“We must all tell our parents. We must tell our families. We must all tell our friends. We must all tell our coworkers…. What was done to us when we were children was nothing less than child abuse…. Liberate yourself and all others who are locked in the closet…. Badger everyone you know who is closeted–your friends, your family members, your coworkers – to come out. Put pressure on those in power whom you know to be queer. Send them letters. Call them on the phone. Fax them. Confront them in the streets. Tell them they have a responsibility: to themselves, to you, to humanity.” – Michelangelo Signorile, Queer in America, 1993
I understand that there are some concerned and loyal Homorazzi.com readers and followers that are upset about the stance I took on my recent “outing” article – more specifically, how I referred to the “outee” as a “little bitch”.
This isn’t an apology, but more of an expansion and clarification on: Gay Men Who Out Other Gay Men Are … Neither Right Nor Wrong. My opinion still, strongly and firmly, stands.
How many of you have had a conversation with a group of friends and nonchalantly mentioned, “Oh yeah, that guy, he’s gay”. Guess what, if someone in that group didn’t know that said person was gay, you just outed them, and you’ve officially participated in “the worst thing you can do to anyone” (A quote from a response to the original article by Jay, May 9, 1:47 pm). It’s all relative to the situation, or in this case, in how you, the readers, have interpreted my tone in saying “little bitch”. Have you not been annoyed by someone and referred to him or her as a “little bitch”? … And if you have, don’t respond by saying, “but it’s a different situation”. Yes, the situation is different, but the meaning behind you calling said person a “little bitch” remains the same: an instinct reaction and response to being annoyed by someone’s immature actions. Go ahead and call me a “little bitch”. I understand why.
Because I have chosen to quote Michelangelo Signorile doesn’t mean I completely agree with his point of view…. But can you now understand where I was coming from when I said “Why would you want to hide your true self, especially when there is increasing support for LGBT members in mainstream culture these days?” You should be proud of who you are. Own your sexuality. Flaunt it. If you fear a negative reaction from taking one of the biggest risks (if not the biggest) of your life by proudly proclaiming who you are … WHO CARES? Those people don’t deserve to be in your company. There is an increasing amount of support for LGBT equality and LGBT rights that it’s pointless and unnecessary to remain hidden in the closet (in my opinion). You don’t have to go around waving a Pride flag (like I do), but at least know that others, people who you don’t even know, support you for who you are 120%. Let those people know you support yourself 120%.
This is called an opinion and everyone is entitled to one. I respect and welcome your responses/comments and take it as constructive criticism. If I can respect you and your comments/feedback, you can certainly respect me and my opinion.
Men who out other gay men are neither right nor wrong.
*Disclaimer: The views presented in this article are solely those of the author and do not represent Homorazzi.com in its entirety.