that can make your friend Kent stay “closeted”. For some reason, people feel that being gay is so wrong. And if you DON’T feel that being gay wrong, then you shouldn’t be on here defending him as straight – because that is IRONY.
Lastly, I do have to agree with Adam that I’m pretty sure Kent is gay. As one or two have pointed out on here – many gays have very good gaydar. Yes, I expect people to say this is bullshit, but gaydar is legit. It’s not a spidey sense, but instead an instinctually learned way of profiling. It’s basis comes from the “oppression” of the gay/lesbian community. Most all gay and lesbians spend their childhood, teens and sometime beyond hiding their true identities in fear of rejection. They develop skills to hide their true selves – changing mannerisms, carefully choosing words, over-compensating on certain issues for fear it will reveal who they truly are. It’s a very intricate web of lies and diversion just to stay “safe” in the closet. Our gaydar comes from these closeted lives we all lived. We can see in others those same over-compensations and carefully chosen words or the slip of covering mannerisms that sometimes happen. I clearly see all of the gay signs with Kent – and that is not bad. It just means he is going through all of the same motions that many gays do.
Lastly, it is very frustrating that narrow-minded straight people think that because one gay calls out another as gay, it is simply because they want to f$#k him silly. It’s so stereotypical and untrue. I am 33 and not attracted to blonde 18 yo “kids”…. but I’ll still wager Kent is gay.
In the scheme of things, his sexuality has no bearing on his amazing personality and great dancing skills. But because of SYTYCD’s homophobic traits, it makes sexuality an issue.
Jered
July 12th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
Oh, and I should add this because it will be brought up: Gaydar is NOT the same as how the traditional straight person sees a gay – we are not talking about stereotypical limp wrists, lisps or an effeminate affect. So many straight people think sexuality is a clearly defined line of black and white – thus they incorrectly think that some straight male dancers are gay simply because they are light on their feet or post other such stereotypically gay traits.
Gays don’t assume someone else is gay for those seemingly obvious traits – because those traits DON’T define a gay person. They can see the not-so-obvious signs, as I mentioned in my previous post.
Dastius Krazitauc
July 13th, 2010 at 7:00 am
Joshua, if your world is one in which being called gay makes you not want to live in that world, you should probably move. There are much better places to be and much better people to be around, and if for some reason they ever say they think you might be gay, it would not be out of judgment or meanness.
kentfan101
July 14th, 2010 at 7:54 pm
i just want to say…love kent, adorable as hell, i can’t figure out for sure if he is gay or not and it’s not really anyone’s business but he and alex were very chummy and might i say would make a very cute couple and if not whatever he looks super cute with lauren too,,, so if he is gay let’s give him the chance to come out on his own he’s ONLY 18 and if not we all still love him anyway!!!
kentfan102
July 14th, 2010 at 8:20 pm
wow, you people are all very judgemental. 95% of you have never met kent in person. I have, he dated my cousin A GIRL for over a year, and never came off as gay. He’s been at our family Christmases and everything. You guys know him through a tv screen. This conversation is really pointless, leave the kid alone and just let him dance. And btw I think Beyonce is HOTT, too!
Jered
July 14th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
kentfan102… you are missing the point completely. Just because he dated your cousin (a GIRL) doesn’t mean he’s straight. The majority of gay men have dated girls in their younger years and very few “came across as gay.” To make an evaluation like that is pretty pointless. Gays have a sixth sense (or gaydar) and can tell these things. It’s more than some magical ‘gays think he’s cute so he must be gay’ mentality. It’s narrow-minded people like you that like to make those idiotic assumptions.
kentfan102
July 14th, 2010 at 8:43 pm
Ok, but gays can tell someone is gay by never meeting them and just seeing them on tv? that makes a whole lot of sense.
kentfan101
July 19th, 2010 at 1:16 am
ok ok guys
@kentfan 102, thanks for using a variation of my name i like it. and @jared and 102 but also, i can understand where jared is coming from. 102 i understand and you know everyone could be wrong and kent could just be a bit more sensitive than most, i myself am really leaning towards gay, but like i said before the truth will come out in time, whether it be gay or straight. however, i feel like you are being a little harsh towards jared and the other guys, i’m a straight girl, so i’m a not real sure how their gayday works, but neither are you, and although kent is your friend and you feel the need to defend him, please remember that they all have a right to their opinion as well, right or wrong. there is no need to get upset at all. hope you take this the right way. Sorry sweetie
p.s. did anyone see what i meant with alex….if not watch the elimination episodes from bf alex went home and watch when they find out they are safe…at one point kent jumps into alex’s arms.
Tessa
July 19th, 2010 at 3:03 pm
HE’S NOT FUCKING GAY!!!
kentfan101
July 19th, 2010 at 6:17 pm
well, at this point i’m sure hoping for kent’s sake that if he is…then he gets well adapted to LA, because it doesn’t feel as though he’s gonna be welcomed and excepted at home…. the only reason anyone on here is getting so defensive of him being straight would have to be that they are anti-gay bc it’s not like anyone is bashing him…we love him!!!!
and i hope for all of his friend’s sakes that he is not bc if he is, imagine how dissapointed he would be too see them talking to gay men the way they are!!!
Where’s the love? Why fight? we all love kent, we all love so you think you can dance, and we all love gay men…at least i do!!!
Jered
July 19th, 2010 at 6:27 pm
Exactly kentfan101 – we’re all really here because we think he’s a great artist/performer and enjoy watching him every week. That’s the most important thing.
SB
July 21st, 2010 at 7:28 pm
I am from Kent’s area and I can attest to the fact that he has performed all over the country AND overseas. He has been in competitions since he was a kid. The show has really played into his being from this small town and how naive and innocent he is. The show has milked this small town image for everything it is worth and now he has no choice but to go along with it, knowing it is bringing in ratings and votes. He IS a great dancer. He IS a nice guy. As for his sexuality, it doesn’t really matter, but now he is forced to appear straight to appeal to his “tween” audience and continue to play this “I’ve never been anywhere” game. Just remember this is REALITY television, and what you see is not altogether TRUE.
Registered Social Worker (aka... human)
July 21st, 2010 at 7:41 pm
I’m not going to comment on the show itself, however I will comment on Kent. He might be from a small town, but I’m sure he is very familiar with “this here InterWeb”. This conversation has morphed from a discussion of the show to an argument about Kent’s sexuality. When a sequestered homosexual hears third parties discussing his/her sexuality, it tends to actualise an inner conflict. By arguing about whether or not he is gay, you are being counter productive. If he is gay and comes across a thread like this, he may never speak out. And if he isn’t gay, you are only creating a 25th floor window for his self-esteem to jump out of.
I chose social work as a profession to provide for others the support I never had in my adolescence. As a gay professional I strongly suggest you focus more on the dancing, and less on the sexual orientation of the competitors.
Maddie
July 21st, 2010 at 9:09 pm
DANG! so if i love Kent and he’s gay, then he can’t be my hubby?????? rats… Well, i think he is straight, but that’s because i love him!!! He is amazing and we all seem to agree on that. Kent, will you marry me?!?!?!?!?!?
ps- i voted for you 137 times tonight knet! I LOVE YOU
Maddie
July 21st, 2010 at 9:12 pm
OH. And, I would like to add that I LOVE KENT BOYD!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ok bye :)
Maddie
July 21st, 2010 at 9:15 pm
AND… every human with a phone should vote for him!
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
i like the funny “small town” people. i think your cool!
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
guess what? Chicken butt! no…. KENT IS A DANCE GOD
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
one day i would KILL to dance with you kent!
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
:)
KENT IS AN AMAZING ARTIST WHO MAKES ME… :))))
Maddie
July 21st, 2010 at 9:17 pm
sorry. one more thing…. no one needs to get angry or worked up about this. its HIS life. let him do what he wants… i will always love him :)
.
..
…
….
…
..
.
bye
Maddie
July 21st, 2010 at 9:20 pm
message to kent:
i’ll be your beyonce <3
Kelly
July 22nd, 2010 at 6:16 pm
Just FYI to the person writing this article, Kent is not gay. Just because someone isn’t mr macho doesn’t mean that they have a different sexual preference.
The fact that the show doesn’t discuss it is a true sign of not having any issues with homosexuality. It doesn’t matter and it is not a matter to be discussed on television, nor does it have anything to do with anyone’s dancing abilities; so the show doesn’t even go there. The real person who is making his sexuality an issue is you. Obviously you are either homophobic or obsessed with it or something since you were strongly stating that Kent is “obviously gay” when in reality you have no grounds to make that judgement other than what you see on tv. If you were truely tolerant you would not even consider judging Kent or his sexuality based on actions you see on TV.
So basically im saying that even though you are trying to “help” the “gay community”, you are actually creating the problem. JUST DONT MAKE IT AN ISSUE AND IT WONT BE ONE!
Kelly
July 22nd, 2010 at 6:22 pm
oh and to @kentfan101, at Kent’s home there is nothing wrong with being gay. I know some of his very very closest friends and they all have no problem whatever choices he makes in life. Just because we live in a smaller community and have farms does not mean that we are all backwards hicks that hate anything that isn’t white and eats mashed potatoes.
Fan of Bumkin' Idiots
July 22nd, 2010 at 8:03 pm
Hahaha Kelly, you have got to be one of the most out-of-it people to write on this thread.
“Dear author or this article, you must be homophobic…”?
I came onto this site through google like some others out there and even if you don’t spend 18 seconds looking at the content type on the site, look at the name… Homorazzi?? it’s about gay stuff BY gay guys.
God, I’m so glad you’re “friends of close friends of kent” (i’m sure), i’d hate to think someone so ignorant was from an actual city haha..
Thanks for proving the stereotypes sugar. Enjoy your mash potatoes ;)
rocky
July 22nd, 2010 at 8:25 pm
yeah kent is soooo straight…tell that to the straddling of Robert tonight and the chemistry/affection with Alex!!!
kentfan101
July 22nd, 2010 at 8:28 pm
Um, just so you know kelly, your not proving anything wrong with my statement…and i myself come from a little bitty, 3 exit town in Oklahoma!!!! i didn’t say it had anything to do with the town, what i said was
“well, at this point i’m sure hoping for kent’s sake that if he is…then he gets well adapted to LA, because it doesn’t feel as though he’s gonna be welcomed and excepted at home…. the only reason anyone on here is getting so defensive of him being straight would have to be that they are anti-gay bc it’s not like anyone is bashing him…we love him!!!!”
Getting a little defensive are we???
J.S
July 23rd, 2010 at 4:30 pm
Wow, this article is really good. I have to say I agree with you 100%…btw I don’t really like Kent…not because he is gay or anything…he is just so damn annoying..and I don’t understand what is so good looking about him…he is ugly :| and he is honestly not the best dancer there from the guys at least, so I don’t know why he is always safe from the bottom 3. But, nonetheless, he should still have the right to express his true sexuality…
rocky
July 23rd, 2010 at 8:23 pm
well j.s, i agree with the sexuality part, but i disagree with the rest…i feel as though his smile is contagious, he is a cutie, not great looking but definately adorable, and i think that he is a great dancer and taking on the challenge of the show well.
but i feel ALEX should have won it all!!!
Geoffrey Lawson
July 24th, 2010 at 7:35 am
What is all this talk about Kent? What is Billy Bell’s status? Does he have a boyfriend? What about Alex or Robert?
megan green
July 25th, 2010 at 3:12 pm
okay, soo ive known kent for the past 13 years of my life and i know for a fact that he is NOT gay. he has dated at least 5 of my friends and all of them are very pretty females. he just has an overly energetic personality and is very outgoing. not gaaay!
Jered
July 25th, 2010 at 8:51 pm
Oh silly Megan Green… silly, misguided, uneducated Megan Green. Are you that out of touch with reality that you don’t understand that most gay men date plenty of girls in their lifetime? Please stop using that as a guiding factor for determining sexuality. None of us can be certain of anyone’s sexuality; that’s why they call it “coming out.”
I love how young pre-teens girls and hometown friends are so quick to keep the boy straight. It lends to the mentality that “gay” is wrong and unacceptable. What everyone SHOULD be posting on here is a big “who cares, he’s fun to watch and a good dancer” and then discuss the issue at point – the homophobic nature of SYTYCD!
Maryann
July 26th, 2010 at 9:55 pm
When I came across this article I was using google to search “Kent Boyd”. I notice immediately the “Homorazzi” name and thought…”Here we go, he’s been on tv a couple of times and already pegged as gay”.
I understand the whole article having to do with being upset by the show and it’s producer but to pull Kent into it is completely unfair.
I happen to be from the same small town and I too have had these same assumtions from gay people I have met. I have been asked out by many gay people, and more than one “big city dweller” and a couple “partially closeted small town hicks” have assumed I was gay resulting in disappointment and money being lost many times during bets on my sexuality. Let me assure everyone I am NOT gay although I really would like a woman like my mom or a good wife to clean the house and do the other crap I don’t like doing…just don’t bother to try to sleep with me because I will be doing that with my husband. Seems that hanging with my dad and all of the neighboring farm boys I learned how to walk, talk, and act just like them…enough so that I still get the occassional, “can I help you sir?” if I don’t let my hair grow out and the exception that unlike them I crave male companionship when it comes to sex.
Can someone explain to me again how the “gaydar” works when you are all talking about Kent? All of my experiences with gay men and women using their “gaydar” have been way off the screen!
Until you meet Kent and have a relationship with him…you do not know…that is between Kent and his maker and NO ONE has the right to judge him on any of his actions or his sexuality except Kent and his maker! If Kent contacts you and tells you he is and that you can publish it, then you have the right to say he is on your blog.
Quite frankly I don’t care one way or the other and am absolutely certain that all of the people that know and care for Kent could care less either. You see most of us in our small town communities really don’t care…just don’t throw it down our throats, that is when we have a tendency to start to get a little upset…sorta like you seem to with the “conservative, religious, biggoted, etc…” posts. Funniest part about that is I don’t remember reading too much about anyone pushing their believes down your throat, they seemed to just be telling you that they really believe Kent isn’t gay.
As for you issues with the show, most of us here, we could really care less about how the show and it’s producer’s portray male sexuality…after Kent has won and moved on none of us, with the exception of the dancers in the area, will be watching anyway. We watch because we all love Kent and have been watching him perform and dance for many, many years. There will be a few of us travel to bigger cities to see dancer’s perform but there will be MANY of us travel to the bigger cities to see Kent perform.
MaryAnn
Anne
July 27th, 2010 at 7:17 pm
I am glad to have a gay place to bring this up, but this has really been bothering me about SYTYCD, which is my very favorite show. I love Billy and I think he deserves better than he’s been getting. It seems he was ragged on pretty hard after doing his Krump routine, basically for not being a tough street dancer. He did the moves very well, but doesn’t have the swagger of a burly black krumper.
With out judges (Mia and Adam), and with 100% of the audience knowing the dance world has many gay members, there seems to be a very strange emphasis on how masculine the men have to be, even if they are gay. Why is there such an insistence on this?
Why can’t the dancers incorporate their ACTUAL personalities on the show? If the gay male dances strongly and masculinely, wonderful. But if he’s slight and somewhat feminine (mincing would be gross on a top notch show, of course), but a great dancer, so what?
I would love to see someone choreograph a moving dance about a gay man coming out. Maybe a group number. He falters with the lady, and feels insecure… Then he is introduced to another world, where he fits in, where he can be happy, like the little swan in The Ugly Duckling, finding his own kind. I think it would be very well received. I am a straight woman, not that it matters.
I think America can handle the fact that some dancers are not straight. Can Nigel?
Dastius Krazitauc
July 28th, 2010 at 3:04 am
Do any of you people from “Kent’s small town” ever talk to each other? You’d think being such a “small town” you’d probably know each other, and having a local kid in the national spotlight, you’d talk to each other about it, and perhaps if you’re upset that there is conjecture that Kent is gay, you’d discuss it with each other. But every one of you open your post here with, “I just happened to google Kent, and stumbled onto this homo site”. Please. One person after the next from “Kent’s small town” claiming moral outrage about gay conjecture on a gay site. If you’re saying you don’t have a problem with gays, you’re lying. Otherwise, you wouldn’t feel the need to defend Kent. And when you just stumble onto a website, nothing has been shoved down your throat, MaryAnn.
Gene
July 28th, 2010 at 9:55 pm
I don’t know youi, but the tone of your original post is so self-assured that I know you must have unimpeachable proof that Kent is gay. Otherwise, you are making the same sort of unsupported judgment most homophobes make about effeminate men–which Kent assuredly is not. I’m 63 years old and I’ve seen a lot of men straight and gay. I’ve seen straight men more effeminate than most gay men. I get no buzz on my gaydar from Kent. Your assumption about his sexuality based on nothing more than his speech patterns and his ebullient behavior are unwarranted and insulting to gay people as well as to straight, whichever Kent might be.
Whocares
July 28th, 2010 at 11:48 pm
Adam, why do you want so badly for him to be gay? Everytime somebody says they know him and that he’s straight you say some stupid comment back about how maybe he is in his small town but not in Vegas…. ? I’m sure if he came out tomorrow engaged to a girl you’d have something to say about how he’s lying to himself.
You are the reason gay people have this stigma of being assholes. You are gay so you think you’re better than everyone else, and you think you can just automatically pick out who’s gay. Sexuality isn’t an outward appearance. You can say “Oh, he looks gay. He acts gay, he has to be”, but without actually knowing the person you have no clue.
Ignorant.
Nicole
July 29th, 2010 at 11:50 pm
I’d like to point out that the only one that knows if Kent is gay or straight is KENT. Proclaiming one side or the other FOR him is counterproductive. Kent Boyd is the only one who knows who he is. I don’t care if you watch him on tv, or know him personally. What you think you know, you don’t.
I don’t care how good anybody’s “gaydar” is. I know the straighest-seeming gay people, and the gayest-seeming straight people.
Don’t proclaim someone is something. You have no idea.
Mom
July 30th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
I do know for a fact that Kent is gay, due to his personal conversations with other gay men. I am sad for him having to cover it up, and I totally agree with Adam.
Jamal
August 2nd, 2010 at 10:09 pm
“I’d like to point out that the only one that knows if Kent is gay or straight is KENT.”
Not true at all. Many, many people knew that Rock Hudson was gay. The desperation of some of you homophobes is getting ridiculous.
rennzzo
August 3rd, 2010 at 9:07 pm
well, one would have to be blind not to see that most of the dancers on sytycd are gay, and others are, at best, bi.
from this season alone, i believe that kent, robert, billy bell and alex are totally gay. the only one who might get away with walking down the street like a straight guy is jose. i think adechike probably swings either way.
Ricco
August 5th, 2010 at 4:07 am
It has been painfully obvious that Nigel is a homophobe . . . but I will tell you what bothers me more than that, and that is his (and other judges to a lesser extent) obvious manipulations of the viewers, trying to control the outcome of SYTYCD by featuring and going on about their favorite dancer. This year it is Kent Boyd, and it was obvious the way they made such a production of Nigel delivering the news himself.
While Kent is a beautiful young man, a beautiful dancer, he has not . . .as Nigel and the others are always going on about . . . grown. I don’t know if he is gay (it seems apparent that he is, but who cares) or if he is just out of touch with his sexuality, as it specifically pertains to women, just a cute little boy scout, but I squirm in my seat every time he dances with one of the girls. He has not performed well in all genres, and he has never performed well, other than the technical aspects of the dance, with any of the women, unless they dummied down the sexual aspects of a particular dance routine. And yet the judges go on about him constantly.
Since they are always going on and on about the story behind the dance, it would be refreshing to see a gay themed story being told honestly and authentically through dance. I have a feeling if Kent had the opportunity to such a number, it would be fraking amazing.
But since “the” major proponent of SYTYCD is male to female partnering, with rare same sex but ultra-masculine dancing routines, it is outrageous and less than honest as Nigel continues his campaign for Kent.
Robert may very possibly be gay, again who cares, but when he is dancing, he is absorbed by the role that is being demanded of him. And he does not look uncomfortable when he dances with the women.
For what is being demanded of them, Robert is the better dancer. I just hope the viewers know BS when they hear it, and are not going to ultimately buy into Nigel’s less-than-objective commentary . . . and he does not know a damn thing about ballroom dancing . . . that’s for damn sure.
Lauren
August 5th, 2010 at 7:23 am
Let me start off by saying that I absolutely LOVED Travis Wall’s dance last night between Kent and Neil.
I don’t think that SYTYCD is homophobic at all really. I mean I agree that it would be a bit more of a courtesy to have asked what kind of PERSON Kent would like to go out with instead of spesifying gender, but you have to remember that a lot of this stuff is just thrown in on the spot, and I don’t exactly think that every single time something like that comes up in the show Cat Deely is going to pull out a card to read off a politically polite comment about equal rights.
I think that the judges are plugging people like Kent, Robert, and Lauren because A) they want the audience to pick people that have progressed to a degree and seem to have done better in the current week and B) They are all so hireable and the show really provides a good way to have people show their talents and possibly get a job from it. And it seems that the judges always form bonds with the contestants through the dances and their personalities and it’s simply natural to want to look out for somebody in a competitive intustry that you like and respect.
Up the list I really agree with Nicole and Whocares, because it’s true, you can never judge a book by a cover and you never know, maybe Kent wasn’t fumbling when he said he wanted a girl like his mom… or Beyonce. The truth is is that it’s nobody’s decision to make about anybody but that person alone, and posturing about whether or not somebody is gay and how SYTYCD must be homophobic because they don’t go around waving flags for every show is just not cool, and frankly being a little bit obsessive.
And the whole thing about the same-sex ballroom dancers was that in traditional ballroom (which is shown on the show) it is a woman/man pairing. Don’t get me wrong they did a paso doble between Adechike and Jose which was same sex, but normally they follow the traditional guidelines of dance and when you do same-sex ballroom things like lifts become an issue. If Kent was told to lift Jose, I think it would be a bit of a challange. So for the vast majority of the show they pair a woman with a man. And same sex ballroom has both partners being the lead and the follow. Because you have to do both in same-sex ballroom it’s different than the conventional ballroom that has the man lead and the woman follow. So when Nigel said that he wanted to see each of those same-sex ballroom dancers dance with a girl, it was to evaluate whether or not they knew how do dance both same-sex and conventional or whether they only knew how to dance same-sex. It had nothing to do with their sexuality or how icky some ignorant person watching the show would feel if they were to do a same-sex pairing. And seeing all of the new dances that they’re incorporating, it wouldn’t suprise me if they did some same-sex ballroom… after all they did the paso doble with Adechike and Jose, and they often do same-sex contemporary, hiphop, and afro jazz.
So, finishing up. I think that it is wrong to judge SYTYCD on the fact that they aren’t outing people on the show or waving flags around and screaming for equality between every performance. And this article is just plain rude to the judges, Cat Deely, and even the contestants for assuming so rashly what and who they are.
Lo
August 5th, 2010 at 3:30 pm
I just want to say that my little sister is dating Kent’s brother and he has been asked if he is gay. Kent really gets offended that people think he is gay because he is 100% straight. Why are you hating against guys that dance who might be a bit afeminite who are straight. If we don’t dog on gays don’t dog on we straights!
Alex
August 5th, 2010 at 3:53 pm
No. No. No. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong…And wrong again!
I have a few things to get straight…
1. Kent Boyd is not gay. He is in fact in love with Lauren. You are so wrong. He is SO straight. He’s says GIRLS are cute all the time. I can’t believe you posted this. For various reasons.
2: What is SO wrong with being gay? Don’t listen to Sarah Palin because she’s just about as judgmental as you are acting. Not saying that Kent is gay because he so OBVIOUSLY not, but what is wrong with gay people? It is really and truly NONE of your business whatsoever what gay people decide to do with their life and why should it matter to you anyway? Now you are right. It shouldn’t at all. Nothing is wrong with gay people-they just decide to chose another lifestyle than us which should be okay, but whatever.
3: Stop talking about sexuality and get a life. Please. Not for me, but for you.
4: Guys that dance are not all gay. Just to let you know, there is a kid that goes to my school that is so obviously NOT gay and he’s in my dance class. Yes, it’s true.
5. Just because most gay guys are nice, smart, and cute doesn’t mean that all nice, smart, and cute guys are gay. You’re just jealous because you can’t be like them. You’re such a disgrace for judging people like that. I really hope you learn .Wow.
ItDoesn'tMatter
August 5th, 2010 at 4:07 pm
Wow. I agree with Alex, Nicole, Lauren, & WhoCares.
So wrong. You can’t really say a person is gay without knowing them or without them coming out of the closet. Some people just have a female voice in a male body, I guess. Which Kent doesn’t even have a female voice anyway, but you know. And why would Kent love Lauren and still be gay? NOT TRUE.
Yes, I do agree that there are many gay guys on the show, but what’s wrong with that? Why do you have to bring that up anyway? It doesn’t matter. At. All. You can’t be judgmental and still say you know when someone is gay. It’s just not possible. Therefore, you are judgmental and you think Kent’s gay. So obviously not true.
Haley
August 5th, 2010 at 4:11 pm
If you enjoy the show, why should it matter if they’re gay or not? As long as he dances well…
Why are people being gay-haters?
IT DOESN’T MATTER!
Nicole
August 5th, 2010 at 10:19 pm
Jamal, assuming people are gay and believing people are gay is not the same as people being gay. Just because people assumed Rock Hudson was gay and it turned out he was, doesn’t mean that’s true for everyone.
I don’t have a problem with gay people. I love gay people, and think they have every right to be who they are and deserve EVERY right straight people have. What I do have a problem with is people stereotyping what they think gay is.
Once again, the only one who KNOWS, truly KNOWS if Kent is gay, is KENT.
Kashia- from "nowheresville"
August 6th, 2010 at 9:19 am
Why are you taking the time to post a blog about an 18 year old? It’s not your concern whatsoever. I know Kent personally and he’s not gay. Not in the slighest bit. Kent is just Kent. And my “nowheresville” area doesn’t appreciate unnecessary posts like these. Get off Kent’s back. Thanks :)
Randy
August 6th, 2010 at 6:21 pm
Having seen both the US and Canada versions of the show, thank you for this article. Both shows are notoriously homophobic, even now. I watched from the start of the US show, and was hopeful that in Canada, where we have equality, things might be different, but it was just the same old homophobic crap. So I stopped watching both, and life has gone on. Of course, so has the show.
On Youtube, I saw the recent dance involving Kent and another male dancer as “best friends”. It’s a step forward that this wonderful choreography was aired, but it’s still a homophobic lie. That dance was unmistakably a story of closeted gay love. Friends don’t dance like that, especially male friends. The parallelism, the collapse at the end, it’s clearly love.
As to whether Kent himself is gay, I really don’t get the objection. So what if people say he’s gay? It’s not bad to be gay. And as a culture long known for artistic ability, creativity, and style, it’s certainly a compliment.
When a person says they are gay, you can believe it. But when they say they are straight, it could be the societal bigotry talking. SYTYCD adds to this situation with their homophobia. If they proudly and regularly promoted their gay (and trans) dancers like other dance shows in the US and around the world do, that would go a long way to reducing this awkward gossip about dancers like Kent. We could trust his answers, if we knew the show was a place where gay dancers were welcomed. But it’s not. That’s the sad world we live in.
VS
August 6th, 2010 at 8:01 pm
I would just like to say that me and Kent are VERY close friends. I have grown up with him. We have many heart to heart conversations. He tells me all the time about the GIRLS he likes or think are cute. I LOVE Kent he is the kindest person and is NOT gay. If you want to think he is then fine but in his heart and as many people know, he is not gay. Also, what do thongs like liking dance make him gay for? Kent is straight but if you don’t want to think so fine then that’s your opinion and keep it to yourself. Don’t be spreading rumors and saying a bunch of crap that you don’t k ow is true or not. He is 18 for goodness sake! Give him a break.
Scott Appel
August 9th, 2010 at 11:46 am
The whole homophobic subtext to a lot of the judges’ comments is really wearing me down as a viewer.
Dancers like Alex Wong (who appears briefly on a gay-themed episode of the Tyra Banks show*) don’t say anything about who amongst their peers they think are hot.
*check this link out. youtube video. skip to 5:46 and you will see Alex Wong. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0YlBT9E1eZc&feature=related
Arvind
August 9th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
Wow, talk about a bigot. Oh, yeah, and it’s “rife”, not “ripe”. So not only are you an unrepentant heterophope, you also have a terrible vocabulary.
Jamal
August 9th, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Kent and Billy made a beautiful gay male couple when Billy was still on the show. You could see Billy trusted Kent when he was hugging him and leaning on him when they were both crying after Alex (another gay male dancer) was eliminated. It’s so sad to see people want to put Billy and Kent in the closet. HELLO, THIS IS MALE DANCE – of which a substantial portion are gay men. It’s so sick to see SYTYCD judges and producers go overboard this season trying to erase any gay identity. Kent will probably have to remain closeted in public on the advice of Nigel and other homophobes. But he is going to have a field day once he moves to NYC and is swamped with boyfriends.
Jamal
August 9th, 2010 at 5:21 pm
Thank you so much to Scott Appel above. I KNEW Alex was gay too. It’s rediculous how much denial and hate their is on the net the very second you mention someone is gay.
Jamal
August 9th, 2010 at 5:30 pm
BTW, here is a good video of Kent and Billy crying and embracing after Alex was eliminated: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnqUEcM_lsU
Rob
August 9th, 2010 at 10:39 pm
‘VS’, please stop your vicious gossip about Kent being heterosexual. There is nothing crueler than to deny a person the love and relationships that mean the most in life. I am really heartbroken that so many people who claim to be Kent’s ‘friends’ are quick to back stab him and deny his wholesome identity as a gay man. You have every right to practice hatred, discrimination, and spread your lies. But please stop attacking Kent with these rumors of him practicing some fringe ‘straight lifestyle’. Kent has confided in his true friends that he is attracted to other guys and your are only going to cause heartbreak by forcing him to closet himself once again because of your sick prejudices. I’m so sick of hateful people labeling healthy, vibrant young male dancers as having opposite sex attraction disorder without a shred of evidence.
Hayden
August 10th, 2010 at 12:20 am
Who cares if Kent is gay, if he wants to pretend he is/be into girls then that’s his business, the point is Nigel shouldn’t be anti feminine guys, that must be very restrictive for dancers, I think it’s all because of Christian people wishing their values of everyone else.
Hayden
August 10th, 2010 at 12:20 am
on
Madaine
August 11th, 2010 at 3:18 pm
I came across this post and I share many peoples’ opinion that these shows do sweep gay contestants’ sexuality on the show. what upsets me most is that a show like SYTYCD has the unique ability to convey- in a universal language that people are people. Same-sex relationships have the same highs and lows. But, eh, that’s just the opinion of one straight chick.
Madaine
August 11th, 2010 at 3:21 pm
* sweep under the rug.
If there’s an option to edit my post above, it doesn’t show on my iPhone. Sorry.
Jon
August 11th, 2010 at 6:30 pm
Ummm maybe he’s closeted and not ready to be out. Or maybe just maybe he’s straight.
Megan
August 11th, 2010 at 7:07 pm
Thank you for drawing the attention of straight viewers to the bias that is endemic to SYTYCD. Being straight doesn’t always tune our radar in to things that favor the straight community. Along the lines of the idea of “white privilage” – ways whites are privilaged that they don’t really notice because they don’t pose challenges for them. There exists a “straight privilage” that we straight people just don’t notice because we are not forced to deal with the same hardships.
THANK YOU for drawing our attention to this!
andrea
August 11th, 2010 at 7:24 pm
i just have to say that you dont have to be a gay man to have gaydar! lol! i am a 37 yr old straight female who grew up in a smaller town not a “small” town in greater ny and then went to nyc to one of the best fashion/art schools in the us. kent is gay and im saying it and im not gay so then what are you “small” town and “small” minded people going to say to me. that im really gay? i think not. i like dick as much as the gays do! and to all my gays, i know what you are saying about his mannerisms, but thats a slippery slope too because then when you are saying he is boxed into a corner by saying he’s straight, then you then too are boxing into a gay corner and i think for you guys to win the fight against prop 8 and gay rights then thats the problem you face. these, and i wont call them “bible beaters”, because that too is ignorant on the liberal side, because is everyone a “bible beater” that believes in God?, i dont think so…i believe in God, and i wont defend that to anyone, but “these” people are what i term as people that do not want to hear the gays “tooting their own horns” so to speak. if people feel more comfortable, then i think they wont feel hatred like they do. i think the gay community has to be not so much in your face and pls dont take that the wrong way because i have gay family members that i love and very good friends that i love. so what i mean by that is kent doesnt have to promote his homosexuality on tv as lauren does not have to tell us how many guys shes slept with or what color. but cat shouldnt ask him these open ended dumb questions either that have nothing to do with a dance finale. or shes going to get the answer that maybe her and nigel dont want that have nothing to do with a dance finale. like who’s your celebrity crush….duh…its russell crowe! lol. :)
Scott from Canada
August 11th, 2010 at 7:48 pm
Gay, straight…..who cares.
What I have seen is a beautiful smile, an incredible dancer, and a fun-loving kid who seems to be having the time of his life. He doesn’t need to be anything for me. If he does turn out to be gay and truly is religious then I do hope he does not struggle with this…he is perfect as God has made him.
As for the show. I couldn’t agree more. The homophobia runs deep and Nigel is a hateful old shrew who steals the soul from anyone who dares to shine more than is “manly”.
Brandy
August 11th, 2010 at 8:08 pm
I’m from Kent’s neighboring down and my aunt’s cousin’s sister-in-law’s niece dated Kent for 2 months – so I know FOR SURE he’s not gay.
Umm, don’t all of you realize that because I live near him and know people that know him, that makes me ultra qualified to know his sexuality. Also, don’t be so dumb… we all KNOW that if a boy dates a girl it clearly mean he’s straight, duh! Just ignore all those news stories about married political figures (like Gov. Jim McGreevey and Sen. Mark Foley) who now say their gay – they’re just lying to themselves. We all know that things in life are black and white – there is no “grey” area.
And it’s not like people here are arguing Kent’s sexuality for a bigger, worthwhile purpose. It’s clear that all these people saying Kent is gay are just gay and jealous that he doesn’t swing their way. We ALL know that gays are just all about sex and hooking up… they can’t make any valid points because they are biased to make everything “gay”.
—-
Some of the uneducated, narrow-minded people posting here make me sad. We are a society of differing view-points, but if you are going to debate your view, please learn the basics of debate – which include building a solid baseline to support your opening statement. I totally agree with those posting “who cares” and “only Kent really knows” because we ALL know those are basic facts – and aren’t really debatable. In reality, we should be at a point in society where it doesn’t matter. Unfortunately, so many people out there still like to make sexuality a hot-button topic – and all the media/tabloid crap out there helps propagate that shit.
Jenna
August 12th, 2010 at 7:10 am
Did you ever think that people don’t out themselves because they don’t want to jeopardize themselves? Unfortunately, America s not open to homosexuality, so it makes sense that contestants wouldn’t come out because they wouldn’t appeal to the public. There are too many people out there who would say, “You’re gay, and I don’t like that, so I’m not voting for you.” The smartest thing a gay contestant can do is to pretend that they are straight in order to maximize the votes.
Wow
August 12th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Dear fellow SYTYCD watchers,
It doesn’t matter at all. And no one should care if he’s gay, straight, homosexual, or whatever. This isn’t ANY of your business. Even if he were gay, the reason he wouldn’t come out of the closet would most likely be because many people wouldn’t vote for him if he said he were gay. That wouldn’t be intelligent, so he wouldn’t do so. It doesn’t apply to you though.
It’s a dance show. You’re supposed to judge them by their dancing, right? At least that’s what I thought we were judging them by. Why are people judging them by their looks, personality, sex, race, sexuality, etc.? I don’t think that should matter. There is no need for that.
In my opinion, I don’t think he’s gay, but that far from the point. It just doesn’t matter. He’s a beautiful dancer and that’s all that matters considering it’s a DANCE show.
Fredrica
August 13th, 2010 at 10:13 am
I do not for one minute think Kent is gay. I do think Robert and Billy are however.
Waddell Az.
August 13th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Not for one moment did I think Kent was guy. I believe all who has “ass”umed this, has mistaken an innocent regular kid that does not exist in most places any more. Some one is has been loved and supported by his family, and is just a happy kid. He reminds me of my son, always smiling and actually looks just like Kent, but hey my son is getting married in Sept. He already has to accept coming in second place, so why put more heartache and sorrow buy trying to sterotype “some one who is truely just a happy young man?”
Waddell Az.
August 13th, 2010 at 3:44 pm
Oops, meant to say “I did not think Kent was gay..I spelled guy… typo!
Canuck
August 13th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
What does it even mean to be ‘gay’ anymore? Sexuality is so fluid – there are people who are very happy and comfortable with themselves who have had heterosexual relationships all their life; and then one day they find themselves with feelings for someone of the same sex. Would they define themselves as gay? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe they just love someone in one of the many different ways that love manifests itself. We know that the Romans had same-sex sexual relations – but many or most also had wives (or husbands) and children in addition to openly engaging in these relations…
I don’t know. I’m just pondering out loud, lol.
Abby
August 13th, 2010 at 10:00 pm
Okay. On these shows, you shouldn’t have to “stand up for gays.” We are all equal and it shouldn’t matter if anyone is gay or straight. Apparently though, some people, like you, do care. And it is completely steriotipycal of you to assume that Kent is “OBVIOUSLY GAY” just because he is a dancer. Obviously, it’s only you that has issues with gays. It should not matter if you are gay or straight and the judges are not hiding anyone. It is their own choice weather they pubically express themselves on the show, and in my opinion they shouldn’t because it is a show about dancing. Please comment back so I can hear any further predjiduce from you.
Dale
August 14th, 2010 at 11:33 am
Adam, unfortunately I think you feel it is an obligation for gays to be ‘out’. I am gay, and if anybody asks me personally I may or may not confirm that for them, however if I was asked in a public setting or on the spot I would tell you that it is none of your goddamned biz what my PERSONAL sexual preference is. I am not for loud and proud and cramming it down peoples throats and being part of some movement. It’s personal to me, and you make it seem as if being gay is a cult where you are obligate to share your sexuality.
Dale
August 14th, 2010 at 11:51 am
And one more thing, as far as the debate about whether Kent is or isn’t gay… Ricky Martin and Clay Aiken claimed to be 100% straight at one point in time too. I guess you can fill in the rest of the story from there.
bigb
August 14th, 2010 at 5:46 pm
Kent is gay. This season’s only straight male was Jose (and Twitch, Dominic, and Pasha). Straight men really can’t do contemporary. Just can’t, sorry.
I don’t think Nigel has anything against gays personally, and really he wouldn’t have gotten so far in the biz if he did. Basically he is worried that if the show is obviously gay that ratings will plummet, which very likely they would. I’d be surprised to see Adam back in the permanent judges’ seats next season because he really dropped a lot of gay innuendo.
Vicky
August 14th, 2010 at 6:56 pm
honestly when I watched Kent & Neil dance the ‘How it Ends’ I completely thought it was speaking to 2 gay men who were lovers, boyfriends, and one had cheated & he was kicking his partner to the curb….that piece was so emotionally beautiful for me I could FEEL what they were saying….see, I had missed the into where they said it was SUPPOSED to be about just 2 friends who were guys….but watch it again….it TOTALLY seems like its just simply 2 men who WERE in love & then we see them break apart……anyone else get that or interpret that?
Melissa
August 15th, 2010 at 6:47 am
When I see posts on Adam Lambert’s fan sites that say,
“If someday our Adam wants to marry a boyfriend, then I want him to be able to. This is a topic I had never thought about before, but now I understand.”
then I do see progress. Yes, slow progress, but real progress. Maybe one person at a time feeling a connection is one way to overcome ignorance. Granted Adam did not mention his sexuality on AI, but as soon as it finished he did. He handled the topic the way he felt most comfortable with. I think we need to honor these young men on SYTYCD and let them decide how to handle their lives. They are so young and have enough pressure to dance their best every time they perform. Questions about who they date are completely out of the realm of dance training, dance performing, dance styles, etc. Also, I do feel that Nigel was tactless (yes, homophobic, as you say) when talking to Billy about why fans perhaps did not vote for him. I was very upset about that..and did not like Nigel’s attitude at all. I came to this site like others…just Googling the SYTYCD contestants. I am interested in their amazing dancing abilities and I have my tickets for their tour. I and many others just hope that their personal lives can be as joyful as their dancing is no matter which way they “turn”.
Brian
August 15th, 2010 at 9:56 am
I don’t believe Kent is gay. Even if he turns out to be gay, he doesn’t realize it now and should be left alone. He’s an 18 year old kid doing his honest best under an intense spotlight. Is Robert, Billy, or Alex gay – not that it matters – but probably, Kent is definitely not the gay one. Finally no one or any group has the right to force someone to be a role model for anything. That’s disrespecting their freedom is all I’m saying.
From NOWHERESVILLE
August 15th, 2010 at 11:54 am
Oh yes, Adam, you call us uneducated????????? You better look in your history book and look up WAPAKONETA, OHIO!!!! Talk about uneducated!!!!!!!!! A very important person came from there and he made HISTORY!!!!!!!!
Casey
August 16th, 2010 at 10:53 am
Uhm, Kent is obviously not gay. He says girls are cute all the time on the show. He said Lauren was VERY cute when they were practicing there collide dance. And he said Kathyrn is hot. There’s also a video that his classmates made about him on youtube and they said that he’s dated everygirl in that room. So Kent’s not gay. Leave the kid alone, honestly.
Donnie
August 16th, 2010 at 2:39 pm
I’m a gay man, and I find this to be one of the most asshat-ish articles I’ve ever stumbled across. It seems obvious to me that Kent is straight (which others also have confirmed above), and yet the author does something far worse than SYTYCD has ever done by stereotyping him. He’s a dancer with some feminine traits, therefore he must be homosexual? What a close-minded, ridiculous viewpoint.
Terra
August 17th, 2010 at 2:25 am
Dear Author,
As a media coordinator for a human rights advocacy organization in DC, I cannot impress upon you the power of the written word – especially with the freedom we thankfully experience here in the U.S. You have illustrated profoundly the powerful effect comments can have on others, by eliciting these reactions from your peers. Consider for a moment how you are now being defined by what you say.
A wise gay designer and critic, who is considered one of the best in his industry, was interviewed in a recent article concerning a certain popular Lifetime show: his advice for the contestants? “There is never an excuse to be mean.” For a man who has stood among the fashion giants of the world, and is renowned for being tough, the truth speaks volumes. At the end of the day, I encourage you look at yourself, and the power you’ve been given, and ask “Do I want to be a Martin Luther King, Jr. or a Malcom X?” That may sound dramatic, but you may never know who your words reach. You may light a fire, but what guides it? You can speak truth with strength, but there is no need to attack the character and identity of others who similarly speak their mind.
Though this message may never reach Mr. Kent Boyd, or anyone who knows him personally, I offer this encouragement:
Kent, no matter where you go in life, the people you meet are truly just people. People are people in Hollywood and on Broadway. Some are truly genius – but at the end of the day, they are still people. The industry is rough. You may well be caught up in unexpected drama, beaten down, treated like an object, and work extremely hard for every inch of your success. People may try to define you.
Through all of it, stay true to yourself. Fame is temporary, but love is eternal. Your love of dance radiates from you when you perform – and your love of people is undeniable. Never abandon the things that you love. Keep those you love close, your friends, family, fellow dancers and choreographers, and continue to draw from those who surround you with their love and their positive energy.
The world has much more to see of you, Mr. Boyd. Take time to refocus when you need it – and enjoy the ride!
(To SYTYCD fans and critics, Fox invites viewers to participate in surveys following their show air-times online. If you are willing to invest the time to participate in this blog, it may be worth signing up along with friends with similar points of view, to express your thoughts in those surveys. However, I do know the producers scan the blogs for opinions, so my hunch is that someone will have read this article already.)
gay person
August 17th, 2010 at 6:20 am
wow, this article generated so much ….emotion for a lot of people.
Good for homorazzi having ‘the balls’ to make the allegations.
I agree, with a lot of it….but this article really stretches it when assuming Kent’s Beyonce ‘hit that’ comment is a slap to gay teens/tweens…
Even if he IS gay, its his right to ‘cover it up’ until he feels comfortable. and at that age, its dumb for anyone to expect him to represent every gay guys ‘role model gay’ and really hes representing for the ‘effeminate’ dancer…not gays.
and if he ISNT forced to represent for the gays, which he didn’t sign up for….thats much better for the gay community…it proves that its okay to be feminine for a guy, and that doesnt brand him gay. If society understands, gender roles work independantly of sexuality. it means you dont have to be defined by your sexuality, which isn’t anyones business anyways. you should be judged for who you are and not if you sleep with same or different sex.
You shouldn’t be fired at a job for being gay or even asked about that…and in Kent’s case this is the same situation, he’s dancing, trieng out for a career, he is NOT there to talk about who he has sex with.
This definitely goes both ways…same way that a macho gay man shouldnt be expected to ‘act’ like the ‘gay stereotype’ to be gay. Young kids these days are a little more accepting of gays…but automatically bashing someone for being to feminine and pressuring your views on him…thats the same as the ‘straight world’ pressuring naturally effeminate gays to not be who they are because they think they have the world figured out.
Anyways, if Kent does read this, he should know gay or not, SYTYCD is about dancing. He’s not expected to represent the fight of every gay, especially not at his age.
That job falls on the show’s producers arms.
I do think Nigel is promoting homophobia…seems to be like hes the kind of guy whose like ‘if i couldnt do it -neither can u’…he needs to be more relaxed and realise times are changing and ballroom dancing CAN evolve and be two of the same sex, especially if they are properly representing their role in the dance (ie. traditional man role and female role).
cdkf
August 19th, 2010 at 2:26 pm
While I do understand your contention with So You Think You Can Dance I think you’re missing a critical element. Personal sexuality should not be a decisive factor within dance. I hate to point it out, but your review is being single minded as well in labeling and demanding an outspoken gay dancer. We don’t know if Kent (your example, not mine) is gay, straight or even A-sexual and your disgust at the question brought forth by Kat are based on a pointed decision about Kent and his sexuality. How do you know he’s gay? What makes him obviously gay? I wasn’t aware that sexual preference was a character trait.
As for Nigel’s comment regarding effeminate dancing, I can understand a contempt for it. In fact I’m less offended by your raised homophobic undertones then I am by the idea that there exists a way for women to dance and a way for men to dance. Much like I expect dance to transcend sexual preference I expect it to transcend gender roles as well. Something I saw a glimmer of hope with the rising number of female breakers.
The fact of the matter is that there shouldn’t have to be a pride flag waved, nor a gender flag, nor any stipulation of the proper conduct of the individual. (Alright with the exception that a contestant should be a technically competent dancer.)
In all honesty I think you’re missing the larger issue, the focus ought to be the dance and the performance not the individual and their personal lives.
Mallory
August 20th, 2010 at 10:26 pm
why do they have to say HEY I”M GAY??? As a straight female I DON”T GIVE A CRAP it’s about dancing not if a guy’s gay or not. I don’t sit and watch the show and go huh I wonder if he’s gay or SHE’S gay for that matter. Just because it’s a dance show means they have to broadcast who’s gay and who’s not that to me is bull. I agree with Nigel I think guys should dance like guys Billy and Jakob are prime examples really flexible guys that showcase what they have but still dance like dudes. Brandon Bryant screamed like a little girl when I mett him on tour and told him I had a gift for him but HE DANCED LIKE A DUDE. Gay straight bi doesn’t matter it’s about their talent not who they like to kiss afterwords.
Jake
August 30th, 2010 at 11:44 am
you’re an idiot, just because he’s a male dancer doesn’t mean he’s gay. it’s people like you who make assumptions and stereotype who give gays a bad name. you write in your article that he is “OBVIOUSLY GAY”, however you don’t consider how this would make him feel, whether he is gay and you just posted his sexuality all over your website, or if he’s not gay and you’ve further opened him to ridicule and questioning of his sexuality.
Lavender
August 31st, 2010 at 12:34 am
it is so true that it doesn’t matter what a person’s sexuality is. Women don’t always talk about how much they love men, or they’re boyfriends, why should gays?? If Kent is straight, which i believe he is, thats just great, lucky girls! and if hes gay?? oh well, lucky guys! men don’t have to talk about being gay in front of millions of people on live tv! i know plenty of boys just like kent. Over half the guys i know act like him… and i am definatly NOT saying that every guys i know is gay! heck, my DAD acts like him… sooo not gay…
but honestly, your stereotypes on quirky male dancers are starting to wear really thin, so please, give them a rest.
Onasummermorning
September 14th, 2010 at 6:10 am
Ok. A female perspective here. SYTYCD IS biased against gay men BECAUSE middle America is biased against gay men. Why is this discussion SO orientated around Kent Boyd, when to my mind Billy Bell is so obviously gay and in many ways a far superior dancer to Kent. Why is no-one arguing his case? Why is it that Robert Roldan only seemed to progress when he started to display hetero style behaviour and noone is commenting? Because your middle America is SO STRAIGHT LACED!!! SYTHYCD require ratings therefore require middle America votes (sigh, cry). Us international viewers would really like a say here but can only observe. And what we observe is pathetic. Give us a vote and we could vote for the exceptional dancers. I really could not give a crap about whether Kent, Billy or Robert were gay, straight or sky blue pink (as long as they were happily getting laid in the manner they prefer) I just love to watch them dance, and would love to see them judged as dancers. External to America this is seen as SO small minded. It is not small town or big city stuff. It is just archaic. Push to get this voted on by an international audience and the gay/not gay issue should surely disappear. Please do this. It is so frustrating to repeatedly watch talent being judged by ludicrous narrow minded values (50+ artist living in Nelson, New Zealand)
Kents Neighbor
September 26th, 2010 at 7:45 pm
Ok seriously guys Kent’s not gay…I went to school with him and he basicaly went out with every girl in his grade…Which isnt saying much really cuz his grade had like ten girls lol But if you dont believe me look up Kent boyd botkins high school class and they talk about it for a while…And besides even if he was gay you guys shouldnt have the liberty of talkin like he automaticaly is gay…you don’t even know and it’s rude to presume things. Just cuz he lets his true emotions come out doesnt mean he is gay. And besides can you guys seriously get a life and stop arguing over a teen’s sexuality…I mean seriously!!!
R
September 27th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
neighbour, I came out after high school, and an old friend had a similar response when he heard I was gay. I completely respect that you knew him, but people change. And if you’re contributing to the argument, shouldn’t you get a life too?! :)
Leeann Willegal
October 4th, 2010 at 9:53 pm
effective luck as buyers
Dances with Kent
October 24th, 2010 at 10:45 am
okay.
STERYOTYPE MUCH ?
wow. okay this is just pure ridiculous. i have danced with kent for about 5 years. i am great friends with him AND his family and know for a fact that kent is not gay! i think its absolutely terrible how people stereotype male dancers. what i am wondering is why no one is saying anything about billy? or robert or alex? all three of them are gay. why isn’t anyone saying anything? first off, i love all the dancers on the show. i love the gays , and i love the straights. i honestly don’t care about homosexuality. because its that persons choice. WHY in the hell should people assume other people are gay? i mean why does it matter? God didn’t make us to judge people. it is completely wrong if we judge gay people because of what they want. but no. kent is not gay and don’t make assumptions that he is. “kent is CLEARLY gay” not true. if you don’t know that for a fact, then don’t say anything about him what so ever. good or bad because no one wants your idiotic opinion.
Connie007
December 19th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Honestly, who cares if he is gay or not? If I were gay myself, I would find it quite discriminating and rather offending to be defined by my sexual choices in life. He is gay, and so what, I am ambidextrous and red haired… Honestly if that’s all the new found excuse for mediocrity, I am sorry to say it’s pretty shameful for all those who need this kind of very private revelation, and what for?? They had better reveal themselves throughout noticeably edifying deeds in their life, particularly would the latter be ‘official’.
Daisy
April 5th, 2011 at 12:14 pm
Wow… Adam you don’t have the right to tell ANYONE who they are. Period. Nor do any of the other idiots with their ‘gaydars’.
Your opinions are opinions only not ‘fact’ as you like to call it. Get over yourselves and learn some respect for others.
haleyalexander
May 13th, 2011 at 12:13 am
Um…guys? I hate to tell you but I know Kent Boyd. He’s straight. Yes, he’s very effeminate and I know that this can be misleading. But he definitely likes girls. He’s having to constantly reaffirm that with everyone he meets. And either way I don’t think that Nigel was trying to hate on gay men when he said he didn’t like effeminate male dancers. A lot of people in the dance world don’t like effeminate male dancers, it’s not what the look, line, and technique of a male contemporary dance is “supposed” to look like to most people. It isn’t, however, okay for them to suppress the contestants’ sexuality if that’s what they’re doing. I also don’t think that Kent exactly hated being “pimped out to girls in their tweens”, it helped him (along with him being a fantastic dancer) get votes and move forward in the competition. And I’m sorry but I have a hard time respecting this article when you’re using your assumptions about someone’s sexuality to make your point here. How do you think that Kent, a STRAIGHT 18 year old boy would feel if he read this? Especially since he already has to convince everyone he isn’t gay in the first place. If you have your opinions about the show, you’re entitled to them. But don’t bring someone else into it that you don’t even know by making assumptions about them.
haleyalexander
May 13th, 2011 at 12:17 am
I’d also like to add that I’d have absolutely no issue were Kent gay, and that I don’t see how his sexuality is relevant to his dancing, which is what the show is about. It’s called “So You Think You Can Dance?” Not “So You Think You Can Date?”
steve mills
May 19th, 2011 at 1:24 am
There are times people judge other people by their sexual orientation & then there is sytycd.
I have worked in the gay scene since 1987 & I’ve seen alot of homophobia but not really on sytycd.
I don’t know for sure, but why wold you think Kent is gay?
I just think he is an inexperienced boy who doesn’t know anything about life except what people tell him what he should do, be and act.
Marcela
August 12th, 2011 at 12:39 am
You are projecting so hard. Where exactly is this irrefutable evidence that Kent is gay? Unless they literally say it, there is no proof. You’re working on assumption and stereotype. Huh, it’s funny, don’t gay people hate it when people stereotype them? And of course, there’s the age-old stereotype that male dancers are gay by default.
You almost make me ashamed to be bisexual.
Costa Mesa Bail Bonds
January 8th, 2012 at 5:03 am
Undeniably consider that which you said. Your favourite reason seemed to be on the internet the easiest factor to be mindful of. I say to you, I definitely get annoyed whilst people consider issues that they plainly do not realize about. You managed to hit the nail upon the highest as smartly as outlined out the entire thing without having side effect , other folks could take a signal. Will probably be again to get more. Thank you
Kristen Schmidt
May 30th, 2012 at 10:43 pm
All I know is that Kent is super adorable and talented and none of is should care about anything else or try to assume stuff we couldn’t possibly know! But whether he is straight or not(my guess is straight) I’m jealous of all of you who know him because he seems like an amazing person and I only wish I knew him!
Kristen Schmidt
May 31st, 2012 at 6:08 pm
If the show is so homophobic than why has Ellen DeGeneres danced on it? She’s out and proud!
ruby
December 2nd, 2012 at 12:51 pm
Ok look yes gays should have the freedom to be dancing in each others arms I mean its their life but in my honest opinion I still don’t think they should and could to this point, there are still people today who don’t appreciate the fact that they need to cover their kids eyes becuase gays are kissing like my mom or me in some cases. Things are changing and fast. Soon they would be coming out of their closest so for now calm down on critizing the people who put this show together, they just want to keep the show with many views.
dale
January 29th, 2013 at 10:01 pm
damn! you rocked it with this article. yes, I too remember the anti-gay attitudes of this and many many many other shows. nigel is a dick!