Filed under: Saturday Submissions
Author: Reader Submissions
Date: Jun 7, 2009
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Remember when you were a little boy and you had those feelings – those “different” feelings? I remember all too well worrying about being different from other little boys and, often, being made fun of for it. As part of my degree I spent a fair amount of time in schools and I worry that for those kids who feel are like I did, things aren’t getting that much better. What I think could really help them is a role model who is older, like them and…famous.
The effect that popular culture has on kids these days is astounding – I’m 24 and it’s far more prevalent in schools now than it was even when I was in high school. I think it might be more prevalent for all of us these days – but especially for kids. There is a lot of media attention on gay issues and, upsettingly, not a great deal of it is positive. The out and proud celebrities that there are just aren’t kid friendly. While gay adults love Neil Patrick Harris and Lance Bass (oh, admit it – you TOTALLY do!), they’re just not relevant in pop culture – at least not for kids.
Enter Adam Lambert. American Idol is still very highly rated and it’s still the talk of the town in schools. I think kids like it because it gives them the chance to hope for their dreams to come true and it gives teachers a way to connect with their students and appear current without having to discuss sex or violence.
This season, myself and all the other gays that watched the show, were swooning over Adam Lambert. He’s tall, he’s pretty, he wears guyliner (and he’s proud of it) and I bet he’d be a great hugger! But there’s something that I like so much more about Adam Lambert – I think he could be the role model little gays need to help them bridge the gap between themselves and some of their less sensitive peers.
Adam Lambert is cool. He’s not only talented but he’s got a presence and kindness about him that transcends the TV screen. All of his idol competitors constantly praised him, as did the judges…and he’s different. Just like the little gays. He may not have won but I have a feeling he’s still going to be big – as is his gay profile.
Recently blogs all over the internet were buzzing with talk and pictures of Adam holding hands with a guy walking into a club. It’s also been pretty widely publicized that he’s going to “come out” (was he ever in?) on the cover of the next Rolling Stone. I can only imagine the confidence this might give a young child or teen who is feeling different – if Adam can do it and be cool and accepted then they might feel it’s okay for them to be too.
I watched a clip of Adam speaking at a press conference the other day and he said, “even if you’re really different there is a way to get along with each other…it’s about the common stuff…if there’s anything to take away from this it’s to bring [people] together.” If that is the attitude that this new celebrity has and speaks then I believe there is a chance that young people, gay and straight, will listen to this and possibly work towards doing it.
It’s my hope that in a few years I’ll be writing about how young kids who might once have felt different no longer do. If Adam Lambert becomes a phenomenon, appeals to mass amounts of people, and still wears makeup on TV and kisses men in public, then maybe there is hope that being gay will one day become widely accepted…and in turn little gays won’t have to worry about being different.
Submitted by: Allan Warnock
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Dan
June 7th, 2009 at 9:04 am
Great article. I also believe that acceptance from the family will go a long way for these children, even at a young age. It all starts with straight adults having tolerence for the gay community because these adults might just end up having a gay child!!
Marko
June 7th, 2009 at 11:42 am
Dan, I think you’re right. It’s obvious that Lambert’s own parents were entirely supportive of him. (It’s pretty heartwarming, too, seeing his mom hug his boyfriend in the audience.)
Still, it’s precisely in the absence of such support that role models such as Adam become important to kids.
Nic O.
June 7th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
30 some odd years ago, with Elton John and Freddy Mercury (among others) dominating pop culture and popular music, Adam Lambert could’ve just been another flash in the pan and his quiet politicism could’ve been lost. It’s horrible to see how many conservative steps backwards have been taken since then in a place where not only queer and glam rock has not much of a place, but where an artist like Adam has to “come out” despite his comfortable lifestyle choices. But it’s also so exciting to see how promising someone like Adam Lambert can be in a cause that’s now being so adamantly fought. Great article Allan.
Ldren
June 7th, 2009 at 2:09 pm
Great article–Adam is inspirational to so many and will reach those who have had no voice.
Amanda
June 7th, 2009 at 2:17 pm
Great article. I do believe Adam is a role model for everybody, he is himself no matter what and he doesn’t really care what people say – he is fearless! I love that about him as much as I love his music and style.
wtdp
June 7th, 2009 at 3:33 pm
Great article. I really believe Adam will change hearts and minds just by being himself. He is an irresistable force of talent and goodness.
Kelsey
June 7th, 2009 at 6:16 pm
This is a great article. I am a huge Adam fan and I love seeing posistive articles about his sexuality. It shouldn’t matter if he’s gay. Adam is an amazing person and that’s what really matters.
Glenda
June 7th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Even though Adam set out on Idol to become acknowledged as a singer; he has also become a true and proud role model for all who are different.
I would also like to send out kudos to Kris Allen, a true Christian, who with his heartwarming friendship with Adam, leads by example and shows Christians that they can open their hearts and minds and accept people who are different. Both of these young men deserve our full support!!
Ella
June 7th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Good article. And yes, Adam is a good role model for the kids. The only thing that bothers me is that it’s all going to be about the gay pride and all. If Adam “comes out”, he is probably going to be regarded as a poster boy for the cause. But he is so much more! And he could be a role model not only for the gays, but for all kids who feel that they are different, not necessarily by their sexuality but for ANY reason. All those nerds who don’t want to play football but rather dance or paint or write novels or whatever it is that their little town people don’t see as manly or if it’s a girl who doesn’t want to be a staying home mom and bake cookies, but rather be a physicist. I think Adam could be a role model for all those kids and even adults.
bea
June 8th, 2009 at 7:12 am
I hope the people who display hate for no reason will allow Adam’s goodness and kindness work for good.
I just want to be able to enjoy more of the musical talent that Adam is filled with.
Allan
June 8th, 2009 at 8:40 am
I agree with you Dan that familial accepatance would be a huge boost to any gay childs self esteem. I do not, however, think that everything starts with straight adults having tolerance for the gay community. There has been such a huge push from the gay community to gain acceptance and I think that is where a lot of acceptance/tolerance has started. I agree with Marko that in the absense of acceptance comes the necessity of role models like Adam – who, as the article states, I believe can help bridge the gap between straight and gay kids if he becomes “big” enough.
Nic – You know, I didn’t really think about it like that…but you’re toally right! What happened to that acceptance of the Elton Johns and the Freddy Mercurys? Many people who have issues with homosexuality and differences grew up with these entertainers. Did they just forget that? Really interesting point to consider…
Thanks for all the great comments! :)
Gay Guide Blog
June 8th, 2009 at 10:31 am
I love who he is.
Dyana
June 8th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
Great article. I hope Adam has the exact effect on society that this article talks about. :-)
lisak
June 8th, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Adam is a fabulous role model for anyone – gay or not. He is centered in who he is, he is generous, and best of all he lives his life with obvious joy! I was a totally obsessed Adam fan during the AI season because of his singing. Now I’m finding his talking even more compelling!