Queen Latifah, once again, is the centre of speculation regarding her sexuality. Rumours are afloat (and the keyword here is rumours). Did the twittersphere jump the gun on her coming out announcement?
The issue of outing another gay man is an interesting topic because, like most issues, there are two sides to it. One issue, as Jake mentioned, is that it is understandable for people to be “out” in the LGBT community because it signifies or represents the individual’s comfort and “proudness” of who they are. Why would you want to hide your true self, especially when there is increasing support for LGBT members in mainstream culture these days? The other issue is that it is the person’s decision himself or herself. When this person is ready to say, “I’m gay”, then this person is ready to become an open and well-received member to the LGBT community. Until then, even if we personally know, we must respect his or her decision to remain “closeted” so-to-speak. I’m taking both sides because I’ve personally experienced such a situation.
I remember one specific incident in my fourth year of university where I “outed” someone I knew and shit hit the fan. He was a little bitch about it and I did apologize to him (through a Facebook message). Why I didn’t have that much sympathy for him was because when I started dating my first boyfriend in my second year of university, he was the one who told me that this specific person was gay. I had always suspected he was, but it was now semi-“confirmed”. My boyfriend even told me whom he was dating, and I knew this person (my friend’s boyfriend) was gay. They were linked together many times so light bulbs went off in my head more than plenty. However, the problem with that is (and I now understand), it was confirmed by a third party (my boyfriend at the time), not first hand.
What I got out of the situation: It isn’t my place (or yours) to out someone, regardless if a great majority people already know or suspect. Let that person out them selves when they are ready to. As Philip stated, “Gay men who out other gay men are shit disturbers”. I am totally a shit disturber, but over the years I have learned when and where it is “appropriate” to shit disturb. Lesson learned.
Have you every outed someone? Have you been the person outed? Do you think because “gay” is an extremely important popular culture and political concept today that it is important for everyone to be “out and proud”? Is showing support for the LGBT community grounds to speculate about someone’s sexuality?