Filed under: Donovan, Politics & Issues, Videos
Author: Donovan
Date: Apr 7, 2009
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You’ve read Tommy D’s account of the rally. Now check out a few other cast member’s views and account on what they experienced during Sunday’s rally. Click here to view pictures from the rally on Sunday.
** Click the ‘HQ’ button below to view the video in higher quality **
“While I did not get to participate in the rally because I was working, I did have the opportunity to view all the footage and put together the video for this post. I must say, of all the videos I have created for homorazzi so far, this one was the most difficult for me to make. Not because of the technical side of things, but because it was rather emotional. I admit I take the freedom to be who I am for granted at times, and seeing this reminds me that there is still so much to be done. So many people fought for my rights before me, and now the torch is passed onto us. We must continue the fight for equality. Seeing all of those people marching to the inspirational words sung by the Vancouver Men’s Chorus brought tears to my eyes. Thinking of the people that have been injured or killed as a result of crimes of hate breaks my heart and I want to make sure I do my part in preventing this from happening in the future.”
“I’ve never been an overly political oriented individual. Even during the time when my mother ran for federal election a few years back, I just went through the motions. Not that I don’t have strong beliefs and convictions, it’s just that I’m an overly shy person – believe it or not. I’ve just been the type of person who just quietly does things in the background. Sunday’s march was the first one I’ve ever been involved in even though I’ve been the target of a hate-based attack. During high school, I was walking down the streets late one night and was attacked by a group of skinheads because of the color of my skin. I was punched, kicked and hit with a bat. Fast forward a few years to when I finally admitted to myself my sexual orientation. I was very nervous about being a double minority. Unlike the other coming out stories you’ve heard from the cast members, my coming out story is still unfolding. WHAT?!?!? How can that be? I’ll explain that in an upcoming post. So the march was a very big step for me. To walk down with my friends and other members of the gay community that openly and proud was such a liberating experience and at moments I was overcome with emotion. I understand people’s concern about the effectiveness of the rally and how it can truly affect change. It can. Trust someone who’s sat in the background for years. Even if the march affected one person to change their viewpoints, isn’t that worth it? Any fight worth winning, takes time and doesn’t happen overnight. I’m in this fight for the long haul and will no longer sit in the background.”
“Years ago, my ex-boyfriend and I were walking home from the gay bar in Victoria holding hands when three young drunk guys called us faggots. Maybe I should have said nothing and kept on walking, but I didn’t. I turned around and told them off. One of them then jumped up and ran at us throwing punches. He was a little puke and I managed to pull him into a headlock with my giant wingspan. But, then my ex got jumped by the second guy and third guy came at me connecting with an uppercut to the chin. When all was said and done, we actually ended up “winning” the fight… if you call being the least hurt winning. We went home and I crashed on my kitchen floor. I was so angry and upset. But, I didn’t do anything. I don’t know why. It was Victoria. There was no West Enders Against Violence Everywhere group. I didn’t think of it as a hate crime. Because we ended up winning? Maybe. Because I didn’t know what a hate crime was? Yes. Would I do it all differently if it happens to me again? Absolutely.If there was one message I heard louder than any other at the rally on Sunday, it was that we all need to take a stand against hate crimes. Hate crimes against us or any one else. We’re gay, but we’re not the only ones who face violence because of who they are. We need to take it seriously anytime it happens to anyone or we won’t get anywhere.”
“I was there in the beginning to show support but just after an hour I had left….I was happy to see that people were out there but at the end of the day, we can march all we want but if, like Tommy pointed out, there is no direction then our march would have all been just for show. What we need is better policing in these areas. A friend was attacked on the corner of Granville and Davie (where the straights cross paths with the gays) for pizza and poutine and there were no police around. I think another thing that needs to be enforced is telling straight guys at the door of gay bars that it is in fact a gay bar. Simply put if they don’t wanna see gays they shouldn’t be in gay bars or in the gay village.”
“Yesterday, I was able to participate in a march down Davie Street, walking side-by-side with friends and strangers alike, bound together with a common purpose and message: This must stop! The entire experience was uplifting, positive and strengthening and I am so greatful that I was able to participate.
One of my biggest complaints (for lack of a better word) about Vancouver over the last 4 years has been that the gay community didn’t really seem like much of a “community” at all. They no longer had to fight for basic equality and there were no longer any roadblocks to being able to fall in love, get married and live your life however you chose to, which, in my opinion, made the community perhaps a little complacent. There was less intensity, less banding together and less cooperation amongst the various gay sub-communities to achieve something for the greater good. But, yesterday changed all of that for me. Yesterday’s march allowed me to see the Vancouver community in a whole new light and to really appreciate the strength, diversity and intensity present within it.
Even more importantly, instead of seeing anger and lashing out in reaction to the terrible events that led up to the march (which would have been all to easy to do), we saw reaching out. We saw positive actions being taken, dialogues being opened, communities reaching out to each other and showing their support… and it’s that which truly sets us apart.
In addition to being able to march in the rally, I am also part of the Vancouver Men’s Chorus who was asked to lead the march and sing. Here are the words that were sung continuously as we marched down Davie:
We’re gonna keep on marching forward…
Keep on marching forward,
Keep on marching forward.
Never turning back, never turning back.We’re gonna keep on loving boldly…
Keep on loving boldly,
Keep on loving boldly.
Never turning back, never turning back.We’re gonna make this change together…
Make this change together,
Make this change together.
Never turning back, never turning back.The entire experience left me feeling positive, energized and ready to get involved in affecting change. I love that I was able to spend an afternoon with thousands of people, united in purpose and committed to bringing something positive out of a horrible situation and I think that Richard Dowrey would be pleased. Something else fantastic is that I picked up the paper this morning and read that Mr. Dowrey has woken from his coma! The level of his recovery is still unclear and he may never completely recover… but we’ll take the baby steps and be happy that he’s awake!”
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Jonny
April 7th, 2009 at 11:50 am
One word Patrick- POWERFUL. Thank you for editing this and posting it. “Morning Comes To Right The Wrong, Yesterday’s Another Song….” day by day, we get stronger, and learn to love unconditionally.
Kevin
April 7th, 2009 at 4:30 pm
I couldn’t agree more Jonny. Patrick, Donovan and Brian – that video is phenomenal.
Stephen
April 7th, 2009 at 5:49 pm
Great job on the video guys. It’s so interesting to see how one event that everyone attended can have such different effects on us and touch on many aspects of our lives in different ways. Thanks for sharing.
Trish
April 7th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
Ok… I’ve been popping by this tabloid site for about a week now and I have a question…..
who are you? who do you think you are? what credentials do you have to spout your own agendas and mindless chatter (i.e. Lady Gaga, which earphones should I buy, gym etiquette, Mean Girls?!) ?
I’m trying to understand if you’re attempting to be an actual “news” service or simply a site to bitch and complain.
Please don’t take this me disagreeing with taking back the West End. I am totally, completely against violence and homophobia. I’m just confused as to what this site is attempting to be, it seems to have so many voices and no central theme or focus. It’s hard to take an article like this seriously when some of the same “authors”/involved are unable to write a proper sentence or debate an issue with intelligence and class.
Donovan
April 7th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
Hello Trish,
Thank you for your feedback and popping by the site.
In response to your question regarding what our credentials are. I would like to think that you wouldn’t require any specific credentials create a blog to freely write and express your thoughts. By it’s nature, a blog is a medium used by many to convey the thoughts and emotions they are feeling at that particular moment. Blogs are far less structured than print and broadcast media. It’s more like the casual dive down the street where friends go for a drink instead of the formal wine bar around the corner. There is room for both forms to exist. The key is choice and free will. We are not a mainstream media site nor do we strive to become one. I fully understand asking about our credentials if we were reporters on CNN or CBC where that line of questioning would be warranted.
The writers on this site are multi-faceted human beings with many interests ranging from the serious to the fun and lighthearted. How boring and monotone would the world be if everything was just one note. I would like to think that I can easily switch the channel from CBC to MTV without changing who I am at the core. We are not a tabloid site nor are we hardcore news, we are somewhere in between. I do not believe what a person finds enjoyable and blissful mindless chatter. I respect people and what interests them.
I understand where it may get confusing as we have a few authors with different voices and opinions but that’s the beauty of the site. I’m proud of the fact that as a collective group we can work together on a fun project and see it come to fruition.
Again, thank you for feedback. I do respect your opinion.
Rich
April 7th, 2009 at 8:38 pm
Well said Donovan. Like most people I know, I can rant about politics one minute and then rave about pop culture the next. It’s pretty awesome to have a place where you can do that and share it with anyone and everyone.
Murr
April 7th, 2009 at 11:32 pm
well thanks a bunch for making me cry guys. I managed to hold it together for the past days, but that video did it for me.
Your comments, your being there, and that video are all most touching.
I organized the rally not because of any agenda (tho I have a few of those) but rather because I just had enough.
I grabbed a few dear friends and in a few days, we planned things as best we could. BTW, we spent exactly $147 to do it.
So we put it together on a wing and a prayer and although we did the best we could, I know that there are some who have fair criticisms of this or that. To them, I wish to apologize if we messed up anything in their eyes.
I just finished counting the money you gave at the rally – we are within a hundred bucks or so or raising $2000 for Richie and family. Every cent will go to them.
On a personal note, I have worked very hard to keep myself out of the story of the rally as I think it’s about you, not me.
I am making an exception commenting here because Homorazzi has been so generous throughout. Thank you for that and for being you.
To my neighbours and community – I am so proud to live amongst such kind folk and I can’t thank you all for caring enough to show up.
peace my friends
murr
Rich
April 8th, 2009 at 8:46 am
Thanks Murray. And a huge thank you from all of us for organizing the rally. It was a first for many of us and I know we will continue to be engaged.
Trish
April 8th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Thanks for your reply Donovan. I understand the definition of a blog. But I guess I was wondering what makes this blog different from any other? Perez seems to have the gay/celeb posts down pat….so why should we care what 30 marginally-attractive gay men from Vancouver have to say? Also, I just posted on a separate article, this one revolving around Kylie Minogue (big surprise!), and I asked why nearly EVERY article has to involve homosexuality. I have several gay friends, but they don’t solely define themselves as being gay, that’s not ALL they are.
For the authors here, it seems like the core to their identity is who they sleep with, their sexuality. To me, that’s rather one-dimensional. News is not news UNLESS it effects the LGBT community, people are not fascinating unless they a) are gay b) know any of you or c) love gay people.
I’m sorry, I know you’re just starting up, but these are questions and issues I have with the site. I just find it so…..gay?
Jason
April 8th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
SO LEAVE TRISH!
LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK!
Ugh, I think I hate you. Get a fucking life
Colby
April 8th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
No way! I hope Trish stays. The world needs more critical thinkers like her, and I think she’s a) asking valid questions, and b) providing useful feedback to the site. She’s not being mean, just honest; the Randy Jackson of judgment, if you will, rather than the Simon Cowell. Surely a website with the tagline “Where homos judge everything” can handle being judged itself.
I’m not saying I agree with all of her points, but I think she has a right to them and is making them fairly well, while still being fairly respectful.
Besides, the “marginally attractive” comment had me on the floor. OUCH!
Trish
April 8th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
Well, I expected my comments to ignite some personalities. I’m sorry Jason that you are so offended. However, I don’t feel I was mean or unfair. Not everything can be flowers and butterflies.
I feel the authors of the site have pretty tough skins, I don’t think they’re that easily offended and if they are, then perhaps they shouldn’t put their thoughts into the public sphere for debate and discourse.
I look forward to a response from one of the many authors, if they so wish. However, as I understand… most of them will likely be at Britney tonight (just as my brother and friends are). So perhaps I’ll be waiting for a response.
Anyway, thanks Colby…. the “marginally attractive” part was a bit bitchy, however slightly true….. oops.
Rich
April 8th, 2009 at 5:40 pm
Any comment is fair game. It’s a blog. That’s what people do. I’m not offended, I just don’t think her comments made much sense, especially on a post about a REAL issue affecting REAL people in our community. If Trish wants to trash talk the fluff, she can do it on the pages about fluff. There is plenty of it and I love it. But, I don’t get how she can criticize Homorazzi for not being about significant issues on a page that is talking about a significant issue.
To answer Trish’s questions about what makes me qualified to write about gay bashings… I was once gay bashed. Do I pass her litmus test?
It’s not just about being gay. It’s about our lives. I write to raise awareness about things I care about and I write to make people laugh. It’s actually pretty simple and hopefully I manage to entertain or inform a few people along the way… Trish being one of them.
Don’t leave Trish, just try to be more aware and find a more appropriate place to flame* than on a page that has been pretty emotional for a lot of people – not just the writers, but some of our readers.
*FYI – Flame is a verb commonly used in the blogosphere, defined by the Urban Dictionary as, “to insult a person you are arguing with over the internet in hopes of reviving your argument”.
Trish
April 8th, 2009 at 8:18 pm
Rich,
I just read your response and…. I have to say, I agree. I picked a very inappropriate place to make my comments and I apologize. I had read several articles in a row and finished off with this article. The above issue is a serious one and one that needs to be further addressed by the media and government.
Matt
April 8th, 2009 at 8:20 pm
I am all for people using blogs to share their opinions on what is written but complaining that the site “homo”-razzi.com is only about gays is like complaining that “selfoffvacations.com” is only about deals on vacations. Quit bitching for the sake of bitching Twat.
Rich
April 8th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Thanks for that. Now go trash some trash. ;)
Jason C-K
April 9th, 2009 at 7:24 am
Pssst… Rich – you know that Jason isn’t me, the awesome Victoria-Jason.
Just felt I needed to clear that one up. ;)
Vicodin.
July 11th, 2010 at 8:28 pm
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