Now I don’t really care what industry we’re talking about, what job you work in, or who you’re surrounded by, we always encounter douchebags who think that they know shit better than you, no?
Let’s give an example. You’re an experienced server, working for your tips, in the industry for a while and doing your job right, and yet there’s always the jerk that will tell you that you need to bring them a fork (before you get a chance to), or reiterate how they like their steak done (even though you heard them four times), or insult the dressing on the salad (like you’re the one that made it). The arrogance of humanity has no bounds, and no matter what job you’re in, it arises everywhere.
Well I happen to be in the liquor industry, where arrogance is only amplified by the amount of booze people drink, and boy do I see it all. The people you thought were nice, doing incomparable things while drunk. The not so nice people, searching endlessly for love in all the inappropriate places. I’ve seen it all. And I don’t judge, because I’ve been that guy. The point is that my industry has an added factor of douchebagery to it, but what doesn’t change are the people that have some deluded sense of self worth, and feel that they belong more than you do. The “VIP’s”.
That’s just it though. This sense of ownership that can spring out of nowhere in front of your eyes. Where goes the time when people were generally thankful and said please or recognized they were getting some special treatment? I’m professionally social with people twice my age that are genuinely grateful and kind, and every time, I’m thankful for good souls. Makes we wonder, in such sharp contrast, if Lindsay and Paris really had such an effect on this generation, that they think no matter how small the city, how microcosmic the community, that they deserve to get away with more than the rest of the population? But these self important “celebrities”, people trapped in their own heads too much to realize the actuality of reality all around them, always seem to throw a wrench in the chain of peoples around them. I don’t care if you’re a banker, or a bartender, a social worker, or a TV star. Guess what? We’re all people. Despite age, despite race, despite your history, we all deserve the same respect all around, and anything else is just ignorant.
Why am I writing this? Because there’s so many good people out there that barely get recognized because they don’t create controversy. Isn’t it the bane of this age to only reward for bad behavior? Fueling controversy seems to get you so much attention. But really, a note to everyone out there. A bit of humble pie goes a long long way. I don’t care if you’re on the cover of a newspaper and want to provoke violence, or you’re a washed up queen bitter against a younger generation. I could care less if you’re a news writer thinking there are no consequences to your irresponsible actions in public. Guess what? You’re still just a human being, and once you get outside of yourself and understand that you are just relating to and communicating with other human beings no different than yourself, you might just gain enough perspective to realize that your actions and thoughts are no more privileged than the rest of us.
So next time your friend, companion, coworker, customer, does a good deed, reward it with a something positive in return, even if just a smile, and an honest thank you. Because what we really need to start doing is provoking the good natures that make our days on a regular basis. Whether it’s a spot of good advice, or a genuine concern, or a general honest positivity, let’s let THOSE people know that we appreciate them, because in doing so, we’ll be handing over less power to, and giving less attention to those that think that demanding and expecting special treatment throughout their “above average” lives is okay.
Great things abound, with a little honest humility.