No, I’m not talking about your store hours. I’m talking about relationships. From threeways & playing together, to open relationships, to completely monogamous relationships. It’s a really interesting topic to me because, particularly in the gay world, the latter seems very rare. In fact, I don’t know if I can name one gay couple that I know that has not open their bedroom door up to little sexual adventure with a guest.
I think that gay couples do eventually get to the threesome stage. My opinion would be that you should wait until at LEAST after 3 years. You may find it a very difficult experience to see someone else “touching” the one you’re with. But if you can see it as just sex, then chances are it can work. I don’t think open relationships could work for me because it dramatically increases the risk that you could get emotionally involved with someone, and that would drive me crazy. That being said, I can’t say that if I was in a relationship with someone where we were away from each other all the time due to traveling, it could work potentially. The most important thing with all of the above is communication and safety. Talk about the rules and play safe.
I wonder – typically are straight relationships like this? I’ve often felt that we as gays people don’t have any relationship role models to look up to. I mean I guess we kind of do within each of our own circles, but it seems loosely defined for us. For straight couples the formula is pretty simple.
Meet + Date + Get Married + Have Children = Happily Ever After.
What about us? What’s the formula? As we continue to get more equal rights and adopt children, etc., do you think things would be different? If we could be open about our sexuality at a younger age, do you think we may not have so much “catching up” to do when we step out of the closet?
I have no judgment when it comes to threesomes, etc. having been there myself. It just makes me curious. Is it because we are guys and guys typically are built differently in that they want to f### all the time? Or are straight couples like this too, but it just isn’t an openly discussed topic because it isn’t in line with the conventional formula?
I don’t know. You tell me – what has your experience been?
Looking forward to hearing your own opinions / experience on the topic.