I was always encouraged to read the newspaper growing up. To this day, I am happy that it was instilled in me at an early age, as a recent article in the Vancouver Sun hit the nail on the head when it comes to great sex. Sex….almost everyone does it. Gay or Straight, male or female…..old people do it, animals do it, and sometimes I like to just “do it” with myself in the shower. We all WANT to have great sex. But that begs the question: How do you get it?

Well, a psychologist and sexologist named Peggy Kleinplatz conducted a study to find the answer to that very question. She’s identified the eight key components of an amazing sex life. Listen up . . .

#1.) Focus: If you’re distracted, you won’t be “in the moment” . . . and that’s going to throw off your enjoyment. So it’s not enough just to BE there. You have to focus, and be ‘present.’

#2.) Connection: According to Peggy’s report, quote, “the depth of the connection between partners is one of the most critical elements of the experience, regardless of duration of the relationship.”

#3.) Intimacy: If you and your partner share a deep mutual respect, genuine acceptance, and you genuinely care for and admire one another . . . your sex is bound to be better. And THAT’S what sexologists mean when they talk about ’sexual intimacy.’

#4.) Communication: How is your partner supposed to know what you like . . . or vice versa . . . unless you let them know?

#5.) Authenticity: Peggy refers to this as the ability to let your partner see you, quote, “emotionally naked”. So you have to pretty uninhibited, with no hang-ups.

#6.) Transcendence: According to Peggy, during great sex, quote, “There’s often a moment of aliveness beyond anything experienced before. The experience often really is exalted, and [test subjects] use language borrowed from religion to describe it.”

#7.) Exploration, Risk-taking, and Fun: A sense of adventure in your sex life is absolutely key.

#8.) Vulnerability: This means the ability to fully surrender yourself to your partner. And it can do wonders for your sex life.

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