Comments on: Dating: “Hit the Road Jack!”

By: Dan

Dan — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 07:06:07 +0000

Mitch - All I can say is this is simply adorable!

Keep going on these dates so you have more to talk about!

I’m always intrigued as to the dating scene, as like Adam, I rarely find myself in these situations. ;)

By: Allan

Allan — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:57:44 +0000

Well - funny that Topher should be above my response because…his response to me hitting on him was the best shut down I’ve EVER received. Anyone who has had the pleasure of meeting Topher knows that’s he’s funny and very attractive and tall…how could you not have a crush on him? When I drunkenly told him that I thought he was really cute he said, “I think you’re really nice but I like tall guys too.” I’m 5′5 and it was just the best shut down I’ve ever had. I felt like instead of it being me as a person he was just being honest about what he liked that I would not be able to give him. Perfect.
I’m like Adam and always get dumped first but if I was in the situation of being the dumper I would pick something that they just couldn’t give so that they don’t feel like it’s them as a person. It made me feel okay, so I’d hope for the same thing with the guy I was shutting down.

By: topher

topher — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 12:04:50 +0000

If the other person was interested, then it’s going to sting when you tell them you’re not feeling it. But it’s WAY better to do it the way you’ve done it (honestly) then to drag it on for a few more dates, or give some lame excuse like “I’m really busy this week”. If you’re to the point, and honest, without leaving anything up to interpretation they’ll be pissed at first, but they’ll move on quickly, unless they’re a psycho in which case it wouldn’t matter how you ended it anyway.

By: Stephen

Stephen — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 04:40:50 +0000

Mitch, I think what you did, being honest, is always the best way to go. If you didn’t feel the spark, then you didn’t feel the spark. It’s not like you were mean, you were just honest with these guys.

Personally I think its the guys you were dating whose reactions were in the wrong. They should be asking themselves why they would even want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with them, right? I understand, they’re probably disappointed because obviously they saw something there with you, but you did your part, you were honest with them about how you felt and that’s all you can do.

If someone didn’t feel the spark with me, I would hope they would be honest and tell me so it wouldn’t be a waste of time, right? I’d respect that much more than hearing silence or a few missed calls or unreturned texts - I’d get the message, but I’d think “douchey coward” in my head.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:19:00 +0000

Good article, Mitchy :)

By: Adam

Adam — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 21:40:40 +0000

Breaking up with someone is RUDE and morally WRONG… i can’t believe you would write and article about this.. the fact that this site would show this is outrageous… I will never come here again. I am AGAINST anything as horrible as breaking up with someone and would never go to a site that discusses this.

ps. awesome article. i’m just yelling at our owners ;) x
pps. i would never BE in this situation… i ALWAYS get dumped first but do love that you would ask.
xx

By: bruin

bruin — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 11:04:22 +0000

ooh really tough one. the best way is to dont pick up the phone and let it ring. silence is golden. and the message is clear.