It Could Happen To You: You Must Watch This Heart Wrenching Video
Filed under: Patrick, Politics & Issues, Totally GAY!, Videos
Author: Patrick
Date: May 8, 2012
I just finished watching the video below and am still wiping away the tears from my face. Shane Bitney Crone (the creator of the video) says: “It has been said that sharing personal stories is one of the most effective ways to change people’s hearts and minds. This is my story and I hope you are inspired to share it with others.”
Crone tells the story of he and his other half, Tom Bridegroom. They were together for 6 years and while together, they had both come out to their families, they started a business together, adopted a dog, and traveled the world. Then, in 2011 something devastating happened that would change everything.
The NOH8 Campaign is officially here in Vancouver for the first time today and it’s stories like these that remind me of what we’re all fighting for. If you need a reminder, watch this video and share it with others.
Copy and paste this link to share the story with others: http://bit.ly/IVDcFP
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patrick
May 8th, 2012 at 9:47 am
sigh… and now im crying too…
Oliver
May 8th, 2012 at 10:57 am
I’m crying now too.
Karen Tucker
May 8th, 2012 at 11:30 am
I knew Tom in LA several years ago, when he was fresh off the boat (so to speak). He had not met Shane yet. I cam to know Shane after Tom’s untimely death. They are beautiful people and I believe you know that I don’t me that in just the physical sense. And just to set the record straight – I am a mom, just a mom and in LA, Tom was one of my “kids”….he was the greatest!
Menno
May 8th, 2012 at 1:03 pm
Sad to see this… Very sad… I take for granted what I have here in Holland in Europe… The legal rights to actually marry and be a family legally… It breaks my heart seeing Shane and not getting the closure he wants and the “rights” that he has towards Tom… Even though we were the first country in the world to legalize same sex marriage its not something to take for granted… I am a supporter of and do believe in EQUAL RIGHTS for everyone… I wish Shane all the best in the world and hope his grief will soften a little bit with the support he will get from lots of people around the globe! x
Ken Williams
May 8th, 2012 at 1:03 pm
Shane and Tom’s story really touched my heart and left me in tears. This is one of the reasons why the government should open their minds about homosexuality, they should learn that “WE” are not a disease, or a disgrace in the society. They should put themselves in our shoes and understand what’s it like. WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS, WE EAT WHAT OTHERS EAT, WE SEE WHAT THEY SEE, WE FEEL WHAT THEY FEEL, the only difference is, WE HAVE A WIDER UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT BEING HUMAN IS ABOUT. MAY WE BE GAY, STRAIGHT, TRANSGENDERED OR BI, WE ARE THE SAME BECAUSE WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS SHARING WHAT NATURE AND GOD HAS IN STORE FOR US.
Braden
May 8th, 2012 at 5:53 pm
This will most likely happen to me. My family also subscribes to christian dogma and will heavily exclude any gay mention at my funeral. That being said, I do not like how marriage is played with here. It is highly problematic to say that if they had been married, everything would have been ok. Shane even admits that no will was written on either side. The christian institution of marriage that exists in the world of the two subjects in this video is the culprit here. So….therefore I ask, why should we want marriage? The problem lies not in the fact that homosexuals are excluded from marriage, but the proud role that society has placed on citizens who are married. Demanding inclusion into that archaic and conservative system defeats the purpose of gay liberation.
That being said, am I pro inclusion? Of course. But not into a role that is so regimented and rewarded by political and religious parties that hate us.
Marshall
May 8th, 2012 at 6:58 pm
This story like many others really touched me. The sad reality is that society makes it out to be such an abomination, when what we want is so basic. The right to love who you choose, and the right to have who you choose by your side when we are in need of them the most. It makes me sick to my stomach that a parent could alienate the one thing in their own child’s life that they loved more than anything else in this world. Not even welcoming someone to a funeral? It’s sick. I hope and pray that Shane is able to move on with his life. I for one am going to continue to speak out against bigotry and other hatred towards gay rights. We tend to take for granted how lucky we are to live in a country that accepts us for who we are, not who we choose to sleep with. But we are all brothers and sisters, regardless of borders and we need to help each other out and continue the battle even if it is not on our own soil. I was one of those kids who never came out to his mom. I chose to do it in an unconventional way but I made it clear…My mother was in her final weeks of a losing battle with cancer and I made the choice to be true to myself and bring my partner into her life. I needed to do it for myself and for her. It was the best thing I have ever done…she accepted him with open arms, and was more happy that she got to meet someone who I loved for the first time in her own life. There are allot of amazing people just like Shane’s family and my mother out there, but the sad fact is that most are not like them. Most are just ignorant through no fault of their own. It’s due to lack of education/awareness on the issues. So many hear “gay marriage” and jump to disgusting conclusions about what it will do to us and our children!! We are not asking anyone to change the bible…we just want equal rights, and we should have them. Why is it anybody’s right to decide what I or any other glbt person does with their life?
We need to continue to be vocal about these issues and make a change. Just like our brothers did back in the 70s and 80s. It’s our duty for our future generations to come…
Marshall
May 8th, 2012 at 7:05 pm
@ Braden, I think you are overlooking the point to this video…the point is that this man was not able to see his life partner in the hospital and had no rights to him what’so’ever because some bigots in government decided it’s not ok for two people to choose who they want to spend their lives with. Marriage in the eyes of the law would have made this easier for him. This is not about defining marriage in the biblical sense at all…it’s about opening our eyes to another example of why it’s so wrong to deny someone the basic right to be able to love someone and be recognized for it in the eyes of the law. If they were married, it’s likely his mortgage would have been covered, his funeral expenses would have been a tax write off and he would have had the right and final say to decide where his husband was burried or what medical procedures to take while he was in the hospital. Basic rights that his life partner would have wanted for him…
Braden
May 8th, 2012 at 11:30 pm
@Marshall.
I agree with you, marriage would have alleviated the problems. That is however THE problem. The current form of marriage and its class elevation properties acts as an enemy, rewarding those who are included in its absurd traditions with special rights and treatment. Marriage as an institution is an old and flawed one, and needs to be replaced with systems that better reflect citizens rights.
And trust me, our brothers in the 70′s and 80′s would be writhing in their skin if they saw how conversative we have allowed gay liberation to become.
Ann
May 9th, 2012 at 12:04 pm
Who sings that beautiful song @ 4:50 in the video? Anyone?
czahn
May 9th, 2012 at 10:46 pm
all of a sudden. i aint got nothing to complain about in life.
Regan DuCasse
May 10th, 2012 at 12:06 am
Tom’s family was utterly, utterly cruel and heartless. There are families that respect the best friend, and closest friend relationships of their children. Even if they didn’t want to acknowledge that Tom was gay, Shane was important to TOM.
This is about the spite and the selfishness of the Bridegrooms. So selfish as to not care at ALL about Tom’s feelings or what mattered to HIM. And worst of all, treating Shane as if he wasn’t even human. I bet if he’d been a dog they would have acknowledged that a dog’s feelings would have mattered.
Their behavior was disgraceful and why they are dangerous and why marriage would have at least entitled Shane to tell them where to stick it.
The nerve of those people demanding that Shane pay the expenses of shipment and funeral, but to not be allowed to be there?!
Heartless and selfish people.
dystopian
May 10th, 2012 at 9:47 am
@Ann: the song is “Beautiful Boy” by Coleen McMahon
http://youtu.be/fsAKJEvgd9w
Same thing would happen over here anyway. But letting Shane pay for sending his boy home though, that was small-minded and nasty.
Ritchard Mckie
May 10th, 2012 at 3:34 pm
So sorry for your loss, you both were so beautifull together. Hopefully gay marriage will come soon. Stay strong, Best Wishes.
Donny
May 10th, 2012 at 4:33 pm
Gutted.
heather johnson
May 14th, 2012 at 12:17 am
I am from Tom’s home town and my friends and i want to have a memorial to celebrate his life and love and i am trying to welcome shane to come but i dont know how to get ahold of him personally
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