SIDE DISH Episode: 104 HIV+ Dating


Here’s another segment we filmed over the weekend. In this segment of SIDE DISH, we have Jonny, Stephen and Donovan joined by special guest panelist, Mitch. The four discuss Adam’s much read “Clean and Tested?” article. We decided to dedicate an entire episode on this topic as it garnered a great deal of comments and deserved our full attention.

We also decided to bring on guest panelist, Mitch as he’s newly singled and re-entering the dating scene after a long hiatus. As a person in a long term relationship, I was fascinated to hear the other panelists’ viewpoints about the touchy topic of dating an HIV+ individual. Can you expect to receive full disclosure? Is that fair on the other party’s part? Should their HIV status even be a major factor in the dating decision? There are a few of the situations we discuss in this video.

As always, it was a one take pony- we feel it’s much more real and unrehearsed this way. Heck, we didn’t even know what Jonny was going to throw at us until 30 seconds before filming. Hope you enjoy it and we would love to hear your feedback.

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  • Thanks so much for the video guys. I have to say when I saw the topic I was a little afraid to see what you had to say on the subject as I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago and have hardly dated since. This whole topic came up when I finally met a guy that seemed interesting a little while ago and suddenly I was faced with a very tough decision. When do you tell someone? I was scared (and still am) that if I told him right off the bat it would taint his opinion of me before he got the chance to see just how fabulous a person I am! I can see how someone who is negative wants to be told right away, but you also have to understand that for someone like me, the only people i’ve told are people i’ve known and trusted for years, and to tell someone i’ve just met turns it into a whole new game. I try my best every day to understand and accept that I am not my illness, and therefore don’t want to go sharing it with every person I go on a date with. Lucky for me (I guess) this guy turned out to be a total freak before it ever even got to that point, but I have to say it’s nice to know that good looking, intelligent people like you guys are understanding and accepting. ANd I have to say, while this illness has changed my life in ways that would take me days to describe, it doesn’t change who I am as a person and will never change who I am as a person. I’m still as fabulous as ever, and plan on living to be 105.
    Thanks again guys 🙂

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  • sean

    This interview goes to show how hypocritical some of you and the gay community in Vancouver are in general. Not only are many in the gay community here biased due to lack of education, but you say, “it depends on if it was the right person” which takes time to figure out, but then you say, you would want to know right away and would be angry if you found out on the 10th date. How can you know if that person is the right one in one date?! If he disclosed and you judged/rejected him, then you are basically saying you would never get to the point of finding out if he was the right one or not. You want the best of both worlds and that’s just not realistic. And the longer that mentality goes on the more marginalized HIV+ guys will be and the rest of you will miss out on some pretty amazing individuals.