Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka don’t want to be the poster children for the perfect gay relationship. However, when you read their personal love stories about how they found each other, it’s hard not to have a heavy admiration for the couple. In the lastest issue of OUT Magazine, both Neil and David take a spin at writing down their love story and sharing intimate moments from their first encounter, to raising children.
One thing rings true in both of their renditions – they are madly in love with each other. Sure, like any couple they fight to which they both admit. But with the addition of two beautiful twins, they both proclaim the fights aren’t as big as they used to be and as Neil says, ” what’s the point? We’re in this for a major long haul.”
Neil remembers meeting David for the first time on a street corner with his friend Kate. At the time, David was seeing someone else in a long distance relationship. Neil wasn’t going to get involved and wreck the house, but he couldn’t help but be drawn to this guy. David says in his version that after he broke it off with his long distance boyfriend, a week later, he and Neil went on a date and the rest is history. Now, he says “without him, I can’t breathe. Check out a few more excerpts from the couple’s mini-love story below.
On deciding to have children together: “Children were always talked about, but there was a certain point — when David was in L.A. and I was working on How I Met Your Mother, maybe season two or three — when we both agreed that if we wanted to have kids, we didn’t want to do it super late in the game. We wanted our parents to enjoy the process and to be young and vibrant enough to throw a ball with them, or to chase them around without using a walker. That was the eternal game-changer — now we rarely fight in the big ways. What’s the point? We’re in this for a major long haul.”
On falling in love with David: “I initially fell for David harder than he fell for me. I was in love with him before he was comfortable saying it, and I think that speaks to our past experiences. I remember saying, “I think I love you,” and he was like, “That’s really nice,” which is not necessarily what you want to hear. But I appreciated his honesty in not jumping the gun and saying something because he felt obliged to.”
On the ups and downs of their relationship: “So we talk things out. I don’t want to paint our relationship like we met and it’s been happy family fantastic-ness ever since. What defines a relationship is the work that’s involved to maintain it, and it’s constantly changing. Sometimes I’m deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it’s going to work out and is meant to be. It’s like a business relationship, as well as a personal one; we have a business together and that’s maintaining our love for one another.”
David on having kids with Neil: “Even on that first date, we talked about kids. If he hadn’t wanted kids, I don’t think we’d be together. I always thought that family was the most important thing in life, and no matter what I do, whether being a chef or an actor or a dancer, being a dad is what I do best. I am the maternal one in the relationship. For the first year, I didn’t miss a nighttime or morning with them. I think it’s important to have other lives and feed your relationship, but it’s also important that your children are raised by you. We named Gideon after an artist we collect, Gideon Rubin, and Harper after Harper Lee. To Kill a Mockingbird is one of our favorite books.”
To read the full love story, check out OUT.com.