‘Younger’ Star Dan Amboyer Comes Out As Gay & Reveals He’s Married

Like most gays, I like to think I have pretty good gaydar. However with this one, I had no inkling he played on our team. Dude never even made a blip on my gaydar while watching all those episodes of Younger he appeared in. He plays straight douchebag well 🙂

“Being a young actor in the industry, I had a lot of people who strongly advised me to stay quiet,” Amboyer tells PEOPLE. “That was hard to live with. But I’ve never played a gay role before and I didn’t want to be limited by some strange perception.”

Dan Amboyer has never talked about his sexuality in public. That all changed this weekend. The 31-year-old actor not only came out as gay to PEOPLE, but also revealed he got married recently in front of 115 family and friends in New York City. The lucky man in his life is financial planner Eric P. Berger. The two newlyweds met on a dating site ten years ago.

“It was a hard decision to figure out how to approach it in a public way,” says Amboyer. “There are some actors out there now who just keep it as an unspoken aspect of their life and never discuss it in public. But then there are men like Matt Bomer and Zachary Quinto. I look up to them and see how them being so open affected other people and the country’s perception of gay people. And Nico Tortorella, who is also on Younger, has inspired me by the way he’s become such an advocate for gender fluidity. I think the more open actors can be the less stigma there will be attached, which will be a positive thing moving forward.”

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“Our crazies match,” Berger explains. “I think Dan is very different from the roles he gets to play. He’s a sweet quirky guy who loves animals and is creative and brings a different color to everything in my life. I hold that very valuable.”

“He’s serious and organized. He’s a financial planner, which is the opposite of my actor self. But we compliment each other,” adds Amboyer.

To learn about the engagement and more wedding details, head over to PEOPLE.